Good luck with your situation. My autistic deaf half brother, who is 15 years older than me and didn't grow up with me, somehow ended up in my care. My parents are both still alive. My brother, who is two times my weight, will one day end up hitting me and may possibly burn the house down.
I am in my mid 20's, caring for a 40 year old "child", going to school, and working. I have pets as a responsibility on top of that. My brother is on SSI, and my goal is to start a career in something - anything, that will allow me to supplement his income so that he can be on his own in a studio, and I'll just pay someone to check on him/clean three times a week.
I have Asperger's, but it has effected me very little fortunately. I won't put my brother in a home though, I want him to have a life and live freely. But I understand how you feel. It is very hard caring for someone who has no gratitude for the sacrifices you make for them, and responds to it only with abuse.
There needs to be more options for people in our situation. I have a lot of responsibility without caring for this man, but with him added to the mix I am about ready to have a nervous breakdown. I myself am not 100 percent stable. I barely know my brother. I had no idea that this would even be my future, but I'm loyal to my mother and if this is what she wants me to do, I'll do it.
The truth is, your parents had your brother first, and they knew he was autistic. They should have planned for his future financially before having two more children.
I won't take care of my autistic brother when my parents die, IIN?
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Good luck with your situation. My autistic deaf half brother, who is 15 years older than me and didn't grow up with me, somehow ended up in my care. My parents are both still alive. My brother, who is two times my weight, will one day end up hitting me and may possibly burn the house down.
I am in my mid 20's, caring for a 40 year old "child", going to school, and working. I have pets as a responsibility on top of that. My brother is on SSI, and my goal is to start a career in something - anything, that will allow me to supplement his income so that he can be on his own in a studio, and I'll just pay someone to check on him/clean three times a week.
I have Asperger's, but it has effected me very little fortunately. I won't put my brother in a home though, I want him to have a life and live freely. But I understand how you feel. It is very hard caring for someone who has no gratitude for the sacrifices you make for them, and responds to it only with abuse.
There needs to be more options for people in our situation. I have a lot of responsibility without caring for this man, but with him added to the mix I am about ready to have a nervous breakdown. I myself am not 100 percent stable. I barely know my brother. I had no idea that this would even be my future, but I'm loyal to my mother and if this is what she wants me to do, I'll do it.
The truth is, your parents had your brother first, and they knew he was autistic. They should have planned for his future financially before having two more children.