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I have my personal reasons for this so please don't judge me. However, I don't want to waste my time or a woman's time. Should you let a woman know right at the start you don't want kids or not?
It's not something that I would mention on the first date for sure. But as a relationship grows and the conversation is about likes and dislikes that's when you have that discussion. Nobody has the right to judge you because you don't want any kids.
Yeah, people do judge even though they don't have the right to. However, what about marriage. I don't want to ever get married either. I don't feel marriage is worth it these days.
Times have changed, people that get married very seldom stay married forever. Alot of people especially the younger generation don't want and won't get married. The generation before mine it was I caught one and you lived happily ever after. My generation was we'll that didn't work so good. But there is plenty of fish in the sea. The younger generation is why settle down when there is a unlimited buffet out there so why settle for just one thing. Nothing is wrong with marriage and there is nothing wrong with wanting to stay single.
Not wanting kids is an instant deal breaker for some people so it's best to tell them on the first date so they know what they're getting into.
Should I tell a woman on the first date that I don't think I am interested in marrage either.
Many people see marriage as important or sacred, so yes, tell them on the first date so they don't feel like they were lead on or something.
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Yes, well I have not made up my decison on marriage yet. There is a woman I like but after what a group of women did to me I am actually thinking of totally closing my heart.
Just because you had a bad experience with the opposite gender does not mean they're all like that. Closing your heart is actually the the worst thing you can do. I've seen men and women do that. They wind up bitter in the long run and become crazy sjw mysoginists or misandrist people.
I can see that with your ideas may hurt a lot of women...coz most women likes to be married...i think you can start it on the flirting stage...if you likes a women...use what they say "flirt like a player".......from the very beginning you start emphasizing that you just want to play...so you cant catch a girl that you will end up hurting her.....a player to a player...
When it comes up/when she mentions it, which she will eventually.
Just be like "yeah, I'm not really interested in having children, so if this is an issue for you, that's ok and we can just keep this friendly".
Keeping on dating after you let her know this will probably cause a very messy break up, since feelings will grow.
Like one person mentioned, I wouldn't say it on a first date, but then again, if she brings it up on a first date, you should totally be honest, even if it means there might not be a 2nd date and less of a chance of getting any, which I know may cause hesitation but if you don't wanna be a slimeball, honesty is the best policy.
You need to inform her before the relationship gets too serious (within the 1st year). In my opinion, If you want to tell her right away, just wait for an opportunity; a moment where the conversation is naturally lead toward children/families.
For example, let's say you two see a baby or toddler, and the girl you're dating is all awwwwh and shit or telling you how much she loves children; that would be your moment to go, "Yeah, he's (or she's) cute, too bad I never want to have children (word it however way you want)." This approach is casual, and it'll spark up a conversation (i.e. Why don't you want to have children?). If this opportunity doesn't come up within the next 6 months or so of dating, then it's safe to just ask her about her future goals (not for you both, but for herself) and see if motherhood is apart of it. If it is, then simply tell her that you don't ever want children, and may need to stop this before it gets too serious.
Yeah, I also don't think I want to get married either. I have my personal reasons.