Because of the power and influence a therapist has on her patient, I think it's relatively common to be attracted to them. So yes, it's pretty normal. She may have been especially appealing because you've only been clean a relatively short time (I'm not downplaying it, every day is a victory, but as these things go, not very long) and you may be looking to fill the void left behind by the drug.
It sounds like maybe she was kind of a bitch about it; but don't allow yourself to use that as an excuse for relapse (which your train of thought kind of hints at).
You fought for this sobriety and victory, don't lose that, don't go back to square one. This is true with everybody to some extent, but more true with addicts; when we really really want to do something we know we shouldn't do, we have ways of rationalizing that behavior and tricking ourselves. I know how the cycle works, when something shitty happens, you feel more vulnerable and go back to the drug for comfort (which is why you need some other healthy outlets), but you really don't want to do that.
Hang out with (non using or drinking) friends, walk or jog, hike, listen to music, get a hobby, try to keep yourself busy.
Do you have an NA sponsor? Get a hold of him, he's there for this exact situation.
If you use, you'll almost certainly get hooked again.
When you're wavering and on the brink, when you hear the drug calling out to you, you just gotta fight it like hell and hold out until the urge goes away.
Take comfort in the knowledge that it gets easier with time.
Call your sponsor.
I want to have sex with my addiction therapist.
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Because of the power and influence a therapist has on her patient, I think it's relatively common to be attracted to them. So yes, it's pretty normal. She may have been especially appealing because you've only been clean a relatively short time (I'm not downplaying it, every day is a victory, but as these things go, not very long) and you may be looking to fill the void left behind by the drug.
It sounds like maybe she was kind of a bitch about it; but don't allow yourself to use that as an excuse for relapse (which your train of thought kind of hints at).
You fought for this sobriety and victory, don't lose that, don't go back to square one. This is true with everybody to some extent, but more true with addicts; when we really really want to do something we know we shouldn't do, we have ways of rationalizing that behavior and tricking ourselves. I know how the cycle works, when something shitty happens, you feel more vulnerable and go back to the drug for comfort (which is why you need some other healthy outlets), but you really don't want to do that.
Hang out with (non using or drinking) friends, walk or jog, hike, listen to music, get a hobby, try to keep yourself busy.
Do you have an NA sponsor? Get a hold of him, he's there for this exact situation.
If you use, you'll almost certainly get hooked again.
When you're wavering and on the brink, when you hear the drug calling out to you, you just gotta fight it like hell and hold out until the urge goes away.
Take comfort in the knowledge that it gets easier with time.
Call your sponsor.
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What an amazingly perceptive and supportive response! I hope OP reads it and follows your advice.
Well said. Superior advice. Good job Bro.