I really just can't label you as selfish at all. He's not your child. You had NO say and NO control over his being created. It sounds like you have had NO say and NO control over how he is being raised. Meanwhile, your parents who have had ALL of the control and ALL of the say in how your brother would be raised have made the choice to raise a large, selfish, childish abuser. The very fact that your autistic brother CHOOSES to hit anyone who is smaller than him seems indicative of a self-preservational choice to 1) abuse people 2) only abuse the people that are too small to kick his butt. Lots of autistic people are highly intelligent. They know that they better not kick, hit, scream, bite someone who will go loco on them, so they abuse the people who have to put up with it, like siblings and peers at school.
My mother has made the same choices with my younger brother. He is violent, spoiled and abusive. He is at his worst when he is with her. But he manages to control himself quite a bit when he's with me. It's not mystery. I'm 25 years his senior and I've been whipping his butt like he was one of my own kids since he was 4 years old. My house is the ******ONLY***** place where he acts like a semi-reasonable human being. He bites teaches, punches classmates, scratches and scrapes at the faces of therapists. He can't talk, can't sign,--nothing. I have had calm talks, warm talks, heated arguments and screaming matches with my mother about her need to find my brother an outlet to speak. I offered to pay for a sign language instructor. No go. Now I just feel like my mother is going to continue to smoke herself to death and I will get stuck with this trainwreck of a human being. The father is the provost of a university in Oklahoma, and he does NOTHING but send a state-mandated check in support of my brother. I've got 5 kids myself, including one who is autistic. However, my autistic child averages a 3.0-3.5 grade point average, is totally self-managed and very teachable. Wanna guess who made sure of that? Mama did. We give way too many excuses and wild, free reign to autistic children, infantalizing them and telling ourselves that they just can't do any better. That's a lie and a half. And I just am sick to my stomach that I will eventually inherent the defective result of two other peoples fornicative screw.
I registered this account just to tell you how much of an irrational bitch you are ConstanceOfTruth to even think it's ok to blame your mother for not beating her autistic child like the dumb bitch that you are. Austism is a SPECTRUM disorder first of all which means there is a large spectrum of behaviors that it can encompass at different levels of severity. Your mother being nice to her Autistic child was not the cause of why your brother is how he is, the severity of his disorder is the reason. That is why your son is able to function in a classroom where some are not even able to leave their house. The ignorance that you have presented by thinking that was the case is actually inconceivable that you can be that stupid to 1) blame your mother and 2) talk about your child like it's a fucking competition saying "my child is smart yours isnt." If your child wasn't raised by you I bet they would have a 4.0 like SOME autistic children are able to do, instead of their 3.0-3.5. Autistic children and adults do not attack people because they are nice to them, and to go with the logic that you must make the special needs child fear you from brute force is legitimate child abuse. You are an awful person and I feel terribly bad for each and every one of your 5 children and I believe child protective services should come pay you a visit. It is an awful thought that 5 more people are going to be raised with you as the person teaching them morals and values. Again, I only made this account to tell you that you are an awful human being. By the way, I am in the same situation as the author and I believe it is your choice but please make sure someone good is caring for him and not a home that just drugs him and ties him down. Best luck to everyone in the same and similar struggles
I won't take care of my autistic brother when my parents die, IIN?
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I really just can't label you as selfish at all. He's not your child. You had NO say and NO control over his being created. It sounds like you have had NO say and NO control over how he is being raised. Meanwhile, your parents who have had ALL of the control and ALL of the say in how your brother would be raised have made the choice to raise a large, selfish, childish abuser. The very fact that your autistic brother CHOOSES to hit anyone who is smaller than him seems indicative of a self-preservational choice to 1) abuse people 2) only abuse the people that are too small to kick his butt. Lots of autistic people are highly intelligent. They know that they better not kick, hit, scream, bite someone who will go loco on them, so they abuse the people who have to put up with it, like siblings and peers at school.
My mother has made the same choices with my younger brother. He is violent, spoiled and abusive. He is at his worst when he is with her. But he manages to control himself quite a bit when he's with me. It's not mystery. I'm 25 years his senior and I've been whipping his butt like he was one of my own kids since he was 4 years old. My house is the ******ONLY***** place where he acts like a semi-reasonable human being. He bites teaches, punches classmates, scratches and scrapes at the faces of therapists. He can't talk, can't sign,--nothing. I have had calm talks, warm talks, heated arguments and screaming matches with my mother about her need to find my brother an outlet to speak. I offered to pay for a sign language instructor. No go. Now I just feel like my mother is going to continue to smoke herself to death and I will get stuck with this trainwreck of a human being. The father is the provost of a university in Oklahoma, and he does NOTHING but send a state-mandated check in support of my brother. I've got 5 kids myself, including one who is autistic. However, my autistic child averages a 3.0-3.5 grade point average, is totally self-managed and very teachable. Wanna guess who made sure of that? Mama did. We give way too many excuses and wild, free reign to autistic children, infantalizing them and telling ourselves that they just can't do any better. That's a lie and a half. And I just am sick to my stomach that I will eventually inherent the defective result of two other peoples fornicative screw.
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I registered this account just to tell you how much of an irrational bitch you are ConstanceOfTruth to even think it's ok to blame your mother for not beating her autistic child like the dumb bitch that you are. Austism is a SPECTRUM disorder first of all which means there is a large spectrum of behaviors that it can encompass at different levels of severity. Your mother being nice to her Autistic child was not the cause of why your brother is how he is, the severity of his disorder is the reason. That is why your son is able to function in a classroom where some are not even able to leave their house. The ignorance that you have presented by thinking that was the case is actually inconceivable that you can be that stupid to 1) blame your mother and 2) talk about your child like it's a fucking competition saying "my child is smart yours isnt." If your child wasn't raised by you I bet they would have a 4.0 like SOME autistic children are able to do, instead of their 3.0-3.5. Autistic children and adults do not attack people because they are nice to them, and to go with the logic that you must make the special needs child fear you from brute force is legitimate child abuse. You are an awful person and I feel terribly bad for each and every one of your 5 children and I believe child protective services should come pay you a visit. It is an awful thought that 5 more people are going to be raised with you as the person teaching them morals and values. Again, I only made this account to tell you that you are an awful human being. By the way, I am in the same situation as the author and I believe it is your choice but please make sure someone good is caring for him and not a home that just drugs him and ties him down. Best luck to everyone in the same and similar struggles