If a married couple are each sleeping in different bedrooms ....

Of course, situations are complicated. And, they are likely each partly to blame. But, your first impression without knowing any details is that it's likely to be:
(Note: undecided is not an option until later on when you get a few details.)

Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 39 ) Sort: best | oldest
  • Maybe one them be fartin

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • A great many people sleep separate, unless they can afford and fit a king size bed into their bedroom.

    The most common reason is that one person moves around a lot at night - and disturbs the sleep of the other substantially (or even may inadvertently injure the other by the thrashing around they do when asleep).

    It's virtually never about withholding sex. Most of the people who sleep apart do enjoy relatively frequent sex together. They just sleep apart.

    Loud snoring, body odors, certain medical issues, etc also can trigger it. Even completely different sleep schedules.

    I'd never judge anyone for doing it.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • Boys snore more

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • Both

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • It's impossible to know with such little information. I've known couples who slept separately because one snores and frequently wakes the other up, one needs to sleep with the TV on and the other can't, one has back issues that makes it more comfortable for them to sleep in a recliner than a bed, etc.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
      -
    • I agree, people who automatically assume someone is at fault need to mind their own business. Also why is OP assuming all couples are opposite sex couples?

      Comment Hidden ( show )
    • I have a big chair in our bedroom for when my back is acting up for other issues. There have been times when I slept there for months straight.

      When my wife wakes up she reaches for me... (we have a king size bed so there is a fair amount of distance between us). If she cannot touch me then she looks at the chair - which is in her direct line of sight (we look at each other when I'm there). She also is not upset if I just set up in the big chair for the night as the best place for me at the time. We can still say good night to each other, smile, and blow kisses at each other.

      She wanted me sleeping in the bedroom with her instead of the living room - and I had purchased 2 identical big chairs with the couch, end tables, Lamps, TV table, corner table, and even a coat/umbrella rack before we had met (all custom built for me out of Oak, with premium quality leather on all sides of all cushions).

      So I just moved one of them to our bedroom... Made her very happy.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
  • There are plenty of adult reasons to make this choice.
    Gimme the deets!

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • Is it always undesirable to sleep separately?

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • No fault. He probly snores like I do, and she probly has a low tolerance, like my wife,

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • Neither fault

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • It's always the woman's fault they're crazy

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • Withholding sex is a female tactic of desperation. It's usually done with cruel intent.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
      -
    • You assuming this makes you sexist. There could be a million reasons they're sleeping separately and you say it's only because the woman is withholding sex?

      Comment Hidden ( show )
        -
      • YOU are NOT following the directions for the poll. We are asking you to make your best guess with no prior knowledge. I don’t care if you call Asstastics a sexist. That’s his problem.

        Now, these one million couples you’re talking about have different reasons. Say they snore. Who snores more, men or women? Say one of them is a homo or a lesbian. Which one totals more in a million couples, men or women?

        This is MY poll. You better start following MY directions or things will get ugly.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
          -
        • You're hilarious:)

          Comment Hidden ( show )
        • Men and women are equally as likely to catch Covid. Also it's not your fault if you got sick. Kinda shitty to blame the sick person. A loving partner would make you some chicken soup instead of going on about whose fault it is.

          Comment Hidden ( show )
        • Your directions make no sense because who in their right mind would be able to say who's fault it is without knowing anything about their situation? I don't make assumptions about things I don't have any information on.

          Comment Hidden ( show )
            -
          • Okay, then you don’t like prior probabilities, nor predictive statistics. You really should not have participated in this post.

            But, thank you for considering my question.

            Comment Hidden ( show )
              -
            • I guess it's just not that relevant. People in happy loving relationships don't see "men versus women" as some competition. Men are not competing with women, women are not competing with men, we work together and support each other. So you just don't think in terms of "men create problems" when you are in a happy relationship with a man.

              That is how incels and femcels and people stuck in unhealthy unhappy relationshits think.

              Comment Hidden ( show )
            • I believe in logic. Logic says it can be a number of explanations. No worries.

              Comment Hidden ( show )
  • If my partner wanted to sleep seperate if be very dissapointed but I can understsnd reasoning behind it. I just love cuddles far to much. The guy I'm currently seeing says he can't move at night because when he does I'll just crawl right back into him. I think it's pretty funny though it's probably annoying

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • Yes

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • One of them has Covid.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
  • if theyre bangin on the regular and gettin along otherwise then who cares

    maybe theres insomnia or snorin or a light sleeper involved

    Comment Hidden ( show )
Add A Comment