I know, right? I'm so tired of people saying "you gotta love yourself!!"
Like, geez, is that all? How about doing something for other people instead of moping around, or maybe working?
If someone woke up every day saying "I'm so great" they would be labeled a narcissist (which is true.) Soo dumb.
People do care for people that act good though. Have you seen the way people look up to pastors? They do good stuff all the time and people love them. That just goes to show everyone's good deeds will be rewarded eventually.
The idea behind loving oneself is gaining self confidence. Without self esteem people come across as."trying too hard", "being needy" or as you stated being "annoying".
People that do things that are kind and considerate, often have self confidence and those acts reinforce that.
Unfortunately if your motives aren't pure and your only goal is to build self worth, then the acts lose all meaning because ultimately, they are selfish.
Its tricky.
My advice. Just stop giving a shit about what others think. Be yourself and follow your heart. Thats really the only way to live. There are no shortcuts because deep down you'll know it's just bs.
I want to become a good person but the advice online is bs.
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I know, right? I'm so tired of people saying "you gotta love yourself!!"
Like, geez, is that all? How about doing something for other people instead of moping around, or maybe working?
If someone woke up every day saying "I'm so great" they would be labeled a narcissist (which is true.) Soo dumb.
People do care for people that act good though. Have you seen the way people look up to pastors? They do good stuff all the time and people love them. That just goes to show everyone's good deeds will be rewarded eventually.
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The idea behind loving oneself is gaining self confidence. Without self esteem people come across as."trying too hard", "being needy" or as you stated being "annoying".
People that do things that are kind and considerate, often have self confidence and those acts reinforce that.
Unfortunately if your motives aren't pure and your only goal is to build self worth, then the acts lose all meaning because ultimately, they are selfish.
Its tricky.
My advice. Just stop giving a shit about what others think. Be yourself and follow your heart. Thats really the only way to live. There are no shortcuts because deep down you'll know it's just bs.