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I’ve wanted to become a boy for a while. I’ve wondered if I was trans or gender fluid, who knows? Only im afraid of coming out to my parents. On top of that I don’t want to lose being a girl. It’s strange and I’m not sure what to do about it. What can I do about it? And what does a problem like this mean?
Its a short post but I'm guessing you haven't been very open with your personality. I would consider finding who you want to be as a person before making any long term physical changes. Trying new clothes, hair, etc might help, if you're not feeling like who you want to be. I bet you will find what feels right in time.
You can't "become a boy" if you were born a girl. You can become trans if you're prepared to take dangerous hormones for the rest of your life and have your body altered with expensive surgery: drug companies and sex change" surgeons are laughing all the way to the bank.
Why can't you dress and act in accordance with your feelings without giving them gender labels?
I’m a transman and you don’t know shit about what I go through for being transgender. Also she’s either lesbian or tomboy. She could be trans idk. You know what? I apologize for my disgusting behavior. I don’t know how you see us trans people, but please understand not to be ignorant about the topic.
Settle down there: I said nothing about transpeople being disgusting and I don't believe you or any others should be discriminated against or villified.
Would you care to answer the question in my original post? When I've asked trans people about their feelings, it's ALWAYS turned out they have feelings which don't fit the stereotype for their gender and the next step is to feel they're the other gender trapped in the wrong body.
You mean they feel feelings which are stereotypically the feelings of the other gender? That's exactly what I'm saying. It doesn't mean they ARE the other gender in disguise and need to take dangerous hormones and undergo surgery.
It's possible to feel any feelings without automatically labelling them as male or female.
I’m straight and I’m quite girly, it’s weird that I want to be a boy though. Its just that I don’t fancy being a girl.
Become a Tom Boy, go do a bit of scissoring and hang around with some lads
All of the transgender is terms are so confusing to me, lets just call you bi or gay ok? Most gay people would like to be the opposite sex. Have you looked as Chaz Bono? If he/she wasn’t a celebrity with some Cher money going for him/her or himself/herself being a ticket to all the right places I hardly doubt any woman would want to sleep with him/her. Chaz’s girlfriend was a recovering alcoholic and immediately fell off the wagon when Chaz wanted to have a mastectomy and begin taking hormones to grow a beard.
Gay women and straight men are turned on by boobs! Enjoy being and dressing like the sex that you want to be and enjoy having sex with a person who is turned on by the gender that you are.
Don’t have surgery, enjoy your body and enjoy turning your partner on.
I'm a guy, and many times I have wished to have my own real breasts. I'm not sure how I could go about giving up that make part of myself that I'm rather fond of. Lol.I kinda like my penis.
You're a Tomboy. No worries, I am too. All it means is you're a girl who prefers "male" activities. If society didn't hold gender roles so strongly, then what you're doing would be considered normal.
It's okay to not know who you are yet! I'm not sure if you're young or old, but just know even if you don't know yet, there are people who are in their 30's or 40's who are beginning to find out who they are, transition, ect.
Genderfluid is a thing, and it's also possible
It's also important to speak to a therapist about these things if you can, hopefully one that's not biased on these sorts of things.
In my opinion, take things slow, do some things a little at a time, like wearing masculine clothes, cutting your hair, ect. to see if you're comfortable with it and if you are, you can take things from there and try to figure yourself out, best wishes!
Transgender is a thing.
Genderfluid, is not.
If you stop considering genderfluid as a real thing, I'll give you my input.
Be both. I'm into the whole cross dressing thing and technically fit the definition of transgender, but I don't see the point of transitioning. Personally I think it's a waste of resources; but of course, people are free to do whatever they want with their own bodies. It's just another form of "body modification" as far as I'm concerned.
You sound young so I'm not sure how much you can really do right now, but just play around with whatever looks good. You don't have to label it. The original term for that, before all the gender spectrum stuff, was basically just "androgynous", or even "tomboy".
As a Trans girl myself I can tell you this is not ever an easy decision. I struggled for YEARS with my identity often wondering.
If you are unsure, talk to a therapist if you are able to. Get their input. In the mean time there are things you can do to slightly alter your appearance to appear more masculine. You can cut your hair to resemble a more masculine appearance. Change you clothing style to men's clothes. You could even go as far as to get a binder and bind your breasts to present a flatter chest appearance. Coming out is never easy. Please talk with someone and give this a lot of though, especially before you decide to pursue hormone therapy. Good luck to you.