Yeah Ive noticed a lot say that the cure to depression is to "love yourself", I also noticed that a lot of depressed people are actually really selfish to begin with, just on the opposite side of that. But anyway, becoming selfless is a good way to go. You know how to do it so why bother with advice online. I have also given up with that optimistic bs, onto be more realistic. Although, I wouldn't expect people to "care for you because you were a good person". Very few people genuinely care about anyone at all. The reward is feeling that you contribute something of value to the world.
I know, right? I'm so tired of people saying "you gotta love yourself!!"
Like, geez, is that all? How about doing something for other people instead of moping around, or maybe working?
If someone woke up every day saying "I'm so great" they would be labeled a narcissist (which is true.) Soo dumb.
People do care for people that act good though. Have you seen the way people look up to pastors? They do good stuff all the time and people love them. That just goes to show everyone's good deeds will be rewarded eventually.
The idea behind loving oneself is gaining self confidence. Without self esteem people come across as."trying too hard", "being needy" or as you stated being "annoying".
People that do things that are kind and considerate, often have self confidence and those acts reinforce that.
Unfortunately if your motives aren't pure and your only goal is to build self worth, then the acts lose all meaning because ultimately, they are selfish.
Its tricky.
My advice. Just stop giving a shit about what others think. Be yourself and follow your heart. Thats really the only way to live. There are no shortcuts because deep down you'll know it's just bs.
Why bash something when you have no idea what it means? Loving yourself has nothing to do with being selfish. Loving yourself means being comfortable in your own skin and accepting yourself for who you are. When one does that, it's easier for them to be considerate of other people. That's why depressed people appear to be selfish...they hate themselves and they're so uncomfortable in their own skin, they can't get out of their own heads and think about other people. Anybody who's been depressed knows what that means...it's a shame people who don't understand things are so eager to give uninformed opinions about it.
I know this reply is super late but I just now saw this and it's something I still wonder about.
Why do people "gatekeep" depression like this? "Oh you don't care enough to hate yourself? Wow it must be cool to have never experienced depression" umm ok? I guess the feelings of wanting to be hurt or dead because I feel so disgusting and ashamed of my constant failures was just fucking bullshit because I'm not as depressed as someone else.
And this is exactly why I do not care about myself anymore. Because no one else does. unless you have the freedom to cut yourself or attempt suicide or something you don't actually have depression. So I've moved onto something else to distract from the negative thoughts. Only live to serve, because who gives a shit about my stupid feelings.
No one is never truly comfortable in their own skin. You would pretty much have to ignore all the ugly parts of yourself to do that.
Plus, I'm not depressed or hate myself. I've just decided to focus on other people. When you focus on other people it is easier to be a good person because you do good stuff.
I don't see what your problem is??
I want to become a good person but the advice online is bs.
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Yeah Ive noticed a lot say that the cure to depression is to "love yourself", I also noticed that a lot of depressed people are actually really selfish to begin with, just on the opposite side of that. But anyway, becoming selfless is a good way to go. You know how to do it so why bother with advice online. I have also given up with that optimistic bs, onto be more realistic. Although, I wouldn't expect people to "care for you because you were a good person". Very few people genuinely care about anyone at all. The reward is feeling that you contribute something of value to the world.
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I know, right? I'm so tired of people saying "you gotta love yourself!!"
Like, geez, is that all? How about doing something for other people instead of moping around, or maybe working?
If someone woke up every day saying "I'm so great" they would be labeled a narcissist (which is true.) Soo dumb.
People do care for people that act good though. Have you seen the way people look up to pastors? They do good stuff all the time and people love them. That just goes to show everyone's good deeds will be rewarded eventually.
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The idea behind loving oneself is gaining self confidence. Without self esteem people come across as."trying too hard", "being needy" or as you stated being "annoying".
People that do things that are kind and considerate, often have self confidence and those acts reinforce that.
Unfortunately if your motives aren't pure and your only goal is to build self worth, then the acts lose all meaning because ultimately, they are selfish.
Its tricky.
My advice. Just stop giving a shit about what others think. Be yourself and follow your heart. Thats really the only way to live. There are no shortcuts because deep down you'll know it's just bs.
Why bash something when you have no idea what it means? Loving yourself has nothing to do with being selfish. Loving yourself means being comfortable in your own skin and accepting yourself for who you are. When one does that, it's easier for them to be considerate of other people. That's why depressed people appear to be selfish...they hate themselves and they're so uncomfortable in their own skin, they can't get out of their own heads and think about other people. Anybody who's been depressed knows what that means...it's a shame people who don't understand things are so eager to give uninformed opinions about it.
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I know this reply is super late but I just now saw this and it's something I still wonder about.
Why do people "gatekeep" depression like this? "Oh you don't care enough to hate yourself? Wow it must be cool to have never experienced depression" umm ok? I guess the feelings of wanting to be hurt or dead because I feel so disgusting and ashamed of my constant failures was just fucking bullshit because I'm not as depressed as someone else.
And this is exactly why I do not care about myself anymore. Because no one else does. unless you have the freedom to cut yourself or attempt suicide or something you don't actually have depression. So I've moved onto something else to distract from the negative thoughts. Only live to serve, because who gives a shit about my stupid feelings.
No one is never truly comfortable in their own skin. You would pretty much have to ignore all the ugly parts of yourself to do that.
Plus, I'm not depressed or hate myself. I've just decided to focus on other people. When you focus on other people it is easier to be a good person because you do good stuff.
I don't see what your problem is??