UPDATE: After long hard times of learning to deal with the fact that I am only human, and I can't accomplish everything I want in the short amount of years that life permits, I'm a better person now. I also think this "middle school act" and "selfishness" that many of the commenters spoke of was actually very healthy in a part of my behavioral structure in society. The unneccessary feelings I had of displeasure helped construct a better and healthier life I have now, in all of their ways.
For birthdays, I have realized that when you want everything to go well, something will always go wrong, and I finally had a birthday that wasn't perfect, but was good enough to make me laugh and smile.
As for the best friend with a new girlfriend thing I wrote about? I still think that is completely fair. Anybody in that situation would be envious when feeling like they are losing their best friend. And in fact, I did lose my best friend through that. And because of it, I learned he wasn't a very good friend at all, and was too absorbed in his relationships to care about any of his friends. AND... The girlfriend? Well, shortly after I confronted her about the issue of my jealousy, we had a long talk over a couple bottles of wine, and now SHE is my best friend. We talk every day, hang out constantly, and laugh about the times I used to hate her so much.
As for my sister, my parents finally cut her off and have acknowledged to me through long heartfelt conversations that they were mistaken to spoil her, knowing she had a manipulative history, and we all get along now. And my sister and I have a healthy relationship.
And to the people that called me immature and whatnot: Seriously? Somebody is trying to reach out for help and you are just going to ridicule them? You were being just as mean as I was being. I hope that these days, the only people you are being mean to are kitten rapists or people that curb stomp babies, and not persons reaching out on the internet wondering if they are normal or what is wrong with them.
I will hate you... no matter how good of friends we used to be.
← View full post
UPDATE: After long hard times of learning to deal with the fact that I am only human, and I can't accomplish everything I want in the short amount of years that life permits, I'm a better person now. I also think this "middle school act" and "selfishness" that many of the commenters spoke of was actually very healthy in a part of my behavioral structure in society. The unneccessary feelings I had of displeasure helped construct a better and healthier life I have now, in all of their ways.
For birthdays, I have realized that when you want everything to go well, something will always go wrong, and I finally had a birthday that wasn't perfect, but was good enough to make me laugh and smile.
As for the best friend with a new girlfriend thing I wrote about? I still think that is completely fair. Anybody in that situation would be envious when feeling like they are losing their best friend. And in fact, I did lose my best friend through that. And because of it, I learned he wasn't a very good friend at all, and was too absorbed in his relationships to care about any of his friends. AND... The girlfriend? Well, shortly after I confronted her about the issue of my jealousy, we had a long talk over a couple bottles of wine, and now SHE is my best friend. We talk every day, hang out constantly, and laugh about the times I used to hate her so much.
As for my sister, my parents finally cut her off and have acknowledged to me through long heartfelt conversations that they were mistaken to spoil her, knowing she had a manipulative history, and we all get along now. And my sister and I have a healthy relationship.
And to the people that called me immature and whatnot: Seriously? Somebody is trying to reach out for help and you are just going to ridicule them? You were being just as mean as I was being. I hope that these days, the only people you are being mean to are kitten rapists or people that curb stomp babies, and not persons reaching out on the internet wondering if they are normal or what is wrong with them.