Is it normal afraid to let my boyfriend touch me?

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well when my boyfriend tries to touch me or even kiss me I get reminded of when my stepfather would be drunk on nights and do those things to me, my mom was a nurse and she wouldnt be home alot of the time, now I love my boyfriend but I get nervous when he tries to get close to me, I cant explain it to him because I'm scared he might leave me or think Im weird, what do I do

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  • Zeus_
    7 years ago | pl

    You tell your boyfriend you have problems to be worked out, by professionals, and release your bf from his commitment to you.

    This is wasting his time, and not getting you any better.

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  • Shanana69
    7 years ago | pl

    It might get worse he might think you don't want him to kiss you you should explain why to him. But still I'm one man and this is only 1 mans belief

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  • mysistersshadow
    7 years ago | pl

    You probly won't be able to have a normal relationship until you get some help with this. If your bf is really there for you he will be understanding.

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  • Jo_
    7 years ago | pl

    It's completely normal, but I do think you should tell your boyfriend. It might be hard but it will be very relieving to get it off your chest. And also, what is a relationship where you don't feel like you can tell eachother everything?

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago | pl

    You need to see a therapist! You're an incest survivor. I'm sorry this happened to you, and it wasn't your fault. Was your step-father abusing drugs and or alcohol too?

    https://rainn.org/
    http://www.adultchildren.org/

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      7 years ago | pl

      yea I said he was drunk when he did this mostly but hes not related to me so it's not incest even tho it's still wrong what he did, idk I didnt like it at first but then I sometimes started to enjoying it bcuz he was shown me his true feelings and love, and that made me feel good. maybe I'm even alittle scared that it wont or cant be the same with my boyfriend

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      • 12eahtsdrateri
        7 years ago | pl

        i think you need to get help like roseisabella typed.

        i think you feel fear when ever a man touches then you might need some help it is not healthy to be a relationship like that.

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      • RoseIsabella
        7 years ago | pl

        Well, you owe it to yourself, your significant other and any future children you might have to get help. Even if you did physically enjoy it at some point it was still wrong of him, and you were not to blame.

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