If your child was deformed at birth, would you...

disgusted by the number of votes for "id give up for adoption" why on earth would any one in the right mind give up there child because of a birth deformality,it is not there fault they did not ask to be brought into the world that way. by giving a child like that up you will cause them to have long life issues in accepting there self because there parents could not. your tottaly making them worse. This is a matter that really needs taught.

Handling a physical deformity is much easier than a mental deficiency. At least you can still have a relationship with a child who is physically disabled.

HarryPotters, I totally never thought of it that way. It goes to show that one must always look at the background or underlying problems before passing judgment.

tammyx think about the effect on the parent not just the child. Do you think they wanter thier child to have a problem?. I Know from experience children that have problems require a lot more money and attention if the parents are young, or struggling to make ends meet. The might be simply unable to look after it as they would be mentally and finacially unstable. Would you want a child to grow up in that kind of environment or go to a home where it would be looked after properly.

I am far from perfect, I was born with a gentic disorder, partly disfigured, but not to bad, but my parents kept me, my parents were told I wouldnt live past my teen years, I am in my mid 40's , beauty is only skin deep,

keep - why should a parent's love be only based on whether or not the child looked pretty?

If you only love someone for looking good that makes you bloody shallow.

I would keep my child no matter what, I wouldnt care about the cost or what ev its my child.

I usually come down on the liberal 'each-to-their-own' side of most debates; but if you put a child up for adoption purely because it was born with a physical deformity then you are an awful, awful person.

I'm able-bodied and don't have a great deal of experience with handicapped people, and am ashamed to admit that some deformities do make me feel uncomfortable - but this would be my problem, not the child's, and raising such a child would hopefully teach me to be more comfortable about disability.

Here's a question for those of you who voted for adoption - what would you do if you had a child who then via an accident became disabled? Would you get rid of them as soon as they became damaged goods?

Some of you are truly disgusting.

Giving up a child for whatever reason is just passing your "problem" onto someone else. More people need to accept what life has given them, and just get on with being a good person.

i know this might make you think of me as a horrible person but i just wouldnt be able to deal with the stress and money so i would let it be adopted
in that way he/she gets a better parent which CAN take care of the baby

Probably give up for adoption.
If my child was born severely retarded/disfigured, I'd kill it.
Spare both of us the pain & troubles in the near - distant future

I don't mean to sound rude but mentally handicapped/challeneged people scare me, and I would NOT want to be afraid of my own child.

The Elephant Man made me come to this post and that I kept reading about the zika virus. It'd be a super tough and unorthodox situation but there's no way I could just get rid of it.

I wouldn't be having kids in the first place. I decided a long time ago that someone who would have such high expecatations doesn't deserve a kid, not that I particularly want one anyway.

So the only problem is no legs? So why would it be an issue to keep this child? You just have to give them a wheelchair. That is like tossing out your child since they wear glasses or because they only have one working hand.

You know his life will already be significatly worse if not terrible. 1st you give him this terrible life, now he has to suffer knowing you didnt want him? You brought him into this world the least you can do is keep him/her and love him/her. Busy nurses and adoptive parents will never love him/her as much as s/he will want you to love him/her. No matter what s/he will always feel abandoned and thats hard enough even for healthy beautiful and even smart kids to deal with.

Beside looks it is YOUR baby. It came from you. If it was me I would keep it

I'd keep it because it is a part of me, and I brought them into this world.

Luckily for me men can't have children.

Reminds me of The Chrysalids. Very old book. After a nuclear war mutations began to appear in all living things. The only surviving books were a bible and some christian propaganda specifying what people were supposed to look like.

They would burn malformed babies and ban mothers who had 3 in a row from further childbearing, as it was clear their faith was too weak to bear normal kids.

No shock-comedy option to burn the child. Chose option A.

Keep him 4 sure wats the point in giving up a baby thats in perfect shape but has no legs u know

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evreyone has thier own opinion thier is no right or wrong answer the question was if your child was deformed at birth would you...
not if your child was deformed at birth would you be happy to get told that you sick if you put it up for adoption like many people would do for becoz of the money and stress

Speaking as a mother of a disable child, the fact is that my baby wasn't born disfigured or retarted. He was born seriously premature, at 24 weeks which was too soon for any child to be born. Now he's 9 and have alot of delays, but i still manage to take care of him. Yes i thought about it and still does but i now have to make the best of it.

if i had a kid and i would end up giving him/her up for adoption it would only be because i wouldnt want a kid for being too young, and even then i'm sure it wouldnt happen i'm just saying IF. but for a deformity? no, cuz deformed kids can be just as lovable, and you really shouldn't decide to give up your kid just because yeah, they aren't perfect, but everyone has weaknesses

i would kill it

Put it in a cage and charge people admission

idk id have to compare the price of surgery to the price of a gun and one bullet

I wouldn't be able to handle a handicapped child. Not because I couldn't afford it, but because I would hate it. The handicapped scare the shit out of me, and I personally would give it up for adoption, so that maybe one day it could be loved, because even if it's well cared for, it would be seriously neglected from any affection from me.