I want my ex boyfriend back

So I hate admitting to this.

When we were dating I was at a low place in. I was often bitchy, which I could tell that would upset him. But that’s not the worst part, I stole money from him, plus items from his mother’s house! He confronted me, and I returned the items. He said we could talk things through, but then he blocked me on everyone. It felt bad, but I knew I was in the wrong. He dosen’t know it, but I also told some guy I was single while I was dating him, but nothing further happened.

But I’m upset he wasn’t supportive of me since I was at such a low place in my life. My grandmother was dying, I lost my job, I her TMJ. My actions were wrong, but I wish he was man enough to look past them.

My question is this, how can I get back with him? Its been several months since our break up. He’s blocked me on everything, but I don’t believe on his phone. I texted him that I think of him often, but he didn’t send anything babl

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  • You sound like a burden to be around. I’m glad your boyfriend decided to leave your pathetic ass - good for him.

    You stole from him, his mother, then contemplate cheating on him, and now you want to play victim since he won’t speak to you? Do you not see how amoral that is? If you don’t see it as an issue, dont date until you do.

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  • MAN ENOUGH to look past you stealing shit and acting like a bitch??? The only way he WOULDN'T be man enough was if he just took such behaviour like a pathetic doormat. He did absolutely the right thing.
    If anything it's low to blame shitty behaviour on difficult happenings in life or mental health. That is only an excuse. Get your shit together. If he wasn't supportive of you then he's not good for you obviously so instead of acting out like a little attention starved baby you should've had a serious talk with him and just dumped him if he still wasn't there for you. I doubt he'd be any better in a relationship if he gave you another chance after this bullshit though and I doubt you'd be any better either considering you don't seem to see just how problematic you've actually been. Get help.

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    • I wish I could give you ten thumbs up, man! 👍🏻

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    • I expect a true man to defend his girl no matter what she does. We all make mistakes and go through hard times. He should have had my back and not his mother’s.

      But I miss him, he was supportive in other matters. He drive 6 hours with me to see my grandmother, which I liked.

      I used to always get him presents, many expensive. I think that should have been a sign to him I loved him and should have supported me in bad times.

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      • People are not helping you because you buy them presents. That's trying to buy someone. You obviously have a lot of issues and don't understand how a realtionship work.

        To deserve a true man, you have to be a true woman. Which you are absolutely clearly NOT.

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      • How you define a true man is just what the rest of the world defines a a spineless pushover.

        Maybe he got tired of having you as his girl, and didn't want you anymore after you betrayed him, and his family with your selfish, entitled, triflin behavior?

        He was smart to choose his mother, because she gave birth to him, and cared for him whereas you're just a common criminal who stole from him, and betrayed him.

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      • Good on him for supporting his mother instead of you.

        Why would he want to get back with you and why would you want to get back to him when you're still so critical of him?

        This has no future: move on and in future don't steal from people

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        • Yes!

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        • Because he was sweet and i truly loves him. I listened to him when he was going hard times.

          I just thought he was perfect for me. I wanted him to be a true man to help me get out my mess. I wanted him to guide like my father who was never there. I wanted him to look past my faults and make me a person.

          I’m critical because I love him, and I’m too embarrassed of myself. I want him back but don’t know how.

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          • I want, I want, I want, I want and when I can't get what I want I'll steal it. Listen to yourself, you sound like a toddler whose toy has been taken away.

            You're not going to get him back if he has any sense and self respect.

            How about instead of talking rubbish about him being a "true man" (WTF does that mean?) you learn to be a true and honest human being: grow up and stop being so self-centred.



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          • Sounds more delusional, and borderline parasitic to be completely honest. I'm not trying it be mean, I'm just keeping it real, cause that's how I roll.

            You've obviously got some serious daddy issues, and your expectations for that poor guy were completely unrealistic.

            I personally think you need some professional mental health therapy.

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      • So you bought those expensive presents with his money? Hahaha

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        • No.

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        • I bought stuff for myself with money he wanted I buy for shoes and was going to get a surprise for me.

          I did steal some of his mother’s medications and money from her room when I spent the night for Christmas.

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          • So your Christmas present to these poor people was stealing from them? That is so awful. You really have no conscience. Do you even have a soul?

            Maybe you just want to go back there to steal more money, drugs, and whatever else you can get your sticky fingerss on there.

            What kind of person pays people back for their kindness, and hospitality by stealing from them on Christmas? SHAME ON YOU!!!

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      • Wow! You are so entitled, and selfish; I don't like that. No one needs to stand by a thief.

        The only thing you can do is to apologize, and admit how shitty a thing it was of you to steal from this guy, and his mother.

        Honestly, if I had a brother, I wouldn't want someone like you to even look at him. You are not the victim in this situation, you are the perpetrator of a crime. He was smart to breakup with you! No one needs a thief in their life.

        What you need is professional help, because with you it's all selfish entitlement, and lots of feeling sorry for yourself, and playing the victim. Your attitude about this has Cluster B personality disorder written all over it.

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  • You were a bitch and you even stole from him AND his mom and know you're asking for forgiveness? Not gonna fucking happen. You suffering is just an excuse. A lot of people have it way worse than you do and they're not fucking assholes to their loved ones.
    You've send you yourself to destination fucked. You got what you deserve no deal with it.
    Use it as a lesson to never do this again and become a better person.

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    • Because you’ve never made a mistake in your life? Sorry Mr. Pefect! It dude that’s seen like your a real man, just like him!

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      • It's not about being perfect. There's a big difference between making a mistake and being a real cunt. You were a real cunt.
        Some "mistakes" are not forgivable. It's way too easy to be a fucking cunt and just say afterwards "I'm sorry, I've made mistakes it happens". You have a to deal with the consequences of your actions. Consequences here being him leaving you for a way better person.
        Don't be sorry. Be better. Or else you'll always be a cunt.

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  • If someone stole from me, or my family for any reason it would be an absolute deal breaker! Please just leave him alone.

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    • I still love him. I think about him daily and my life hasn’t been the same since we broke up!

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      • So did you think you could steal money and medication from him and his mother and your life would go on as if nothing had happened? You may want him back but you don't know what love is: it's not just a fucking word, it's an action and the way you acted towards him and his mother forfeited any hope of him keeping you around unless he's a complete idiot.

        Stop whingeing as if you're the victim here, you are not, you are a selfish self-centred dishonest person and if you have any sense you'll take this breakup as a catalyst for change.

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      • It's highly doubtful that he will ever take you back. What you need is to learn your lesson about stealing, and never do that sort of thing to anyone ever again!

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  • Sorry you were going through a hard time but he didn't do anything wrong by breaking up with you. You stole from him and his mother! And it seems like you were considering cheating on him. It's too late to get him back, but maybe if you work on becoming a better person you'll eventually deserve someone just as good.

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    • I’m not a bar person, I was just going through a bad time!

      And think we all wish to be with somebody else from time to time, so if I told a guy I was single while dating, why does it matter if nothing else followed.

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      • Haven't we all gone through bad times? That's no excuse to steal from people close to you.

        Oh and I see, it's also ok to lie to someone you're dating?

        You sound completely dishonest and untrustworthy to me and I'm really glad I don't know you

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      • You're a TERRIBLE person right now.
        Change for your own sake.

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      • ... you're still a thief!

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        • I’m sure you’ve never stolen from anybody or have done anything drastic in a moment of despair!

          You should be thankful I’m not mental after all I’ve been through!

          Did you see your dad, who you knew never wanted you, commit suicide? Have you had a bipolar mother? Have you at a young age had to care for a nasty grandma with dementia? Have you battle TMJ with severe pain and no insurance for 3 years! I’m only human.

          I knew which drawer he hid money in that intended on spending, which was $150. He wanted a buy new shoes (the store he likes is local and dude t take cards) and says he was going to get me a gift with it as well. I wanted other things so I took it. I was at his house last Christmas and watching the food while he went to the nursing home with his parents to see his grandmother. I did take her painkillers and found some money in her room.

          And yes I did think of cheating. I wanted more sex since he wasn’t giving as much from stress from his job and grandmother. I didn’t want to be last in the eyes of somebody I loved! But I didn’t do it, so we be self-righteous and critzsizw me!

          It was a stupid mistake and I said sorry! I wanted to apologize to his family but was too embarrassed. And yes to ease myncobsiois I started to blame hm.

          But I still love him. He was so cute and dorky. I just want him back!

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          • No, I have NEVER stolen from anyone! I've said some jacked up shit to people, but I'm not a thief. I hope you get the psychiatric help that you need, I really do. You're lucky you didn't steal from me, or my family, because we would have called the cops on your ass, and pressed charges.

            I'm sorry for all the hardships you have endured in your life, but it doesn't excuse you from stealing, and looking to cheat on this dude. Most people with a good head on their shoulders wouldn't take you back, and that's a fact.

            You're only hope is to be honest, and make amends, not excuses, to him. Apologize in all sincerity. Don't pressure him to forgive you, or take you back. Just accept responsibility for the awful, and selfish things that you have done.

            I don't know you, but you give off a weird junkie vibe, like nothing you've ever done wrong is your fault, and like you can't accept responsibility for any of your actions.

            I don't wish you ill, but you need to accept responsibility for the wrongs you have done instead of constantly making excuses.

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  • Just out of curiosity, what and why did you steal from his mother? And what was his stolen money for?

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    • She didn't steal a brain obviously...

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    • She stole prescription drugs from his mother, because she's selfish, and probably wanted to get high.

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      • I didn't see that in the post or comments but it makes sense.

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        • I'm just really stunned at how selfish, and entitled she is. She's probably a sociopath, she seems to have no conscience.

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          • I'm convinced this is just a troll.

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            • I'm giving you this. 👍🏻

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            • Yeah, she said this one thing that was so wack, and cringey. She said, "You should be thankful I’m not mental after all I’ve been through!". All I can think is that she's obviously a completely insane narcissistic weirdo, and like you said, probably a troll. Good grief, why would I need to be thankful? I don't know her, and certainly wouldn't want to know her, not to mention the fact that she's obviously a cornucopia of bat shit crazy, so what's there to be thankful for, besides she's no one special to me.

              I certainly hope she's a troll, but if she isn't I stand by everything I already said about her before.

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