AGREED! It's beyond disrespectful and just... Disgusting, you don't like the person you are with, move along and stay single and have fun, don't keep hanging on to your current partner like they are your bloody door knob.
However, what would one constitute as cheating? Yes sex with another person is cheating,,, but is that the ONLY action that would be argued as cheating? Would flirting and texting other women/men saying things you shouldn't be classified as cheating? Cyber sex cheating?
I wouldn't call flirting cheating but it's a little step before it. Not because it's not considered cheating in my book that it would not enrage me. I mean, if I found out my girlfriend has been flirting with a guy, I'd be very mad and I would never forget what she did. I highly doubt I could forgive her too. If I'm able to not flirt with another woman, my partner should be able to not flirt with another guy. I think cyber sex with another person when you're a relationship is cheating. Why would you be writting/showing/doing those things to someone else but the person you love?
I don't know, someone who's going to play immature games like that with me is someone I DO NOT WANT in my life.
Again i agree with you 100%. If one partner resist flirting with another as should the other, i guess it's not saying 'you will do as i do' but it all comes down to respect for each other. I do believe that, how one behaves with others is a reflection on the relaionship.
I honestly do wish that i could have the courage you are potentially displaying about not 'forgiving' your parther if she were to flirt or have cyber sex with another. Yes easily spotted my bf did that... a long time i say, and he has not done it since.. not as far as i know personally. But his loss if he does do it AGAIN and i find out. Karma has a way of brining things around.
As the saying goes first time is 'shame on you' second time is 'same on me' for giving you the possibility of doing it againx
Maybe you're the one who has the courage to forgive and move on. I don't know, on this subject, if someone wants forgiveness, seek religion, not me. See, I just wouldn't trust that person anymore. Even if they truly stoped, how can you be sure? Aren't you paranoid? If I were in your position, I'd always be wondering what he's doing, with who and all of that. I guess in my case, I'd become a poison to the relationship and that's why I just want to end things before they end ugly. I'm not too sure about karma. I rather do my own karma.
I never heard that saying but I'd never let the chance to someone to "same on me" me.
The funny thing is, right from the begining of the relationship i was always suspecious and felt something was going on(which of course was). The thing is, my bf is a very attractive guy and all his life he has always received a lot of attention from women and i guess knowing this always put me in a very suspecious position. Its hard to explain but, he is a very different person from who he was thenand who he is now (and I'm not saying he has changed because i want to believe he has). Put it short, he has grown up, although 25 now, he was a slow developer haha.
It does from time to time run through my mind as to what he could potentially be doing when I'm not around. The point of the matter is, you can NEVER truly know what your other partner is doing. Humans are born liers, we lie from a very early age and its a build in mechanism. In the end only time will tell, until then, we just live our lives with them like everthing is perfect and then shit comes down in the end. Thinking about it its quite depressing because it's like you are living a lie with that person.
But you made me laugh at you'r 'if someone wants forgiveness, seek religion, not me' hahaha i shall def use that next time haha.x
It seems like a lot of these very attractive people have this in common, not all of them of course. I guess the woman I'll be with will be lucky that I'm not attractive! Haha, I'm kidding, I'm a one woman man, the rest can fuck off. Well I can understand you. You know lots of women find him attractive and it makes you wonder if he would take advantage of that. Well that's for you to judge, not me.
Well I do agree with you that we can never truly know but once you find out your partner has done something, I'm sure it's harder than someone who never knew. Things would just be so much easier if people were honest with each other.
Haha yeah, a band I'm listening to a lot at this moment has that in their lyrics. I changed it a little, they say: You want forgiveness then go find religion.
Yeah some attractive people do seem to have that common indeed. I dont beleive myself to be a model look alike, but me and him are on the same page of 'attractive people' and thats not be blowing my own horn haha. But like you, i am a one man woman, i just dont understand the concept of, having such a great partner who would do anything for you and then they screw them over...
uu whats the band called? im quite curious to hear their lyrics haha
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AGREED! It's beyond disrespectful and just... Disgusting, you don't like the person you are with, move along and stay single and have fun, don't keep hanging on to your current partner like they are your bloody door knob.
However, what would one constitute as cheating? Yes sex with another person is cheating,,, but is that the ONLY action that would be argued as cheating? Would flirting and texting other women/men saying things you shouldn't be classified as cheating? Cyber sex cheating?
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I wouldn't call flirting cheating but it's a little step before it. Not because it's not considered cheating in my book that it would not enrage me. I mean, if I found out my girlfriend has been flirting with a guy, I'd be very mad and I would never forget what she did. I highly doubt I could forgive her too. If I'm able to not flirt with another woman, my partner should be able to not flirt with another guy. I think cyber sex with another person when you're a relationship is cheating. Why would you be writting/showing/doing those things to someone else but the person you love?
I don't know, someone who's going to play immature games like that with me is someone I DO NOT WANT in my life.
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Again i agree with you 100%. If one partner resist flirting with another as should the other, i guess it's not saying 'you will do as i do' but it all comes down to respect for each other. I do believe that, how one behaves with others is a reflection on the relaionship.
I honestly do wish that i could have the courage you are potentially displaying about not 'forgiving' your parther if she were to flirt or have cyber sex with another. Yes easily spotted my bf did that... a long time i say, and he has not done it since.. not as far as i know personally. But his loss if he does do it AGAIN and i find out. Karma has a way of brining things around.
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Maybe you're the one who has the courage to forgive and move on. I don't know, on this subject, if someone wants forgiveness, seek religion, not me. See, I just wouldn't trust that person anymore. Even if they truly stoped, how can you be sure? Aren't you paranoid? If I were in your position, I'd always be wondering what he's doing, with who and all of that. I guess in my case, I'd become a poison to the relationship and that's why I just want to end things before they end ugly. I'm not too sure about karma. I rather do my own karma.
I never heard that saying but I'd never let the chance to someone to "same on me" me.
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The funny thing is, right from the begining of the relationship i was always suspecious and felt something was going on(which of course was). The thing is, my bf is a very attractive guy and all his life he has always received a lot of attention from women and i guess knowing this always put me in a very suspecious position. Its hard to explain but, he is a very different person from who he was thenand who he is now (and I'm not saying he has changed because i want to believe he has). Put it short, he has grown up, although 25 now, he was a slow developer haha.
It does from time to time run through my mind as to what he could potentially be doing when I'm not around. The point of the matter is, you can NEVER truly know what your other partner is doing. Humans are born liers, we lie from a very early age and its a build in mechanism. In the end only time will tell, until then, we just live our lives with them like everthing is perfect and then shit comes down in the end. Thinking about it its quite depressing because it's like you are living a lie with that person.
But you made me laugh at you'r 'if someone wants forgiveness, seek religion, not me' hahaha i shall def use that next time haha.x
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It seems like a lot of these very attractive people have this in common, not all of them of course. I guess the woman I'll be with will be lucky that I'm not attractive! Haha, I'm kidding, I'm a one woman man, the rest can fuck off. Well I can understand you. You know lots of women find him attractive and it makes you wonder if he would take advantage of that. Well that's for you to judge, not me.
Well I do agree with you that we can never truly know but once you find out your partner has done something, I'm sure it's harder than someone who never knew. Things would just be so much easier if people were honest with each other.
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Yeah some attractive people do seem to have that common indeed. I dont beleive myself to be a model look alike, but me and him are on the same page of 'attractive people' and thats not be blowing my own horn haha. But like you, i am a one man woman, i just dont understand the concept of, having such a great partner who would do anything for you and then they screw them over...
uu whats the band called? im quite curious to hear their lyrics haha