If a woman hits you do you have a moral right to hit her back?

I'm just curious of people's opinions on the subject.

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  • nikkiclaire

    No one should hit anyone.

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    • factcheck

      Bingo. That’s the problem with this idiotic argument, it’s based on their belief that it’s okay for men to hit men so they should be able to hit women too.

      No one ever has a right to hit another person.

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      • bigbudchonga

        What about if someones is punching the shit out of you and the only way to get them to stop is to punch them?

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        • EnglishLad

          How about don't even punch the shit out of anyone. Try not to get yourself into any fights unless you become a professional fighter.

          If you get physically bullied by someone bigger than you, call the cops as that equates to actual bodily harm, which is a criminal offence.

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          • bigbudchonga

            Again, what if someone breaks into your house and is punching you and isn't going to stop until you or your family is dead. Is it justified then?

            Also dude would you honestly just sit there and take it if someone was punching you, then tell on them after. I understand that what they're doing is wrong, and that the law may needed to be called in, but wouldn't you feel kind of pathetic knowing that you wouldn't stand up for yourself on such a primal base level?

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            • EnglishLad

              I'd probably try to block, I wouldn't just stand there with my hands dropped. But I wouldn't get violent.

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    • paracetamol

      In the real world the idea of non violence does not fly.

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      • I think that rather than violence never being the answer, it should be the last answer... most of the time.

        In a situation of a home invasion, I cheer when homeowners shoot any thieving sucker dead.

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        • paracetamol

          I dont want to fight either but fights/violence always seems to come find me. Sigh

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          • RoseIsabella

            Fights won't find you if you don't take everything other people say so seriously.

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            • paracetamol

              When we don't fight when we are supposed to our conscience screams at us "coward". It is a very humiliating experience and probably much more damaging than the fight itself.

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          • EnglishLad

            Call the cops on anyone who hits you.

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  • JD777

    I don't know about a moral right, but you certainly have justification to hit her if needed to defend yourself or stop her assault. Best solution, though, is to de-escalate the situation.

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    • lordofopinions

      Hit back if in self defense but not to do damage just to protect yourself.

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  • IrishPotato

    Depends. If a woman I care about starts attacking me I just hold her tight considering I'll easily overpower her.

    If a woman I don't give a shit about starts hitting me I'll clock her right back because honestly, just because you have tits and a vagina doesn't mean you're immune to my fists.

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    • Tealights

      1st paragraph is what my boyfriend did to his abusive ex when she got violent.

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      • IrishPotato

        Seems like the smart thing to do.

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    • SwickDinging

      Is it weird that I smiled at the first paragraph?

      I asked my husband what he'd do if I ever hit him and he said pretty much the same as you.

      I told him he should just hit me back though. That's what I'd do if he ever hit me. Not that he would.

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      • IrishPotato

        I've been in a situation where a girl I was once with got aggressive, and I did the exact same thing.

        Hey, at least it made you smile haha.

        There's a difference between hitting a loved one and hitting a stranger though, regardless of gender.

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        • SwickDinging

          Very true. This is one of those context dependent things...

          My husband is a like a giant next to me, and he lifts heavy. If he hit me even once at full strength he would do very serious damage. I'm quite muscluar myself though so I've had other smaller partners who I felt it was pretty much a level playing field with.

          And, not that domestic abuse is funny, but I do think it would look ridiculous to a bystander if they saw me try and attack my husband. He'd probably hold me back with one finger of one hand and start yawning and reading a book in the other hand lol.

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          • IrishPotato

            Haha, kinda like a cartoon.

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  • Iszzy123

    Don’t just hit her back hold pull back ur fist all way back then with everything you throw ur punch and shout from the top of ur voice FALCONNNN PUNCHHHH!!!!

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    • IrishPotato

      FALCON

      PAAAAAAWNCHHHH

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    • Someone I play with spams that move so much in Super Smash Bros. It's "FALCON PUNCH!!!" over and over until someone attacks them.

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    • paracetamol

      Lol. Deliver a falcon punch to the vagina.

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  • Cuntsiclestick

    I want to say yes, he should hit her back, but if he does, everyone freaks out, says he's the villain, and he's the one that's going to be arrested. I hate to say it, but he should just walk away. Honestly, I can't stand women who are act all brave and start beating on a guy, only to crumble, weep, and cry victim like a weak baby the second they get hit back.

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    • The funny thing is I can remember a post about a year ago where a man posted about hitting his wife or some woman after she had hit him several times and the vast majority of commenters on here were cutting him up like hell. I remember rose called him a piece of shit, and others called him things equated to coward and wimp. Ah, how we can be so wishy washy.

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      • Cuntsiclestick

        I don't recall that post. There are several posts on here about that topic, so one from a year ago just blends into the void.

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      • RoseIsabella

        I called him a piece of shit, oh that could have been anyone. Although he does sound rather like a turd.

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  • raisinbran

    I think weight class is more relevant than gender.

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  • paracetamol

    Watch this a girl slaps a guy on indian television. Subtitles are included :
    https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=V4akMaeZ0-k

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    • JellyBeanBandit

      That was difficult to watch. Seeing that all of the highest rated comments were in defence of the guy though gives me hope.

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      • paracetamol

        This incident became a meme called "how can she slap". I think they broke many of the boy's ribs and shit.

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        • JellyBeanBandit

          Yeah, they were a bunch of spineless kiss ass animals. Still, according to the comments, the victim sued the show and went on to become a successful actor while the 2 hosts were ousted by every network. So there's a good ending to it.

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        • RoseIsabella

          Nothing would have happened to him if he had not hit her back.

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          • If you knew me in the real world I'm betting you would say that I'm a particularly passive person. But if I were in that guys shoes and that bitch would have slapped me like that in front of all those people, I would have punched her so hard it would have broken her jaw if not her neck before I realised what I had done. The guy here did absolutely nothing wrong and the guys that jumped him were cowards. They couldn't just fight him one on one. They had to gang up. Weak.

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            • RoseIsabella

              If you did what you are describing you would end up in jail. If you broke someone's neck the person might die, and then you might get to spend a lifetime in jail.

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          • paracetamol

            The boy did the right thing. He was not a coward. Its too bad they all ganged up on him.

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            • RoseIsabella

              You couldn't pay to feel sorry for him. You might not like what I'm saying, but it's just my honest opinion. I'm not gonna lie to you, just to make you happy. You struggle with mental illness just like a lot us on this site. It takes strength to turn the other cheek, to just react with violence shows a weak mind. I'm not trying to hurt your feelings, or make you angry, but if I got into a physical altercation every time I was triggered I'd be in jail, and I don't want to go to jail, and be somebody's bitch. I don't you don't want to end up in jail, and someone's bitch either. Jails are full of sociopaths and psychopaths, those people can sniff out weakness.

              I don't think it's okay for anybody to just randomly smack someone else, but I can never respect a male who hits a female. The only thing that was hurt on that boy when she slapped him was his pride, and that's clearly not enough of a reason to slap her back. Regardless, he appeared to slap her harder than she hit him. Whether you like it, or not it's not socially acceptable for men to hit women, and I'm completely fine with that fact.

              If you can learn enough distress tolerance to where you don't put your hands on your sister, because she commented on your mental illness then your life will drastically improve. Like it, or not people who get physically violent at the drop of a hat are perceived as mentally, and emotionally weak. I don't respect people who are physically violent, violent people are truly unworthy of respect.

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  • anonY123

    No way, don't hit women back pls. It's not classy

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  • nikkiclaire

    Depends where you are.

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  • drat

    If a dog bites you do you bite it back?

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    • LornaMae

      YES!!!! Yum-yummmm!!!

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    • And move my face closer to the slobbery teeth of a raving canine? No thanks.

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    • RoseIsabella

      No, dogs don't bite me, just people.

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      • 309uf2o38yf

        ... People bite you?

        Is this on a regular basis? O_o

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        • RoseIsabella

          Not literally. Thank God! If people literally bit me I would want to knock out their teeth.

          ... but, seriously. Dogs don't give me much trouble.

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          • 309uf2o38yf

            Oh. I used to tell my mom to bite me as a teenager. I stopped when she actually started doing it. I felt a connection there for a second :/

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          • drat

            People don't give me much trouble. If someone is getting hit by women (or men for that matter) it would be best to reevaluate what kind of dickheads and / or shitcunts one is allowing into their life, rather than stooping to their level.

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            • RoseIsabella

              The person should reevaluate what kind of company they are keeping, but additionally I also think the person ought to look inward, and ask themselves why they choose to associate with scumbags, and also what they are saying to set off the scumbags.

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  • Ummitsstillme

    Absolutely not. You play defense and remove yourself from the situation.

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    • RoseIsabella

      Hello reality!!! A big thumbs up to you!

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  • JellyBeanBandit

    Definitely. And if you'd hit a guy in that situation, but you think women are too weak and sensitive for it, then you're a sexist.

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  • paracetamol

    Yes you have absolutely every right to hit her back.

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  • RoseIsabella

    Real men don't hit women!

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    • CozmoWank

      Real women don't hit men.

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      • RoseIsabella

        I never said they did. I don't hit people.

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        • CozmoWank

          OK. We're good. Nice people don't hit.

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    • My friend in school was jumped on by a guy recruited by a girl who was mad at him for something or other. The fight didn't turn out the way the assailant had hoped and when my friend was done with him he nailed her with a serious right punch. I couldn't help but to laugh at her getting what was coming to her.

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      • factcheck

        So now you’ve gone from it’s okay for a man to hit a woman if she hits him first to it’s okay for a man to hit a woman if she has another man hit him. Somehow I bet that’s not the only thing you think justifies a man hitting a woman. You’re revealing yourself.

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        • Dude I never said it was ok for a man to hit a woman. Where did you get that idea? I found it entertaining that my buddy hit the girl who manipulated a guy into trying to beat my friends ass, but I don't think he should have done it. Just funny is all. Kids are kids and they do what they do and learn better.

          And just who the hell are you to take some moral high ground and put words in my mouth? Or can you just not read well? Get off your high horse and stop always trying to show your moral superiority to everyone.

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          • RoseIsabella

            Maybe your buddy needs to just leave this girl alone entirely.

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  • TerriAngel

    I'd say.
    Depends on the situation.
    Walk away usually works.
    But there are times to return the favor.
    Depends on the situation.
    If someone hits, it's also not ok to let them think it's ok.
    I'll defend myself, or if needed go a little further.
    I don't support abuse in any relationship.

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  • curious-bunny

    If someone hits you you are legally allowed to defend yourself.

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    • nikkiclaire

      Self defense is only legal as a last option. If you can flee, but chose to hit, it's assault.

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      • curious-bunny

        Na fuck that someone strikes me they get a warning after that well we shall see who the better fighter is

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        • nikkiclaire

          I'd kick your ass 🤣🤣🤣 I'm wirey.

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          • curious-bunny

            I'm boney and I enjoy pain, your hits would give me pleasure. So i find that doubtful

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      • RoseIsabella

        I shouldn't have to flee in my own house, or if I'm defending my own property. I dunno what the law is in Delaware, but in Texas they have Castle Doctrine. It's legal to defend your home, and property with deadly force, and I support that. I support Stand Your Ground laws!

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        • nikkiclaire

          Honestly it makes sense right, but I don't make the rules. I know each state has a different take on it.

          That's why I dislike governments and generally do what I'm going to do, then pay the consequences.

          But, it's best to avoids fights if at all possible.

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          • RoseIsabella

            Oh, you know I'm not trying to get violent, but if someone is trying to do harm people should be able to defend themselves. Also if someone is trying to rob somebody, ya'll know Rosie don't care what happens to thieves.

            My dad worked with a guy at the post office who caught some dude trying to steal his lawnmower, and he poured gasoline over the perpetrator, and stood over him with a cigarette lighter til the cops got there.

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            • nikkiclaire

              Haha, oh trust me, I'm no pushover either 😂

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  • RoseIsabella

    That's good.

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  • RoseIsabella

    Well, that's something. What kind of shop do you own? I honestly thought you were a kid.

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  • RoseIsabella

    India sounds awful, and like I said it was probably better under British control.

    So many people all over the world make a nasty habit out of hating white Anglo-Saxons, but it seems that Anglo-Saxons are better at this business of law, and order.

    It's not right that you were beaten by a bunch of thugs! That is completely wrong, law and order should prevail. I'm truly sorry that this thing happened to you.

    I'm not trying it to hate on India, but the caste system that is practiced in the Hindu religion is wrong too! People should not just ignore the poor, and leave them to lay begging, and dying in gutters. No offense, but there are many things that are practiced in your country that are just plain stupid.

    So many people in the world hate America, but we're still the best thing going!

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    • paracetamol

      Trust me i wish i was never born here. But before i die i swear to get even with this country.

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      • RoseIsabella

        I can respect that! Are you trying to go to school and get a higher education?

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  • RoseIsabella

    Tell it!

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  • ApplePine

    I don't think anyone should hit each other.

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  • BleedingPain

    What prompts someone to resort to hitting in the first place, man or worman?

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  • RoseIsabella

    What state is that?

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  • RoseIsabella

    He might have liked it. For some reason cops have always been really nice to me! I actually like cops a lot even though I am very pro-marijuana. I mean if I have a problem who am I gonna call, some bleeding heart liberal, or the cops?

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  • RoseIsabella

    When I was in college in Louisiana a cop told me that just touching someone that doesn't want to be touched is assault. He basically poked me on the shoulder, and told me that was assault.

    If some piece of shit grabs my ass I should be able to either call the cops, and have him arrested, or beat him. The loser pervert should have no recourse. If I ever see someone assault a pervert I will do nothing to interfere on the part of the pervert.

    My dad told me this story about how a bunch of teenagers caught this pedophile who was molesting some kid in a park back in York, Pennsylvania when he was like twelve, back in the late 1940s. The teenagers beat the shit out of the guy, and the one young man's dad was a state trooper so what happened was that trooper showed up with a some of his friends, and later the pedophile woke up in Maryland with two broken arms! I say good riddance! I honestly wouldn't care if it were legal to hunt child molesters for sport, because they are sub-human garbage.

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  • RoseIsabella

    I don't think you should do that unless it's a dangerous, and vicious dog.

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  • RoseIsabella

    No.

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  • SwickDinging

    I chose other because generally I'd say if a person hits you then they should expect you might hit them back, regardless of anyone's gender. But there are exceptions.

    To me it depends on how justified the hit was, and also how hard the hit was - e.g if your wife comes home and finds you in bed with another woman and slaps you in the face, then you have no business punching her in response, that would be wrong in my eyes. Be glad it was just a slap and start saying your apologies.

    Just to be clear that goes both ways - if your husband finds you in bed with another man then he might slap you in the face. You don't have the right to hit back in that situation either, I would say.

    But most situations aren't that extreme. If she just flips out and starts attacking you then yeah, hit her. You need to be able to defend yourself, just because a woman tends to be weaker than a man it doesn't mean she gets a free pass to be violent towards him.

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    • I agree fully. I was just looking for opinions here but I'll pipe up with mine. So far I've never hit a woman but I've come close. When I was younger I had a girlfriend who was a bit of a flirt who I caught coming on to another guy. At home I confronted her about it and it quickly escalated into a jerry springeresqe argument. She decided to throw a book at me that I partially dodged. I came at her in anger but when I got close enough I grabbed her and held her down instead of hitting her. I'm glad I made that decision and things wound down a lot after she calmed down. She apologised for everything and we decided to separate. Had I hit her, the story would have been much different. I would have been in jail and her possibly also. There would have been a court case and I would have lost my job. I'm glad I caught myself in time.

      Situations are all different, but it's safe to say that if the woman isn't a threat of seriously harming you the best was is to either get away from her or just subdue her till she calms down.

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      • RoseIsabella

        Yeah, the smartest thing you did with that chick was to break up, because fuck being with someone who flirts with people all the time.

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      • SwickDinging

        I get why you thought about it. In the heat of the moment if someone attacks you it's human nature to want to hit back. I think there's great value and honour in controlling these emotions and always reacting with logic, but hey, no one is perfect and I've lost my rag before now.

        Back when I was in school the guy I lost my virginity to started bullying me after the event. He spread nasty rumours about me and gave my number to his friends so they could call my house in the night and shout about me being a disgusting slag. Then he texted me saying he wanted to apologise in person, and I was a naive teenage girl with destroyed self respect so I believed him. Everytime I got close to the meeting point he changed it. Eventually I realised that him and his friends were following me and laughing at me, seeing how long they could keep me looking for him.

        I turned around and caught up with them, and when I did I smacked him really hard across the face. They were all stunned silent. Then I told him his penis was so tiny it didn't even hurt when I lost it. (This was true, it was the smallest one I've ever seen even to this day).

        He didn't hit me back. He had no right to and he knew it. I don't regret what I did. I just wish I'd hit him even harder.

        Like I said, depends on the situation...

        Sorry to hear about you and your girl. That sounds rough. Hope it wasn't a heavy book!

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        • It was big and she was strong for a girl, but it hit my neck and not my face luckily. It was a long time ago and I've not seen her in years and hope life turned out well for her and all, but I'm glad I don't see her anymore.

          You should have hit the guy harder and told everyone at school how tiny it was. I would have loved to have seen that.

          Yes, it depends on the situation and it's usually better to just calm the situation down. But sometimes people just need a good ass whoopin' :)

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        • RoseIsabella

          Honestly, that is the kind of guy who deserves to have the shit beat out of him! If he actually hit you back he would have deserved to have really fucked up, he's a real steaming pile of shit. He's probably a total misogynist.

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          • SwickDinging

            I always assumed his behaviour was due to insecurity over his tiny penis lol.

            The sad thing is, if he hadn't been such an asshole I would have never told anyone about it! A tiny penis doesn't need to be a big deal. We could have worked around it. Oh well...

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            • RoseIsabella

              Men with tiny members have no place criticizing women's bodies! Hopefully he has either changed his ways, or his life has been very shitty. He sounds like a truly awful person deep, down inside. Honestly, I'm really glad he didn't he you back, but he got off easy with just a slap. These guys who think they ought to be able to hit women probably have very low testosterone, and aren't real men.

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  • nikkiclaire

    Good for you. I would probably fight back and get arrested myself.

    Fighting isn't good tho and should be avoided if possible.

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  • leggs91200

    Usually when it even comes into question about if a man should hit her back, the relationship is pretty unhealthy anyways. Mature adults just do not handle problems by hitting each other.

    Of course the media makes it look like the woman is always this passive, quiet, scared victim. In the real world she PROBABLY provokes to a point where anyone would lash out.

    I have known abusive couples. More often than not, if you knew them, it would be the man you'd feel sorry for. She is often some cracked-out loud mouth bitch that needs her ass beat.

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  • RoseIsabella

    Oh man, are there other places that are better than Detroit?

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