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Of course, situations are complicated. And, they are likely each partly to blame. But, your first impression without knowing any details is that it's likely to be:
(Note: undecided is not an option until later on when you get a few details.)
| His fault | 8 | |
| Her fault | 5 |
A great many people sleep separate, unless they can afford and fit a king size bed into their bedroom.
The most common reason is that one person moves around a lot at night - and disturbs the sleep of the other substantially (or even may inadvertently injure the other by the thrashing around they do when asleep).
It's virtually never about withholding sex. Most of the people who sleep apart do enjoy relatively frequent sex together. They just sleep apart.
Loud snoring, body odors, certain medical issues, etc also can trigger it. Even completely different sleep schedules.
I'd never judge anyone for doing it.
It's impossible to know with such little information. I've known couples who slept separately because one snores and frequently wakes the other up, one needs to sleep with the TV on and the other can't, one has back issues that makes it more comfortable for them to sleep in a recliner than a bed, etc.
I agree, people who automatically assume someone is at fault need to mind their own business. Also why is OP assuming all couples are opposite sex couples?
I have a big chair in our bedroom for when my back is acting up for other issues. There have been times when I slept there for months straight.
When my wife wakes up she reaches for me... (we have a king size bed so there is a fair amount of distance between us). If she cannot touch me then she looks at the chair - which is in her direct line of sight (we look at each other when I'm there). She also is not upset if I just set up in the big chair for the night as the best place for me at the time. We can still say good night to each other, smile, and blow kisses at each other.
She wanted me sleeping in the bedroom with her instead of the living room - and I had purchased 2 identical big chairs with the couch, end tables, Lamps, TV table, corner table, and even a coat/umbrella rack before we had met (all custom built for me out of Oak, with premium quality leather on all sides of all cushions).
So I just moved one of them to our bedroom... Made her very happy.
I always assumed if I was ever in a “serious relationship” we would have our own rooms, I need my space and sleep podcasts.
Basically yes. If that doesn't make sense to you, it would be wise for you to keep your distance from men.
No fault. He probly snores like I do, and she probly has a low tolerance, like my wife,
Withholding sex is a female tactic of desperation. It's usually done with cruel intent.
You assuming this makes you sexist. There could be a million reasons they're sleeping separately and you say it's only because the woman is withholding sex?
YOU are NOT following the directions for the poll. We are asking you to make your best guess with no prior knowledge. I don’t care if you call Asstastics a sexist. That’s his problem.
Now, these one million couples you’re talking about have different reasons. Say they snore. Who snores more, men or women? Say one of them is a homo or a lesbian. Which one totals more in a million couples, men or women?
This is MY poll. You better start following MY directions or things will get ugly.
Men and women are equally as likely to catch Covid. Also it's not your fault if you got sick. Kinda shitty to blame the sick person. A loving partner would make you some chicken soup instead of going on about whose fault it is.
Your directions make no sense because who in their right mind would be able to say who's fault it is without knowing anything about their situation? I don't make assumptions about things I don't have any information on.
Okay, then you don’t like prior probabilities, nor predictive statistics. You really should not have participated in this post.
But, thank you for considering my question.
I guess it's just not that relevant. People in happy loving relationships don't see "men versus women" as some competition. Men are not competing with women, women are not competing with men, we work together and support each other. So you just don't think in terms of "men create problems" when you are in a happy relationship with a man.
That is how incels and femcels and people stuck in unhealthy unhappy relationshits think.
I believe in logic. Logic says it can be a number of explanations. No worries.
If my partner wanted to sleep seperate if be very dissapointed but I can understsnd reasoning behind it. I just love cuddles far to much. The guy I'm currently seeing says he can't move at night because when he does I'll just crawl right back into him. I think it's pretty funny though it's probably annoying
if theyre bangin on the regular and gettin along otherwise then who cares
maybe theres insomnia or snorin or a light sleeper involved