I want my daughter out of my life

Basically, your daughte is a selfish bitch who doesn't care about anyone in her family. It's sad. I'm sorry for you.

Whatever you are doing is not getting through to her. She has been in therapy since age six??!!? You've been trying to convince her something is wrong with her for a long time. My guess she resents you for your trying to fix her and tell her what to do with her life including who to love (the sleaze). Sad that she felt so afraid of you she was willing to take advantage of someone else rather than ask for your help to survive and take care of her child. Can you respect her if she is not exactly like you?

Actually, I can see where you're coming from.

What you need to do is give the final ultimatum. Get better, or leave.

And if she doesn't, change the locks, pack her things, set them outside, and be happy she's gone.

She shouldn't be taking advantage of you like that, and you shouldn't be dealing with it.

She didn't choose to be born. It's your fault so it's your responsibility. I hate irresponsible parents. Sheesh if you want a perfect child that you can choose every criteria for then just adopt or something.

This girls needs to leave. My sister was the exact same way. She lived with me for three years and one day I just got so fed up with her so I changed the locks and Kicked her out. It hurts at first but it will get better. Don't worry, I'm sure tht any mother tht will pay for their child to go to theoropy out of compassion is a wonderfull mother.

regardless of who she is, she is still abusing your trust and is making terrible decisions. she is disrespectful and sounds like she has no morals. you've done your job, she's not a child, you can throw her out. let her fall on her face. I think you should try to get custody of your grandchild, she sounds like she might be selfish enough to let you have him. i feel soooooo sorry for you. here's something else that you might consider. ask yourself these questions: does she ever feel remorse for what she does to people? does she empathize when she sees another person in pain? is she cold, manipulative, and charming? have you ever seen her experience true, deep emotions or have a strong emotional connection to another person? is she capable of loving someone enough to put them before herself... ever? if the answers to these is yes, then your daughter isn't just a jerk, she's a sociopath

What's so bad about the current ex-military guy?

Anyway, I question what you did as a parent to let it get this way.
The past is the past, however. If you want your daughter to have any hope of being independent and self-sufficient, you need to kick her out. As the others said, tough love. Don't come to her rescue anymore. She has to fail, and see what life is like on her own. Chances are she'll straighten up once she realizes that she needs to improve her living conditions, or else she'll just find another person to take care of her and her kid.
My bet is on the latter, seeing as that's all she has been doing so far with her life.

Fight for custody of the grandkid. If she shows having mental issues and can't support herself they would probably
Give you custody. Then kick her out and let her learn life the hard way because obviously she missed that lesson

Not normal

Time for your daughter to pull up her big girl panties and get a life. You too! Threaten to take her baby from her. Maybe she will wake up and smell the coffee. You can't continue to be an enabler. Co-dependent. Look it up. Get a book about it. Read it. Send her packing. You will feel better. Oh, and don't let her try and blackmail you by threatening to cut you out of your grandchild's life, that is just lame!

Go to church this week.

Kill her that'll get rid of her

Were in the same boat, I don't want to know my mother anymore. She physically and emotionally abused me as I had to raise myself and my younger siblings and look after her. I love my siblings and don't want them to get beaten up but I had to leave, because there will come a time when they're older and actually need me. Perhaps you should consider doing this too for ur grandson. If how u tried with ur daughter is anything to go by then I'm sure he'll b more than happy.

there's only so much a person can take. But whatever happens try to maintain a relationship with your grandson.

Time for some 'tough love' there, mama.