I've beenina serious relationship with my boyfriend but im gay

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I do really love my boyfriend but i just dont feel sexually attracted to him. We do have sex all the time but it doesnt feel right. i watch a lot of lesbian porn while he is at work and it really turns me on. I feel better watching the videos rather than doing it with my boyfriend. I also had my eye on one of my neighbors, which is a woman. I really dont know should i tell him or not. please answer, i feel very uncomfortable but i dont want to leave him.

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  • tzrtzr125
    6 years ago | pl

    Both sexes can easily get aroused by watching all girl sex. That's quite normal and it doesn't mean you are a lesbian.
    It may be that you would be aroused with a different partner. You need to tell him what you like and see how he responds.

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  • st_jimmy88
    6 years ago | pl

    Sweetie, I think it's time for you to stop living a lie. You can love someone but not be IN love with them, which is what sounds like is happening here. You're not doing yourself or him any favors by keeping this a secret. You're clearly not fulfilled and getting what would truly make you happy out of this relationship, and the longer you wait and put off the inevitable, the more it's going to hurt him in the end. Trust me on this, I've been in a similar situation. I'm gay and I dated women all through high school, knowing that I was only interested in guys. I had sex with my girlfriends and did all the "normal" straight stuff, but I was never happy. It always felt wrong and very empty to me, and it wasn't until I finally accepted who I was and started dating guys that I finally realized how much happiness I had been denying myself. I waited too long to tell my last girlfriend. I kept going back and forth on whether to tell her or not, and by the time I decided I had to, she had already developed really strong feelings for me and it broke her heart for over a year. I will always regret that. If you're lesbian, that's fine. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. You should go be with a girl you like rather than keeping up an unfulfilling relationship with a guy. You two can still be friends, since you love him, but if you're actually lesbian, I don't believe you could ever be truly happy and complete in a heterosexual relationship. Listen to your heart and let that guide you. I truly hope you find what you're looking for. <3

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