Iin.... that i don't want to have my first kiss till my wedding day ??

You're setting yourself up for disappointment.

When you kiss your husband at the altar, it will be wet and stubbly.

When you have sex on your honeymoon, he will be small, crooked, and possibly limp.

If he's not limp, he'll probably blow his load after about two minutes if he's a virgin, too.

He might not look you in the eye.

It will hurt, and you will bleed.

If you've ever watched the Discovery Channel, it's basically just like that.

not gonna lie... it's not normal at all

Marriage is a partnership. You have to agree on everything. If you're so emotionally under-developed, I don't see how you go from Step 1 to Step 1,400 on the same day. But good luck.

I always say it's best to test drive a car before you buy it.

I think you have your head in the clouds on this one. I feel bad for you that you've been lied to about what makes a great relationship or marriage.

No not normal. If I was a pastors kid I would be the biggest bad ass ever! Rebellion!

How on Earth are you going to woo a man into marrying you if you won't even give him a kiss. Men aren't saints my dear. They want the pussy...and if they can't have it...they want a little something something.

And by the way, you'll never find someone close to perfect, as you so aptly put it..

It is very difficult to be part of an intimate relationship without sex, and impossible without kissing. None of those things jeopardise an emotional connection, if anything they make an emotional connection stronger. You are unlikely to ever get married if you refuse to kiss until your wedding day.

Completely agree. ><>

I think you are the latter three -- namely, a sheltered young woman living a fantasy.

Love,let me start by saying I lost my v card right out of 8th grade. We werent married. But to this day I dont regret it because I love him with all my heart.
My point is its not about marriage,Its about love. If you love the man enough to be bound to him forever youll likely want to kiss him sooner.
But its all your choice and in a way thats a goal y'know?
Youre not alone...my best friend has the same planm
So it may be a bit odd,seeig as how few peope have that pan nowday. But theres absolutely nothing wrong with it.
I wish you luck.

I agree with you. That's how I plan on going about my life.

I think that's cute! :) good luck !

stupid fairytale ¬_¬

With emotional connection comes the want and need for being physical. Sex is one thing, but kissing it harmless. I think it brings people closer together and not just physically. It shows trust and connection. I think in time you'll change your mind about the kissing.

Let's look at it this way you will have you first kiss makout sex and get married in a day hevon for a guy

Well, I'm an assistant pastor's kid--let's just start out w/ that disclaimer. But anyway, while it's not *common* to feel the way you feel, there is absolutely nothing wrong w/ it! I know three guys in a band (who are incredibly attractive btw to both Christian girls AND non-Christian girls, so don't judge, people) who didn't date until after they graduated, and aren't planning on kissing 'til the alter or having sex 'til their wedding night. They want to be able to give all of themselves to their life-long partner. Personally, I really respect that & I think it's super sweet. However, I plan on kissing a guy as long as we're in love and it feels right. It's totally up to the individual in that respect! But don't feel like you're weird--you're just unique because most people either have no restraint or they don't value physical relationships at all.

Where do you live?

you might change your mind the closer you get.

I think you're living in your fantasy. Few men wait for marriage to have sex, let alone kissing. It'll be hard to fall in love and not kiss. There's nothing wrong with kissing (yea it scares me half to death, but there is nothing wrong with it). I understand that you want it to be his first as well, but people make many mistakes with their first few relationships and experiences. I think you should at least kiss him, but nothing more. dazedandconfused85 is right. Men are not saints. They need something. I get the same beliefs thing, but you can't let him get bored. Good luck.

You are defiantly a pastor's kid

wouldn't that be a little awkward

that probably wont happen, most guys wont want to stay with you long enough to marry you if you wont even kiss him. theres nothing wrong with sex or kissing or anything like that

you are hiding your sex life. i KNOW you have urges, don't even try to play it off that you don't. and i really don't believe that there is even one guy in the california area that would be willing to go such a long time without even a kiss. emotionally connecting is only one part of a strong, healthy relationship. the other part is connecting physically. god made us to reproduce. thats the bottom line. i'm not saying by any means to have sex before you're married, but knowing that you can connect both emotionally and physically with a person is a step towards a happy, healthy relationship. and if you don;t even kiss, i think you will both get extremely frustrated with each other. how old are you btw?

one a second note, i like how you feel so strongly about your beliefs.

IMO, you gotta try the shoes on to make sure they fit.
But, kissing is harmless. If you still want to go that route you have made for yourself, give it go!