I tend not to lie outright. I will work around being bluntly and brutally honest by using tact but - like you said - if someone is determined to get to the truth and knows how to frame the question in a way that can't be dodged, then I either have to be bluntly and brutally honest, lie, or go for the third option which is to judge how much bluntless they need to satisfy their curiosity and stop asking, and then give them that.
My problem is that I'm capable of lying. If I was incapable of it, I do believe my life would be easier and things I get accused of could be cleared up just by me saying "No" to a direct question.
And I think people would have to come to respect the danger of someone who always tells the truth and be very careful what they ask (and also what they tell). I'm good at holding other people's secrets and I wouldn't want to be in a position where I was forced to give secrets away. As long as I could say, "I don't want to tell you that" as an answer to a question.
hm. while all true, i still have a feeling it is taken too lightly...all in all, we tell an AWFUL lot of white lies and lies in casual conversation.
To help others keep face, and to keep ours. The complete inability to maintain this social facade/structure would be close to certain mental illnesses/disabilities, and, most certainly, alienate the person from the rest of society to a certain degree.
The fact it's not your fault doesn't exactly "change" people's views...it's not a mentally handicapped persons fault either, but they are not exactly the most preferred social company.
Ah well, the curse of having too little space for the answers.
As said, i see it as a valid option(wouldn't have put it otherwise) but i'm a bit surprised it's, at the time of writing, more than double as popular as the other options combined.
But maybe it's just me, and other people think they could arrange themselves better that way :) Not my place to judge i guess *shrug* Then i simply failed with the options given.
Yes, you're right. I don't think I thought about this with the depth you have. Although I would say that white lies often aren't in response to questions and so are optional. I've got a friend who rarely ventures an opinion in personal matters. Nobody know what he thinks about anything.
You make a good point about a confirmed truth-teller becoming a social pariah. I think there's a danger that could happen.
Perhaps the people who chose that option consider they are more honest than they actually are. I've seen a couple of polls about other things and it's very clear that people think they are more intelligent than they are, more important than they are, but also significantly less attractive than they are. We're an odd community. :)
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I tend not to lie outright. I will work around being bluntly and brutally honest by using tact but - like you said - if someone is determined to get to the truth and knows how to frame the question in a way that can't be dodged, then I either have to be bluntly and brutally honest, lie, or go for the third option which is to judge how much bluntless they need to satisfy their curiosity and stop asking, and then give them that.
My problem is that I'm capable of lying. If I was incapable of it, I do believe my life would be easier and things I get accused of could be cleared up just by me saying "No" to a direct question.
And I think people would have to come to respect the danger of someone who always tells the truth and be very careful what they ask (and also what they tell). I'm good at holding other people's secrets and I wouldn't want to be in a position where I was forced to give secrets away. As long as I could say, "I don't want to tell you that" as an answer to a question.
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hm. while all true, i still have a feeling it is taken too lightly...all in all, we tell an AWFUL lot of white lies and lies in casual conversation.
To help others keep face, and to keep ours. The complete inability to maintain this social facade/structure would be close to certain mental illnesses/disabilities, and, most certainly, alienate the person from the rest of society to a certain degree.
The fact it's not your fault doesn't exactly "change" people's views...it's not a mentally handicapped persons fault either, but they are not exactly the most preferred social company.
Ah well, the curse of having too little space for the answers.
As said, i see it as a valid option(wouldn't have put it otherwise) but i'm a bit surprised it's, at the time of writing, more than double as popular as the other options combined.
But maybe it's just me, and other people think they could arrange themselves better that way :) Not my place to judge i guess *shrug* Then i simply failed with the options given.
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Yes, you're right. I don't think I thought about this with the depth you have. Although I would say that white lies often aren't in response to questions and so are optional. I've got a friend who rarely ventures an opinion in personal matters. Nobody know what he thinks about anything.
You make a good point about a confirmed truth-teller becoming a social pariah. I think there's a danger that could happen.
Perhaps the people who chose that option consider they are more honest than they actually are. I've seen a couple of polls about other things and it's very clear that people think they are more intelligent than they are, more important than they are, but also significantly less attractive than they are. We're an odd community. :)