Money is not the main issue here, i dont make much but its a decent start with opportunity to go up. Its not a question of her career, we were planning to have a family with many children, not gonna be easy but doable. If she was with a child when i met her it wouldn't be an issue. Its the fact how this happened that is the real issue, this child is innocent yet it will always remind me of the father and what he done, i could never love this child and treat it like my own kids, and if this child is born it deserved better, its not guilty of what his father done, and should be brought up by somebody who can accept it. I love this woman more than anything in the world and i do want to stay with her, but if the child is born, it shouldn't suffer. She says now she is willing to give it up for adoption to some wealthy family, but she got too much of mother's instincts and i know her well enough to know that when she give birth she will change her mind, she is pro-choice and yet she refuse to get an abortion even though she was raped and its an extremely early stage, not even a week yet but the home pregnancy test showed positive. Forget the financial part here, suppose you were wealthy and in this situation, what would you do?
This is a hard one. I was gonna suggest adoption as you said but it's true, seeing her child would definitely change her mind in a second. I think the question is not whether she'll have the baby or not, since that's completely up to her in the end. The main question is whether you love her enough to accept her with her "rape child" or if you're gonna leave her. I personally think it's insane to have (or keep) a baby from someone who raped you. It would drive me crazy. If I was you I'd leave her no matter how much it would hurt. The situation is too damn complicated. That's my advice but whatever you choose best of luck.
Most people have children in their 20s so you will not be frowned upon for keeping it. Depending on how long ago if she doesn't want it might be able to use the morning after pill. If she wants the kid do not nag her to get rid of it just to make yourself happy. If you can not keep the child you could give it up for adoption. Also you should not blame the child for your girlfriend being raped. It is not the child s fault for being born. I think if your girlfriend wants the baby and you have money you should try to make it work. So I would say just buck up and deal with it. It is wrong to blame someone for being born.
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Money is not the main issue here, i dont make much but its a decent start with opportunity to go up. Its not a question of her career, we were planning to have a family with many children, not gonna be easy but doable. If she was with a child when i met her it wouldn't be an issue. Its the fact how this happened that is the real issue, this child is innocent yet it will always remind me of the father and what he done, i could never love this child and treat it like my own kids, and if this child is born it deserved better, its not guilty of what his father done, and should be brought up by somebody who can accept it. I love this woman more than anything in the world and i do want to stay with her, but if the child is born, it shouldn't suffer. She says now she is willing to give it up for adoption to some wealthy family, but she got too much of mother's instincts and i know her well enough to know that when she give birth she will change her mind, she is pro-choice and yet she refuse to get an abortion even though she was raped and its an extremely early stage, not even a week yet but the home pregnancy test showed positive. Forget the financial part here, suppose you were wealthy and in this situation, what would you do?
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This is a hard one. I was gonna suggest adoption as you said but it's true, seeing her child would definitely change her mind in a second. I think the question is not whether she'll have the baby or not, since that's completely up to her in the end. The main question is whether you love her enough to accept her with her "rape child" or if you're gonna leave her. I personally think it's insane to have (or keep) a baby from someone who raped you. It would drive me crazy. If I was you I'd leave her no matter how much it would hurt. The situation is too damn complicated. That's my advice but whatever you choose best of luck.
Most people have children in their 20s so you will not be frowned upon for keeping it. Depending on how long ago if she doesn't want it might be able to use the morning after pill. If she wants the kid do not nag her to get rid of it just to make yourself happy. If you can not keep the child you could give it up for adoption. Also you should not blame the child for your girlfriend being raped. It is not the child s fault for being born. I think if your girlfriend wants the baby and you have money you should try to make it work. So I would say just buck up and deal with it. It is wrong to blame someone for being born.