My husband wants to be a dog, they are all idiots!
Anyway, let me tell you from experience of 16 years of marriage..what you are doing now will set a tone/precedent/whatever you want to call it. If he resents you that is simply the type of person he is. If you resent him it will be because you chose to subordinate yourself...wel, really to a dog. He did not marry a dog, he married you. You have a child (that's when I got rid of our dog) and the child obviously must come first so if the dog is taking away from your ability to give the child all the energy it needs the dog must go.
However, don't you take the dog anywhere. It's his dog. make him choose to take it somewhere or to make the situation one that works for you. What is the dog creating in the household. More work. You are doing that work right now. If you had no extra work out of the dog you would keep it, right? Well, easy solution for hubby. Get you help. He can hire you a housekeeper or an au pair.
Can't afford it? Who can't afford it, you or him...who brings in the paycheck? If it's him then he needs to step up his game and start bringing in the money YOU need to have the lifestyle HE seems to think he is currently able to afford. If he wants the dog there are certain basic requirements to owning a dog - one of them is that you have the energy left to care for both him and the child.
To lead up to this what you need to do is simply stop feeding, walking or cleaning up after the dog. You simply don't have the energy, and that's your 'excuse' if he so much as raises the subject that you are not caring for things. When the dog poops or vomits you take the child somewhere there is no poop or vomit and stay out until he has it cleaned up. This may cost money, joining a children's museum, going to get something to eat (or eating out if it's dinner time), etc gets expensive. So again, he has to step it up if he wants to live the 'dog lifestyle'. It's not even about you, it's all about the dog and he needs to understand that. The dog is the driver behind all this...you love the dog, it deserves better and it's his responsibility.
Make it about the dog, because clearly the current situation is not one where he values you all that much.
I want to get rid of our dog but husband disagrees, am I stuck?
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My husband wants to be a dog, they are all idiots!
Anyway, let me tell you from experience of 16 years of marriage..what you are doing now will set a tone/precedent/whatever you want to call it. If he resents you that is simply the type of person he is. If you resent him it will be because you chose to subordinate yourself...wel, really to a dog. He did not marry a dog, he married you. You have a child (that's when I got rid of our dog) and the child obviously must come first so if the dog is taking away from your ability to give the child all the energy it needs the dog must go.
However, don't you take the dog anywhere. It's his dog. make him choose to take it somewhere or to make the situation one that works for you. What is the dog creating in the household. More work. You are doing that work right now. If you had no extra work out of the dog you would keep it, right? Well, easy solution for hubby. Get you help. He can hire you a housekeeper or an au pair.
Can't afford it? Who can't afford it, you or him...who brings in the paycheck? If it's him then he needs to step up his game and start bringing in the money YOU need to have the lifestyle HE seems to think he is currently able to afford. If he wants the dog there are certain basic requirements to owning a dog - one of them is that you have the energy left to care for both him and the child.
To lead up to this what you need to do is simply stop feeding, walking or cleaning up after the dog. You simply don't have the energy, and that's your 'excuse' if he so much as raises the subject that you are not caring for things. When the dog poops or vomits you take the child somewhere there is no poop or vomit and stay out until he has it cleaned up. This may cost money, joining a children's museum, going to get something to eat (or eating out if it's dinner time), etc gets expensive. So again, he has to step it up if he wants to live the 'dog lifestyle'. It's not even about you, it's all about the dog and he needs to understand that. The dog is the driver behind all this...you love the dog, it deserves better and it's his responsibility.
Make it about the dog, because clearly the current situation is not one where he values you all that much.