I want to say that you're selfish, but I honestly do sympathize with you. Your brother living with you will impair your life, your goals and will more than likely present challenges that you do not have the life experience to handle. You don't want to be weighed down by someone that can't help but harm others and bring you trouble.
I know a guy that was in the same situation as you, however, he had two twin sisters with Downs Syndrome. When his Mom died, he took the house and responsibility of the sisters. They have since cost him *quite* a bit of money and have gotten him in trouble with the law because of their violent and childish actions. This guy has a son that lives with him and recently my friend had to make the decision to split the sisters and look into a group home because now, the sisters are beginning to make false accusations of domestic violence against his son and his son, who has no criminal record or history of violence and who is 18 and has his whole life ahead of him, could be put into grave legal trouble if the sisters continue what they are doing.
He has tried everything to solve these problems and to no avail. In order to keep himself and his son out of legal trouble and financial peril, he will have to give them up. He loves them and he wishes he didn't have to but his first responsibility, ALL OF OURS, is to himself, and then to his son.
I don't blame you for not wanting to take on such a responsibility. You have seen how your brother's autism has affected your parents life and you *know* how drastic those effects can be, how life consuming caring for someone with violent tendencies due to mental illness can be and you know that it will be just about impossible to conduct a life and have a family in even somewhat of a state of peace with your brother around.
I won't take care of my autistic brother when my parents die, IIN?
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I want to say that you're selfish, but I honestly do sympathize with you. Your brother living with you will impair your life, your goals and will more than likely present challenges that you do not have the life experience to handle. You don't want to be weighed down by someone that can't help but harm others and bring you trouble.
I know a guy that was in the same situation as you, however, he had two twin sisters with Downs Syndrome. When his Mom died, he took the house and responsibility of the sisters. They have since cost him *quite* a bit of money and have gotten him in trouble with the law because of their violent and childish actions. This guy has a son that lives with him and recently my friend had to make the decision to split the sisters and look into a group home because now, the sisters are beginning to make false accusations of domestic violence against his son and his son, who has no criminal record or history of violence and who is 18 and has his whole life ahead of him, could be put into grave legal trouble if the sisters continue what they are doing.
He has tried everything to solve these problems and to no avail. In order to keep himself and his son out of legal trouble and financial peril, he will have to give them up. He loves them and he wishes he didn't have to but his first responsibility, ALL OF OURS, is to himself, and then to his son.
I don't blame you for not wanting to take on such a responsibility. You have seen how your brother's autism has affected your parents life and you *know* how drastic those effects can be, how life consuming caring for someone with violent tendencies due to mental illness can be and you know that it will be just about impossible to conduct a life and have a family in even somewhat of a state of peace with your brother around.
I don't envy your position.