Is it normal bdsm triggers me?

I have sexual trauma and the whole Dom/sub relationship dynamic is extremely triggering to me.

Edit: guess I should have added that I just started seeing someone that's a Dom. I am in therapy 💜 I appreciate the support! 😊

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  • actually it's easier said than done to avoid it. For all the smart-asses saying just avoid it then or don't look at it then. Because I constantly see people talking about it in unexpected places or randomly while minding my own business. It's not like I actively search for it. And everytime it's mentioned it puts me in a disgusted mood. Same with some other topics. And yes I agree with OP, it's disturbing

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    • I appreciate that TinyBird <3

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  • Okay, so avoid it

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  • It’s normal in the context of trauma, yes. Not normal otherwise

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  • Its not difficult to avoid.
    If you are looking for porn, its usually obvious within seconds what particular genre of porn it is, you can make a decision and turn it off or look for something else... There are exceptions of course.... including a video i was watching with an ex, a few years ago, a beautiful girl and a healthy looking guy were having great sex, she lay him down and started sucking his dick, licking and rimming him, insering a finger too.... All whilst being watched by another gorgeous girl with perfect boobs.
    My ex was copying what was happening on screen and i relaxed, lay my head back to enjoy what she was doing, things suddenly got a little more intense, and what was a gentle finger in my butt, became 2 slightly angry fingers ramming in.. My dick started reacting and i jolted my head up to see wtf she was up to... On the screen, that gorgeous blonde had appeared from around the corner with a strap on, which was now being firmly planted in the guy, my ex had my dick halfway down her throat and things concluded pretty quickly as she started making those gagging noises but refused to release haha

    She said she stopped watching as soon as the strap on went in and wanted to finish me off before I realised what i had on my tv.. She then sat there laughing her arse off because she had made me cum while a guy was getting fucked.

    She was a freak, i miss her sense of humour and yeah, that gagging thing too haha

    Anyways i digress, if you have trauma, most of us here would urge you to seek counselling if at all possible and i would probably recommend that you perhaps avoid porn altogether until such a time that you are comfortable with whatever happens to be on screen.

    I certainly read the descriptions now haha

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  • It's not exactly hard to avoid dude

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  • When you say that BDSM triggers you my first thought is why are you watching BDSM porn? Also you should not be involved in BDSM activities in your private life either. What you probably need most is to see a therapist to help you deal with your PTSD, and to help you define, understand what healthy sexuality is.

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  • Dont watch it then.

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