Perhaps he doesn't like her and is too shy. He is not being harmed. This would be a wonderful opportunity for him to grow some balls and reject her, if in fact this is the case. A shy person can avoid someone but it sounds like he's just too shy to be flirtatious or sexual.
There is certainly a very good chance this kid could be super happy and excited about this and think it is the luckiest day of his life. But I don't agree that it can't be harmful.
I have had something similar happen to me, and it was one of the most upsetting experiences of my young life. As a teenager, some girl I was siting on a couch with thought she would do me the wonderful favor of jumping on my lap, straddling me, and she started making out with me. I told her to stop and she said "don't worry, I want to do this." Like she was doing me some big ass favor.
I ended up having to forcibly push her off me where gravity caused her to land with a thump on the floor. The feeling from my point of view was terror and violation, and at the same time I felt horrible that I had to physically remove her and hurt her.
So yea, I recommend some type of commination and implied consent before dragging someone on to a bed. Your suggestion below of easing it to it, I think is much better advice.
I have had an experience similar to VinnyB's only in my case I think it was because they were both competing than any way else.
Basically not soon after I started college, these 2 girls started fighting over me, they were both extremely physical grabbing my arm and moving their desks right up to mine during class, trying to hug me and constantly trying to get me to say that I loved one over the other.
To be frank, they both weren't my type(I have standards, and I know that sounds weird once I've said it)
So I was cruelly harsh with them crushing any attempt of getting together, denying I even liked them right to their faces , whenever some guy tried to ask me which one I liked ('cause they thought it was fun.)
I never had to actually push anyone, but I did end up running and hiding a lot.
In the end they both got the message, and have moved onto other guys, & I can rest in peace.
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Perhaps he doesn't like her and is too shy. He is not being harmed. This would be a wonderful opportunity for him to grow some balls and reject her, if in fact this is the case. A shy person can avoid someone but it sounds like he's just too shy to be flirtatious or sexual.
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There is certainly a very good chance this kid could be super happy and excited about this and think it is the luckiest day of his life. But I don't agree that it can't be harmful.
I have had something similar happen to me, and it was one of the most upsetting experiences of my young life. As a teenager, some girl I was siting on a couch with thought she would do me the wonderful favor of jumping on my lap, straddling me, and she started making out with me. I told her to stop and she said "don't worry, I want to do this." Like she was doing me some big ass favor.
I ended up having to forcibly push her off me where gravity caused her to land with a thump on the floor. The feeling from my point of view was terror and violation, and at the same time I felt horrible that I had to physically remove her and hurt her.
So yea, I recommend some type of commination and implied consent before dragging someone on to a bed. Your suggestion below of easing it to it, I think is much better advice.
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I didn't say she should rape the poor boy I just think you're all being too soft on him.
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I have had an experience similar to VinnyB's only in my case I think it was because they were both competing than any way else.
Basically not soon after I started college, these 2 girls started fighting over me, they were both extremely physical grabbing my arm and moving their desks right up to mine during class, trying to hug me and constantly trying to get me to say that I loved one over the other.
To be frank, they both weren't my type(I have standards, and I know that sounds weird once I've said it)
So I was cruelly harsh with them crushing any attempt of getting together, denying I even liked them right to their faces , whenever some guy tried to ask me which one I liked ('cause they thought it was fun.)
I never had to actually push anyone, but I did end up running and hiding a lot.
In the end they both got the message, and have moved onto other guys, & I can rest in peace.