It's a funny thing, but despite the fact that sometimes haters will think I'm some femi-nazi based off of some random rant I still think it's hilarious when some chick doesn't know who's her baby daddy. I think I will get some hate for that comment, but oh well.
I think when people take cheap shots at those if us who have to live with depression, and anxiety they are kinda asking it. It's not like mentally ill people choose to be as they are, and the number of ignorant-ass armchair psychologists who want to tell us it's all in our heads or minimize our never seems to shrink.
A chick who doesn't know who the father of her baby is on the other had has no one else to blame for her position. I'm not trying to hate on her, because she's probably a sex addict, and most likely has some sort of undiagnosed mental illness of her own. However, it's not like she's a helpless little woodland creature, it's her best thinking that got her in that position.
You bring up some excellent points, when I first responded I didn't know he was shoving her. I changed my tone when he said it was okay to shove her, which it isn't. He said later on that they're siblings which doesn't make any of it okay, but probably means they do this to each other all the time. He erased the comment where he said she's his sister. I don't know why though.
I initially thought they were in the U.S., because stories like this are all over talk shows like Maury Povich where the girl doesn't know who the father is so if she can narrow it down to a few they will do a DNA test. Rape is horrible, and disgusting, but we don't know if rape is part of this story, cause he never mentioned it. Then again, rape is quite common in India. I certainly hope that's not the case here.
Yeah, I saw you changed your attitude to him later. From what I've seen of that user, he's a misogynistic piece of shit all round. Some of that is probably down to culture, for sure, but most of it is down to the individual.
I still think my point stands about a woman who doesn't know who the father of her child is, though. It's not fair to automatically label her a whore. We certainly don't know if that's the story here, I just meant generally. I mean, it's probably not the case in the majority, but fuck...it definitely happens.
I rather suspect that a good part of the attitude could be cultural unfortunately. I asked him if he was getting any talk therapy to compliment the antidepressants he's already taken, but he told me it's extremely expensive in India, but I imagine there surely must be some more reasonable alternatives, or places where therapy might be offered on a sliding scale, of course I could very well be wrong. Some of the best help I've ever gotten has been from therapists who charge on a sliding scale that I was referred to by Catholic priests. Of course I think that in India many people have a different attitude towards poorer people than the attitudes of people in predominantly Judeo-Christian, or Abrahamic countries, but I digress.
I rather suspect that since he said at one point that this physical altercation, and name calling was between he, and his his sister that it is probably a constant back, and forth. He probably makes comments about her sex life, and she probably talks about his mental health. This is all just speculation on my part of course, but that what I suspect.
I really don't think Indian healthcare works like that. We're talking about a country with extreme poverty levels. Mental health is marginalised even in first world countries, I'd easily believe it's not going to be so readily accessible in India.
Maybe it was only two or maybe three or maybe many more partners. Maybe she got pregnant during a period where she was not well, where she was feeling down and tried to compensate with sex. Or maybe she just likes sex. I like sex too, a lot to be honest. We don't know. What I mean is that there is not sufficient material here to enable us to draw conclusions.
It was a very heated verbal battle which became physical in the end. She threatened to call the cops on me and i retaliated by throwing her to the ground. After that other people intervened and broke up the fight.
Did you hit her? If you hit her then she would have had every right to call the police. I called the cops on my ex, because when I attempted to walk away from his screaming, and yelling he came after me. He grabbed me my by the back strap of my sports bra, and dragged me down the street, up the driveway, and front yard back to the house. As soon as he let go, I ran with my cellphone locked myself in a vehicle, and called the cops. He was arrested, and now he has a criminal record thanks to his own stupidity of putting his hands on me. I don't regret any of this shit the least little bit! No one has the right to put his, or her hands on me... no one!
Shoved her to the ground nothing more. She has been messing with me for a long time now. This whole fight started because she taunted me first. I was minding my own business.
It's still assault! I'm sorry, but I'm not going to lie you, or humor you on this shit, dude. I took so much verbal, and emotional abuse from my ex, and NEVER once hit him. I used to be in marital arts in my late teens so maybe I have more self control than other people, but I'm not interested in physically assaulting anyone unless it's out of self defense. The only reason I didn't defend myself when I was attacked is because the stupid person who attacked me grabbed me in a way that I couldn't retaliate. To be honest I'm actually thinking about taking some self defense courses when I get my money.
I hate to break it to you but unless she was coming at you with a weapon you would be completely out of line to put her hands on her, just because she said some mean things that hurt your feelings. People can say a lot of mean things that are extremely emotionally triggering, believe me I get it, but it's still not an excuse to get physical.
Rose, you are telling us how much you suffered and how you never hit him back. You are now unhappy and lonely. You tell us how you didn't use violence and the result isn't at all satisfactory. I don't understand why you insist on this peaceful method, when you're the living proof that it's not working. Violence works. I say again, violence works and solves your problems. Because of this peaceful trend, innocent people avoid it while abusers have been always using it.
Now you're just being a smartass. I think that I did the right thing by running to the camper, locking the door and calling the cops. There's no sense in trying to fight a person who is obviously that much bigger, and stronger than me. Anyway, I probably couldn't put up much of a fight without a weapon, and I'm not trying to go down for assault with a deadly weapon. I'm glad that I called the cops, had him arrested and got the fuck out of there! I had a cab company come with an minivan late at night/early in the morning, and drive me to a motel. No one in his family, nor any of the friends of his family knew where I was, and that's a good thing.
I have had my share of suffering, but I'm not really lonely at all, and I'm less unhappy than I was when I was with his sorry ass. If I have any regrets it would be that I regret rushing into a relationship with him after having only known him six months long distance. Long distance relationships are different from regular relationships. The fact that he came off as so perfect in the beginning could be a red flag. When he told me that all of his exes had cheated on him that is either a lie, or as much as I hate cheating it would be a clue that he's probably a jerk who drove them to cheat to try to get away from his crazy ass.
I talked with the arresting officer several times after the incident, and he's sure that my ex knows what he did was completely wrong. My God, my ex didn't even want the ring he bought me back, because he knows he's wrong, and that he fucked up
Dude, I don't know what crawled up your crazy ass, but I don't appreciate you mocking my muthafuckin struggle, biatch! You are just talking out your ass.
I do not agree. If people dont want to get their ass handed back to them they should not verbally abuse others.
I've got no problem if it becomes a police case. What would she have said. I didnt stab her or viciously beat her. She had no evidence on her side.
I think you're just approaching this from a place of really strong emotions rather than a place of logic and reason. If someone is verbally and emotionally abusive to the point that you want to physically assault that person in any way shape or form that is big red flashing light that says you shouldn't be in a relationship with that person.
If someone is verbally abusive toward me I can use my wits, and come back at that person with a comment that will hurt more than if I knock that person down, or punch them. Honestly, if I take a good, hard look at myself I have to admit that if I even want to tear someone down with just words it's still a big, red flashing light that says I don't need to associate myself with that person much less be in a relationship with them.
As far as I'm concerned it really doesn't matter if she has evidence or not. If I do something wrong I have to accept the consequences of my action. You are lucky that she didn't call the cops on you, and honestly I think you should be grateful for that.
I hope you aren't still with this person, because obviously ya'll are completely wrong for each other. Just try to live your life well, and be the best person you can be. Character is about what you do when no one is watching, and integrity is about choosing to do what's right rather than what is convenient.
If someone gives you a hard time about taking antidepressants that is not a person you need to be close to at all. There are a lot of people who are very ignorant about mental illness, and the best thing you can do for yourself is to accept that the person is whatever they are, and you cannot change that person. If you think you can change, or enlighten a person who is an ignorant ass about mental illness, or any other issue that is important to you then you are opening the door to a whole lot of codependent bullshit that you don't need in your life.
I think you were completely wrong to get physical with her, but I still think the comments you made about her not knowing who the father of her child is are still pretty funny. You might not like everything I say to you, but at least know I ain't gonna lie to you just to make you happy.
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It's a funny thing, but despite the fact that sometimes haters will think I'm some femi-nazi based off of some random rant I still think it's hilarious when some chick doesn't know who's her baby daddy. I think I will get some hate for that comment, but oh well.
I think when people take cheap shots at those if us who have to live with depression, and anxiety they are kinda asking it. It's not like mentally ill people choose to be as they are, and the number of ignorant-ass armchair psychologists who want to tell us it's all in our heads or minimize our never seems to shrink.
A chick who doesn't know who the father of her baby is on the other had has no one else to blame for her position. I'm not trying to hate on her, because she's probably a sex addict, and most likely has some sort of undiagnosed mental illness of her own. However, it's not like she's a helpless little woodland creature, it's her best thinking that got her in that position.
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"A chick who doesn't know who the father of her baby is on the other had has no one else to blame for her position."
Cos rape isn't a thing...
Not to mention, there's no given that this insult was based on anything but anger...
Yes, she shouldn't have said what she said to him. That doesn't make what he said ok, either. It makes both of them shitty people.
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You bring up some excellent points, when I first responded I didn't know he was shoving her. I changed my tone when he said it was okay to shove her, which it isn't. He said later on that they're siblings which doesn't make any of it okay, but probably means they do this to each other all the time. He erased the comment where he said she's his sister. I don't know why though.
I initially thought they were in the U.S., because stories like this are all over talk shows like Maury Povich where the girl doesn't know who the father is so if she can narrow it down to a few they will do a DNA test. Rape is horrible, and disgusting, but we don't know if rape is part of this story, cause he never mentioned it. Then again, rape is quite common in India. I certainly hope that's not the case here.
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Yeah, I saw you changed your attitude to him later. From what I've seen of that user, he's a misogynistic piece of shit all round. Some of that is probably down to culture, for sure, but most of it is down to the individual.
I still think my point stands about a woman who doesn't know who the father of her child is, though. It's not fair to automatically label her a whore. We certainly don't know if that's the story here, I just meant generally. I mean, it's probably not the case in the majority, but fuck...it definitely happens.
Maury is seedy and gross.
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I rather suspect that a good part of the attitude could be cultural unfortunately. I asked him if he was getting any talk therapy to compliment the antidepressants he's already taken, but he told me it's extremely expensive in India, but I imagine there surely must be some more reasonable alternatives, or places where therapy might be offered on a sliding scale, of course I could very well be wrong. Some of the best help I've ever gotten has been from therapists who charge on a sliding scale that I was referred to by Catholic priests. Of course I think that in India many people have a different attitude towards poorer people than the attitudes of people in predominantly Judeo-Christian, or Abrahamic countries, but I digress.
I rather suspect that since he said at one point that this physical altercation, and name calling was between he, and his his sister that it is probably a constant back, and forth. He probably makes comments about her sex life, and she probably talks about his mental health. This is all just speculation on my part of course, but that what I suspect.
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I really don't think Indian healthcare works like that. We're talking about a country with extreme poverty levels. Mental health is marginalised even in first world countries, I'd easily believe it's not going to be so readily accessible in India.
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That's really sad.
Wow! So because she doesn't know who is her father's baby she's probably a sex addict?
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She might be. It's not normal to have so many partners that you don't know who is the baby daddy.
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Maybe it was only two or maybe three or maybe many more partners. Maybe she got pregnant during a period where she was not well, where she was feeling down and tried to compensate with sex. Or maybe she just likes sex. I like sex too, a lot to be honest. We don't know. What I mean is that there is not sufficient material here to enable us to draw conclusions.
It was a very heated verbal battle which became physical in the end. She threatened to call the cops on me and i retaliated by throwing her to the ground. After that other people intervened and broke up the fight.
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Did you hit her? If you hit her then she would have had every right to call the police. I called the cops on my ex, because when I attempted to walk away from his screaming, and yelling he came after me. He grabbed me my by the back strap of my sports bra, and dragged me down the street, up the driveway, and front yard back to the house. As soon as he let go, I ran with my cellphone locked myself in a vehicle, and called the cops. He was arrested, and now he has a criminal record thanks to his own stupidity of putting his hands on me. I don't regret any of this shit the least little bit! No one has the right to put his, or her hands on me... no one!
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Shoved her to the ground nothing more. She has been messing with me for a long time now. This whole fight started because she taunted me first. I was minding my own business.
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It's still assault! I'm sorry, but I'm not going to lie you, or humor you on this shit, dude. I took so much verbal, and emotional abuse from my ex, and NEVER once hit him. I used to be in marital arts in my late teens so maybe I have more self control than other people, but I'm not interested in physically assaulting anyone unless it's out of self defense. The only reason I didn't defend myself when I was attacked is because the stupid person who attacked me grabbed me in a way that I couldn't retaliate. To be honest I'm actually thinking about taking some self defense courses when I get my money.
I hate to break it to you but unless she was coming at you with a weapon you would be completely out of line to put her hands on her, just because she said some mean things that hurt your feelings. People can say a lot of mean things that are extremely emotionally triggering, believe me I get it, but it's still not an excuse to get physical.
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Rose, you are telling us how much you suffered and how you never hit him back. You are now unhappy and lonely. You tell us how you didn't use violence and the result isn't at all satisfactory. I don't understand why you insist on this peaceful method, when you're the living proof that it's not working. Violence works. I say again, violence works and solves your problems. Because of this peaceful trend, innocent people avoid it while abusers have been always using it.
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Now you're just being a smartass. I think that I did the right thing by running to the camper, locking the door and calling the cops. There's no sense in trying to fight a person who is obviously that much bigger, and stronger than me. Anyway, I probably couldn't put up much of a fight without a weapon, and I'm not trying to go down for assault with a deadly weapon. I'm glad that I called the cops, had him arrested and got the fuck out of there! I had a cab company come with an minivan late at night/early in the morning, and drive me to a motel. No one in his family, nor any of the friends of his family knew where I was, and that's a good thing.
I have had my share of suffering, but I'm not really lonely at all, and I'm less unhappy than I was when I was with his sorry ass. If I have any regrets it would be that I regret rushing into a relationship with him after having only known him six months long distance. Long distance relationships are different from regular relationships. The fact that he came off as so perfect in the beginning could be a red flag. When he told me that all of his exes had cheated on him that is either a lie, or as much as I hate cheating it would be a clue that he's probably a jerk who drove them to cheat to try to get away from his crazy ass.
I talked with the arresting officer several times after the incident, and he's sure that my ex knows what he did was completely wrong. My God, my ex didn't even want the ring he bought me back, because he knows he's wrong, and that he fucked up
Dude, I don't know what crawled up your crazy ass, but I don't appreciate you mocking my muthafuckin struggle, biatch! You are just talking out your ass.
I do not agree. If people dont want to get their ass handed back to them they should not verbally abuse others.
I've got no problem if it becomes a police case. What would she have said. I didnt stab her or viciously beat her. She had no evidence on her side.
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You don't sound like a victim from what you've written here. Just vindictive and petty.
If she's that awful have a restraining order put on her.
I think you're just approaching this from a place of really strong emotions rather than a place of logic and reason. If someone is verbally and emotionally abusive to the point that you want to physically assault that person in any way shape or form that is big red flashing light that says you shouldn't be in a relationship with that person.
If someone is verbally abusive toward me I can use my wits, and come back at that person with a comment that will hurt more than if I knock that person down, or punch them. Honestly, if I take a good, hard look at myself I have to admit that if I even want to tear someone down with just words it's still a big, red flashing light that says I don't need to associate myself with that person much less be in a relationship with them.
As far as I'm concerned it really doesn't matter if she has evidence or not. If I do something wrong I have to accept the consequences of my action. You are lucky that she didn't call the cops on you, and honestly I think you should be grateful for that.
I hope you aren't still with this person, because obviously ya'll are completely wrong for each other. Just try to live your life well, and be the best person you can be. Character is about what you do when no one is watching, and integrity is about choosing to do what's right rather than what is convenient.
If someone gives you a hard time about taking antidepressants that is not a person you need to be close to at all. There are a lot of people who are very ignorant about mental illness, and the best thing you can do for yourself is to accept that the person is whatever they are, and you cannot change that person. If you think you can change, or enlighten a person who is an ignorant ass about mental illness, or any other issue that is important to you then you are opening the door to a whole lot of codependent bullshit that you don't need in your life.
I think you were completely wrong to get physical with her, but I still think the comments you made about her not knowing who the father of her child is are still pretty funny. You might not like everything I say to you, but at least know I ain't gonna lie to you just to make you happy.