I think you should make it a condition for your friendship that he doesn't drink, if your description of how alcohol changes him is true. And whether it is a drinking problem or a more general problem, he should get help.
The incidents you mention are not your fault. You are not at fault for one guy beating up another be cause the former was drunk, and you are not at fault for someone forcing himself upon you.
In the rape situation, he did something he should not have done, regardless of whether you had said no. Compare it to a person punching someone, as long as the latter doesn't say 'I don't want to be punched'.
I want to forgive and reconnect with a friend who raped me.
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Whether you want to forgive him is up to you.
I think you should make it a condition for your friendship that he doesn't drink, if your description of how alcohol changes him is true. And whether it is a drinking problem or a more general problem, he should get help.
The incidents you mention are not your fault. You are not at fault for one guy beating up another be cause the former was drunk, and you are not at fault for someone forcing himself upon you.
In the rape situation, he did something he should not have done, regardless of whether you had said no. Compare it to a person punching someone, as long as the latter doesn't say 'I don't want to be punched'.