I do not think he hates his brother but he deos not sound fit or quilified to deal with a autistic person. I think.he hates being forced intio something he is not fit for.
It just seems like he's being unreasonably mean about the whole thing i suppose. I do try to see the best in people, I was feeling a bit cynical when I made this comment. I suppose I'm a little biased, my boyfriends brother has CP and my bf works for him as a care attendant. He doesn't really want to and ts a frustrsting job, they're fighting to keep getting paid (op probably could be called on as a paid pca if he did decide to do it, though I'm not sure how it works in different regions) . But he does very well at handling all that, where it seems like OP is blaming his brother for being disabled, when it's not really his fault :/
He is not being mean. He is frustrated that is coming across as mean. You fail to see his frustration and after years of watching his brother attack and beat people and get his mother sued I think this would because a type of resentment.
Not to mention he stated his brother is bigger and stronger than him. He probably is as well in fear of his brother one day killing him. Yes he may be Autistic but his brother sounds very dangerous and would need a professional to deal with him.
Its basically like asking him to take care of a criminally insane he does not sound qualified. Also given the state of his brother we can not assume that the boy may not have hurt his mentally full functioning brothers friends as well? I mean do you not think this might lead to hatred?
I do not think he completely hates his brother I think he extremely frustrated and on top of that he is given the burden of having to take care of his brother who is 26 and bigger and stronger and go’s on a fit over the smallest things. The functioning brother could possibly end up dead because of it.
I think they need to get someone to get some serious care for this man as he is a hazard. I mean if he can not control his brother rage that might get him hurt and he stated he does not want to go to court like his mother had in the past. Taking in his brother may become his doom and It sounds like his brother is too violent to take care of.
You are too quick to judge. Unless you are trained in this kind of thing I think it would be extremely difficult dealing with someone so violent and unable to control. He says he had trouble Controlling his brother in the past so the fact his parents want to hand them off to him when they die is asking for trouble.
Also I do not think he is blaming his brother. I think deep down he deos care about his brother. I think he deos not like being punished for the fact.
His parents decided to have a child not him. He did not say he was going to have a baby to take care of. He is being burdened with something he can not deal with.
The fact you say he is a horrible person is proboly excactly what his family is saying. He is being guilted into taking care of his mentally dysfuctioning Sibling.
I won't take care of my autistic brother when my parents die, IIN?
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Nah, you're being pretty selfish. Not necessarily for the decision you're making, but because of your attitude toward your brother.
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I do not think he hates his brother but he deos not sound fit or quilified to deal with a autistic person. I think.he hates being forced intio something he is not fit for.
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It just seems like he's being unreasonably mean about the whole thing i suppose. I do try to see the best in people, I was feeling a bit cynical when I made this comment. I suppose I'm a little biased, my boyfriends brother has CP and my bf works for him as a care attendant. He doesn't really want to and ts a frustrsting job, they're fighting to keep getting paid (op probably could be called on as a paid pca if he did decide to do it, though I'm not sure how it works in different regions) . But he does very well at handling all that, where it seems like OP is blaming his brother for being disabled, when it's not really his fault :/
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He is not being mean. He is frustrated that is coming across as mean. You fail to see his frustration and after years of watching his brother attack and beat people and get his mother sued I think this would because a type of resentment.
Not to mention he stated his brother is bigger and stronger than him. He probably is as well in fear of his brother one day killing him. Yes he may be Autistic but his brother sounds very dangerous and would need a professional to deal with him.
Its basically like asking him to take care of a criminally insane he does not sound qualified. Also given the state of his brother we can not assume that the boy may not have hurt his mentally full functioning brothers friends as well? I mean do you not think this might lead to hatred?
I do not think he completely hates his brother I think he extremely frustrated and on top of that he is given the burden of having to take care of his brother who is 26 and bigger and stronger and go’s on a fit over the smallest things. The functioning brother could possibly end up dead because of it.
I think they need to get someone to get some serious care for this man as he is a hazard. I mean if he can not control his brother rage that might get him hurt and he stated he does not want to go to court like his mother had in the past. Taking in his brother may become his doom and It sounds like his brother is too violent to take care of.
You are too quick to judge. Unless you are trained in this kind of thing I think it would be extremely difficult dealing with someone so violent and unable to control. He says he had trouble Controlling his brother in the past so the fact his parents want to hand them off to him when they die is asking for trouble.
Also I do not think he is blaming his brother. I think deep down he deos care about his brother. I think he deos not like being punished for the fact.
His parents decided to have a child not him. He did not say he was going to have a baby to take care of. He is being burdened with something he can not deal with.
The fact you say he is a horrible person is proboly excactly what his family is saying. He is being guilted into taking care of his mentally dysfuctioning Sibling.
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As a person in a similar situation as the OP I thank you for showing me that there are some people still out there with a lick of sense in their head.
shut up shade it is has own feeling DO NOT EVER JUDGE SOMEONE it is has right he has cleary earned it
thats not the main reason
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