It's still assault! I'm sorry, but I'm not going to lie you, or humor you on this shit, dude. I took so much verbal, and emotional abuse from my ex, and NEVER once hit him. I used to be in marital arts in my late teens so maybe I have more self control than other people, but I'm not interested in physically assaulting anyone unless it's out of self defense. The only reason I didn't defend myself when I was attacked is because the stupid person who attacked me grabbed me in a way that I couldn't retaliate. To be honest I'm actually thinking about taking some self defense courses when I get my money.
I hate to break it to you but unless she was coming at you with a weapon you would be completely out of line to put her hands on her, just because she said some mean things that hurt your feelings. People can say a lot of mean things that are extremely emotionally triggering, believe me I get it, but it's still not an excuse to get physical.
Rose, you are telling us how much you suffered and how you never hit him back. You are now unhappy and lonely. You tell us how you didn't use violence and the result isn't at all satisfactory. I don't understand why you insist on this peaceful method, when you're the living proof that it's not working. Violence works. I say again, violence works and solves your problems. Because of this peaceful trend, innocent people avoid it while abusers have been always using it.
Now you're just being a smartass. I think that I did the right thing by running to the camper, locking the door and calling the cops. There's no sense in trying to fight a person who is obviously that much bigger, and stronger than me. Anyway, I probably couldn't put up much of a fight without a weapon, and I'm not trying to go down for assault with a deadly weapon. I'm glad that I called the cops, had him arrested and got the fuck out of there! I had a cab company come with an minivan late at night/early in the morning, and drive me to a motel. No one in his family, nor any of the friends of his family knew where I was, and that's a good thing.
I have had my share of suffering, but I'm not really lonely at all, and I'm less unhappy than I was when I was with his sorry ass. If I have any regrets it would be that I regret rushing into a relationship with him after having only known him six months long distance. Long distance relationships are different from regular relationships. The fact that he came off as so perfect in the beginning could be a red flag. When he told me that all of his exes had cheated on him that is either a lie, or as much as I hate cheating it would be a clue that he's probably a jerk who drove them to cheat to try to get away from his crazy ass.
I talked with the arresting officer several times after the incident, and he's sure that my ex knows what he did was completely wrong. My God, my ex didn't even want the ring he bought me back, because he knows he's wrong, and that he fucked up
Dude, I don't know what crawled up your crazy ass, but I don't appreciate you mocking my muthafuckin struggle, biatch! You are just talking out your ass.
I just wanted to say that being peaceful is not always a solution. Obviously it your case it wasn't a solution. Yes, you were indeed physically weaker, so it wouldn't have helped you much, but the alternative still damaged you. I encourage violence when it's used to respond, and I don't believe in any peaceful shit that brought us all here on this forum to share our pain with others.
I didn't mock you and I don't know why you're so mean, because it was a purely informative reply, not intending to insult in any way, but maybe I deserve it so I'll just accept what you give me and that's that.
Yes, the damage was caused by him, and some of the damage could have been avoided when using force to stop it. You couldn't do it yourself, but others can, and you recommending them not to because it didn't work in your case isn't the best idea.
I do not agree. If people dont want to get their ass handed back to them they should not verbally abuse others.
I've got no problem if it becomes a police case. What would she have said. I didnt stab her or viciously beat her. She had no evidence on her side.
This isnt the United states sunshine. Police dont concern themselves with such petty matters here.
You mess with me and you pay the price just as i told you before.
Yeah you're not a victim, just abusive. Stop wallowing in self pity. It's pathetic.
And the police there aren't that incompetent. My cousin in law was arrested for "harassment" at work, which is pretty petty imo. I'm sure they'd do something about your gf if you talked to the right people. You just seem to want excuses to whine about life.
The only one making excuses is you feminist sjw types for your weaknesses. You play these silly little tricks because you know you cant tackle men head on. If you abuse us verbally we will come looking for you and hand you your ass.
Unless someone has stabbed you or shot you the police wont do anything in here.
Also you dumb cunt the girl in question wasnt my girlfriend.
I think you're just approaching this from a place of really strong emotions rather than a place of logic and reason. If someone is verbally and emotionally abusive to the point that you want to physically assault that person in any way shape or form that is big red flashing light that says you shouldn't be in a relationship with that person.
If someone is verbally abusive toward me I can use my wits, and come back at that person with a comment that will hurt more than if I knock that person down, or punch them. Honestly, if I take a good, hard look at myself I have to admit that if I even want to tear someone down with just words it's still a big, red flashing light that says I don't need to associate myself with that person much less be in a relationship with them.
As far as I'm concerned it really doesn't matter if she has evidence or not. If I do something wrong I have to accept the consequences of my action. You are lucky that she didn't call the cops on you, and honestly I think you should be grateful for that.
I hope you aren't still with this person, because obviously ya'll are completely wrong for each other. Just try to live your life well, and be the best person you can be. Character is about what you do when no one is watching, and integrity is about choosing to do what's right rather than what is convenient.
If someone gives you a hard time about taking antidepressants that is not a person you need to be close to at all. There are a lot of people who are very ignorant about mental illness, and the best thing you can do for yourself is to accept that the person is whatever they are, and you cannot change that person. If you think you can change, or enlighten a person who is an ignorant ass about mental illness, or any other issue that is important to you then you are opening the door to a whole lot of codependent bullshit that you don't need in your life.
I think you were completely wrong to get physical with her, but I still think the comments you made about her not knowing who the father of her child is are still pretty funny. You might not like everything I say to you, but at least know I ain't gonna lie to you just to make you happy.
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It's still assault! I'm sorry, but I'm not going to lie you, or humor you on this shit, dude. I took so much verbal, and emotional abuse from my ex, and NEVER once hit him. I used to be in marital arts in my late teens so maybe I have more self control than other people, but I'm not interested in physically assaulting anyone unless it's out of self defense. The only reason I didn't defend myself when I was attacked is because the stupid person who attacked me grabbed me in a way that I couldn't retaliate. To be honest I'm actually thinking about taking some self defense courses when I get my money.
I hate to break it to you but unless she was coming at you with a weapon you would be completely out of line to put her hands on her, just because she said some mean things that hurt your feelings. People can say a lot of mean things that are extremely emotionally triggering, believe me I get it, but it's still not an excuse to get physical.
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Rose, you are telling us how much you suffered and how you never hit him back. You are now unhappy and lonely. You tell us how you didn't use violence and the result isn't at all satisfactory. I don't understand why you insist on this peaceful method, when you're the living proof that it's not working. Violence works. I say again, violence works and solves your problems. Because of this peaceful trend, innocent people avoid it while abusers have been always using it.
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Now you're just being a smartass. I think that I did the right thing by running to the camper, locking the door and calling the cops. There's no sense in trying to fight a person who is obviously that much bigger, and stronger than me. Anyway, I probably couldn't put up much of a fight without a weapon, and I'm not trying to go down for assault with a deadly weapon. I'm glad that I called the cops, had him arrested and got the fuck out of there! I had a cab company come with an minivan late at night/early in the morning, and drive me to a motel. No one in his family, nor any of the friends of his family knew where I was, and that's a good thing.
I have had my share of suffering, but I'm not really lonely at all, and I'm less unhappy than I was when I was with his sorry ass. If I have any regrets it would be that I regret rushing into a relationship with him after having only known him six months long distance. Long distance relationships are different from regular relationships. The fact that he came off as so perfect in the beginning could be a red flag. When he told me that all of his exes had cheated on him that is either a lie, or as much as I hate cheating it would be a clue that he's probably a jerk who drove them to cheat to try to get away from his crazy ass.
I talked with the arresting officer several times after the incident, and he's sure that my ex knows what he did was completely wrong. My God, my ex didn't even want the ring he bought me back, because he knows he's wrong, and that he fucked up
Dude, I don't know what crawled up your crazy ass, but I don't appreciate you mocking my muthafuckin struggle, biatch! You are just talking out your ass.
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I just wanted to say that being peaceful is not always a solution. Obviously it your case it wasn't a solution. Yes, you were indeed physically weaker, so it wouldn't have helped you much, but the alternative still damaged you. I encourage violence when it's used to respond, and I don't believe in any peaceful shit that brought us all here on this forum to share our pain with others.
I didn't mock you and I don't know why you're so mean, because it was a purely informative reply, not intending to insult in any way, but maybe I deserve it so I'll just accept what you give me and that's that.
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What was the alternative, and how did it damage me? I think the thing that damaged me most was in a relationship with him in the first place.
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Yes, the damage was caused by him, and some of the damage could have been avoided when using force to stop it. You couldn't do it yourself, but others can, and you recommending them not to because it didn't work in your case isn't the best idea.
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I think the best thing I could have done would have been to leave him as soon as he started becoming verbally abusive.
I do not agree. If people dont want to get their ass handed back to them they should not verbally abuse others.
I've got no problem if it becomes a police case. What would she have said. I didnt stab her or viciously beat her. She had no evidence on her side.
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You don't sound like a victim from what you've written here. Just vindictive and petty.
If she's that awful have a restraining order put on her.
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This isnt the United states sunshine. Police dont concern themselves with such petty matters here.
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Yeah you're not a victim, just abusive. Stop wallowing in self pity. It's pathetic.
And the police there aren't that incompetent. My cousin in law was arrested for "harassment" at work, which is pretty petty imo. I'm sure they'd do something about your gf if you talked to the right people. You just seem to want excuses to whine about life.
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The only one making excuses is you feminist sjw types for your weaknesses. You play these silly little tricks because you know you cant tackle men head on. If you abuse us verbally we will come looking for you and hand you your ass.
Unless someone has stabbed you or shot you the police wont do anything in here.
Also you dumb cunt the girl in question wasnt my girlfriend.
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Lol anyone who points out your hypocrisy is a feminist.
Keep on whining narc
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Well, at least you have the internet.
Are you in therapy now, because it really helps. Therapy and medication should ideally go hand in hand.
I think you're just approaching this from a place of really strong emotions rather than a place of logic and reason. If someone is verbally and emotionally abusive to the point that you want to physically assault that person in any way shape or form that is big red flashing light that says you shouldn't be in a relationship with that person.
If someone is verbally abusive toward me I can use my wits, and come back at that person with a comment that will hurt more than if I knock that person down, or punch them. Honestly, if I take a good, hard look at myself I have to admit that if I even want to tear someone down with just words it's still a big, red flashing light that says I don't need to associate myself with that person much less be in a relationship with them.
As far as I'm concerned it really doesn't matter if she has evidence or not. If I do something wrong I have to accept the consequences of my action. You are lucky that she didn't call the cops on you, and honestly I think you should be grateful for that.
I hope you aren't still with this person, because obviously ya'll are completely wrong for each other. Just try to live your life well, and be the best person you can be. Character is about what you do when no one is watching, and integrity is about choosing to do what's right rather than what is convenient.
If someone gives you a hard time about taking antidepressants that is not a person you need to be close to at all. There are a lot of people who are very ignorant about mental illness, and the best thing you can do for yourself is to accept that the person is whatever they are, and you cannot change that person. If you think you can change, or enlighten a person who is an ignorant ass about mental illness, or any other issue that is important to you then you are opening the door to a whole lot of codependent bullshit that you don't need in your life.
I think you were completely wrong to get physical with her, but I still think the comments you made about her not knowing who the father of her child is are still pretty funny. You might not like everything I say to you, but at least know I ain't gonna lie to you just to make you happy.