It's getting a man shes marrying that has the problem with it. Historically the males had the family power so transfering names was a way to transfer power. Now a days it's just tradition and straying from tradition especially something as ingrained as the family's name is hard to do. Especially if you are trying to gain the approval of your in laws now.
I get what you mean but I know loads of kids who have their mother's name. I have my mother's name. I really don't think it's assumed anymore that the kids will have their father's name.
I have one of those jobs where your last name is quite important and changing it can fuck things up for you professionally, and as such I don't know of any other women through my work place who changed their name when they got married, and it's therefore a pretty mixed back as to which name their kids end up with. The couple decides between them. My kids have their Dad's name but that's because I changed my name when I got married. When I changed it a lot of people were quite shocked because it's not really the done thing in my profession. A few colleagues bluntly told me that I was being stupid. I'm still happy with my decision because I think it's nice for my kids that we all the same name, like a proper family, but I do sometimes worry that I've made myself start again professionally, and all the published papers with my name on are now not really associated with my professional name unless I explain that I took my husband's name. It's a pain in the arse.
I wish I was a boy so I could pass on my last name
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It's getting a man shes marrying that has the problem with it. Historically the males had the family power so transfering names was a way to transfer power. Now a days it's just tradition and straying from tradition especially something as ingrained as the family's name is hard to do. Especially if you are trying to gain the approval of your in laws now.
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I get what you mean but I know loads of kids who have their mother's name. I have my mother's name. I really don't think it's assumed anymore that the kids will have their father's name.
I have one of those jobs where your last name is quite important and changing it can fuck things up for you professionally, and as such I don't know of any other women through my work place who changed their name when they got married, and it's therefore a pretty mixed back as to which name their kids end up with. The couple decides between them. My kids have their Dad's name but that's because I changed my name when I got married. When I changed it a lot of people were quite shocked because it's not really the done thing in my profession. A few colleagues bluntly told me that I was being stupid. I'm still happy with my decision because I think it's nice for my kids that we all the same name, like a proper family, but I do sometimes worry that I've made myself start again professionally, and all the published papers with my name on are now not really associated with my professional name unless I explain that I took my husband's name. It's a pain in the arse.
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What is your profession?