I totally agree with being prepared; and while having someone who checks on you is a good idea. The most practical idea is to have an emergency escape bag... that you can just grab and run out of the house with (in whatever state of dress or undress you are in).
This could be a small purse. Key contents:
1) A flimsy colored emergency rain coat - so you have something to wear. These are commonly sold in the USA for several dollars and they are folded up in a sealed plastic bag.
2) A modest amount of money (in cash form) and/or some form of debit/credit card. This allows you to take a taxi somewhere and buy some food and drink (not to mention other basics you may need).
3) A back up cell phone. Do not use your normal cell phone. Many thugs will intentionally separate you from your normal cell phone. Have a back up (cheap Tracfone, etc: I have a $29 Tracfone that I got years ago for certain internet contacts, it cost me about $60/year to keep it active).
Your backup phone should have key contacts, and perhaps Lyft/Uber, etc. Keep it on SILENT so no one knows that its in that bag. Routinely charge it: Make it part of your routine that its charged, on silent, and in the emergency bag prior to letting anyone in the house for sex that you have not established a good relationship with.
4) Some form of picture ID.
5) A spare house key. Perhaps a spare car key too.
6) If its legal in your State or country: a small can of mace, or equivalent. You could have some of these stashed near the door separate from the emergency bag so you can slow them down if they are pursuing. I'd not have it in the bedroom - as it's more likely to be used against you there.
Now, you are ready to cut and run at a moments notice - even if naked. You could likely be out of the house in less than 30 seconds if you felt threatened (perhaps less than 10 seconds). Just don't go back in without support; which may involve having the police with you.
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Part 2 of 2: Preparedness:
I totally agree with being prepared; and while having someone who checks on you is a good idea. The most practical idea is to have an emergency escape bag... that you can just grab and run out of the house with (in whatever state of dress or undress you are in).
This could be a small purse. Key contents:
1) A flimsy colored emergency rain coat - so you have something to wear. These are commonly sold in the USA for several dollars and they are folded up in a sealed plastic bag.
2) A modest amount of money (in cash form) and/or some form of debit/credit card. This allows you to take a taxi somewhere and buy some food and drink (not to mention other basics you may need).
3) A back up cell phone. Do not use your normal cell phone. Many thugs will intentionally separate you from your normal cell phone. Have a back up (cheap Tracfone, etc: I have a $29 Tracfone that I got years ago for certain internet contacts, it cost me about $60/year to keep it active).
Your backup phone should have key contacts, and perhaps Lyft/Uber, etc. Keep it on SILENT so no one knows that its in that bag. Routinely charge it: Make it part of your routine that its charged, on silent, and in the emergency bag prior to letting anyone in the house for sex that you have not established a good relationship with.
4) Some form of picture ID.
5) A spare house key. Perhaps a spare car key too.
6) If its legal in your State or country: a small can of mace, or equivalent. You could have some of these stashed near the door separate from the emergency bag so you can slow them down if they are pursuing. I'd not have it in the bedroom - as it's more likely to be used against you there.
Now, you are ready to cut and run at a moments notice - even if naked. You could likely be out of the house in less than 30 seconds if you felt threatened (perhaps less than 10 seconds). Just don't go back in without support; which may involve having the police with you.
I wish you well with this,