I visit my fiance's ex-girlfriend's blog everyday.

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So here's the deal...

Early into our relationship I came across my fiance's ex-girlfriend's myspace page. I started to visit it frequently, comparing myself to her, reading about her life, sometimes getting totally jealous that she's beautiful, popular, and actually seems really cool.

Over time i've started to visit her blog. I began to realize that she and I actually have a lot in common. I genuinely find her blog interesting, because she posts a lot of music, fashion, and art, and our styles are practically the same. I'm now a daily reader of her blog, and find myself checking for updates when I check out my other favorite blogs. I genuinely feel like I would get along with her if I were to talk to her, but I feel completely weird about the fact that i'm marrying her ex-boyfriend.

The other night I decided to be bold and confessed to my fiance that I read his ex-girlfriends blog, and that we actually have a lot in common. He didn't take it the way I thought he would - he acted completely weirded out and didn't like the idea at all. I asked him if it bothered him, and he said yes.

Is it normal that i'm even reading her blog on a (sometimes) daily basis? I have a lot of blogs I visit, but now I feel like i'm doing something wrong because I go to her page.

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Comments ( 8 )
  • afleyx
    14 years ago

    i think you sound obsessed. even if it doesn't have to do with the fact that it's his ex-fiance, you're crossing a line with someone that IS his ex-fiance and it's not for you to cross. it's basically like you're stalking her personality to see if you're good enough/better than she was for him. CHILL!

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    • cucui
      14 years ago

      perfectly worded

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  • ralcor
    11 years ago

    Your full of shit. Your a typical jealous little girl and your spying. Grow up and be an adult. Do your finance a favor and break up with him and you go hide underneath a rock. Come out underneath the rock when you grow up!! Don't ruin anybody else's life with your immature bullshit.

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  • mieoux
    14 years ago

    I agree with afleyx

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  • JaneFonda
    14 years ago

    I thikn u should stop, its goign to make it harder for you to see why he is with you. Its great finding out about the ex cause he surely has not really talked about it. i think its normal but u need to stop.

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  • clarity
    14 years ago

    I think it's normal that you stumbled upon a blog of a person that you like and continue to check in to see if there's been any updates, even if the way that you found out about the blog was by being nosy. However, it's definitely normal for your boyfriend to be a little uncomfortable with the idea.

    You're not doing anything wrong or abnormal by checking the blog for updates, but you might take your boyfriend's feelings into consideration about it. Would you want him poking around into the lives of your old friends and partners?

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  • supra661
    14 years ago

    It is a little bit unusual to be so into reading the blog of your fiancee's ex.... If for no other reason than the fact that your fiancee is likely to feel uncomfortable about it.... If it were me in that situation, I would personally be wondering why there is so much curiosity about my ex when that same curiosity could be used to connect (us) together more as a couple if it were focused between us rather than on an ex.

    The thing is, you've told him the truth and you have technically done nothing "wrong". He probably did over react a little bit from what you are describing, but there is no need to be worried at all... Both of you need to just keep in mind that you love each other, forgive one another, and move along to work on making things better rather than focusing any more on the "issue"...

    The thing to think about for yourself here is, which is more important to you? Your fiancee and knowing him even better, OR getting to know his ex girlfriend better? If the answer is your fiancee, then stay true to him and dump the ex-GF blog... It wont hurt you to stop that, and it might even open up an opportunity for you to connect with your fiancee more. -I.e. instead of studying his ex, take that time to study him. Hopefully, he will in turn become even more curious about you too, and that may in due time lead to some very satisfying feelings for you both to know each other better than any one else on the planet. Seek intimacy within your relationship! Your marriage will eventually depend upon it. :)

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  • penelope13
    14 years ago

    I see nothing wrong with visiting her blog, being that you have so much in common with what's she's blogging about. I think you mentioning it to him was probably not necessary. If you're on her blog for just the interest of it, it shouldn't even be an issue for discussion. Maybe ask yourself your motivation and feelings behind reading her blogs..or why you felt compelled to tell your fiance.
    Could you be wondering if you have so much in common with an ex..would your relationship eventually fizz out? I think we all have more in common than we know and when it comes to relationships, it depends on the 2 people to work it out and make it great.

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