I want to have an affair

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So, I have been married now for just under a year to a wonderful woman who takes very good care of our 8 month old son. I work 30+ hours a week while going to college two days a week from 8a-9p. My wife works 30 hours a week and we pretty much never see each other. I love my wife but because of our lack of time together most of our time together is filled with fighting. When we first got together we ha sex 3-4 times a day and now its a newsflash if its three times a month. I know it is normal for things to slow down, but I am surprised it is this much as I still have the energy.

She is insecure with the fact that the majority of my friends are women from college, as she is not enrolled and has no plans to get a degree in the near future (which I do not care about in the least if she has a degree or not) Anyway, my issue is that at times I consider having an affair. It is not that i would actually go through with it as breaking my family apart would certainly not better the situation. But, is the actual want to have the affair in itself normal?

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  • sherlock
    14 years ago

    look idiot 1st yes ofcourse its not normal 2nd the next time u see your wife grab her ass pick her up and throw her on the bed and bang her and then tell her that you love her and stop thinking about having an affair because one day its gonna come back and screw ur life.

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  • olivia82
    14 years ago

    sounds normal. Tell your wife...you may want to separate before you go having the afair.

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  • seali001
    12 years ago

    The fact that you are thinking of having an affair is why she dont want you hanging out with those single college girls. You probably talk about them to your wife...huge mistake! Woman have very strong intuition...just remember that!

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  • penelope13
    14 years ago

    Though not sophisticated, I like Sherlock's comment. Funny. It's perfectly normal for you to feel this way but I suspect that if you were having regular sex and good intimacy with your woman, you wouldn't be having this problem. Tell your wife your thoughts on wanting more intimacy/less fighting because you don't want to go outside of the marriage. You seem like a good guy with fair judgement and at one time you had a healthy sexual relationship. Find a good relationship therapist that could help you work out the kinks and rekindle the flames.

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    • twistedsoul
      11 years ago

      I agree, have a chat about it. You dont want to eventually succumb to that thought. Be honest, thats what my bf did with me.

      Maybe try some new things, or even romance her with the same old, same old.

      Firstly, do the whole chat thing. Second, initiate sexy-time. Finally, negotiate butt sex.

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    • Sarrie
      14 years ago

      Your woman? Man, that is wrong.

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  • Enizzle
    13 years ago

    That's what I say. "My woman."

    And that bitch gets hollowed out AT LEAST 5 times a week.

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