I've always found it difficult to make any friends and never with guys

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I'm 20 and I've just started college. In school I never really had any friends and none that were guys(it was mixed) and college looks to be the same way.
I met 1 friend here but I've heard that she's just using me but someone's better than no-one.
I'm fine when I'm meeting people and I know they like me then but it's after that that I somehow seem to lose contact.It's like when they get to know me, they don't care.I've also never had a boyfriend or a guy friend. A couple of times when I was in clubs,people've said I'm pretty and I've gone through the chat up motions but it's never gone anywhere.
My 6 housemates seem to think I'm fine but not someone they want to spend time with.
I'm shy and I like my own company but too much time on my own and I just get depressed.So is this normal or am I always going to be a loner?

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  • dakaa
    13 years ago | pl

    same here, i don't care, i like being alone.

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  • locoSueno
    10 years ago | pl

    Shy

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  • skysaiyan
    13 years ago | pl

    the same with me i never had friends that are girls after 4th grade.i just dont feel the need to befriend a girl because they'll probably think i like her.the only girls i do talk to are my friends girlfriends, i guess cause i know they are taken and wont think i like them like that.oh and im not gay i do like girls its just some girls think they are all that and want attention so i just ignore girls who seem that way.when i see a girl i think ill like i think about talking to them but as soon as that happens everything that can happen if things turn out good with that girl will start flooding in my head. things from starting to date her and finsh marrying her and having kids, all this in just a few seconds. then i just think nah maybe next time. now this is a problem! maybe i cant commit and want to live a worry free life.who knows, i aint no doctor!

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  • Senken
    13 years ago | pl

    you don't like yourself.

    like yourself and people will like you

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  • quantumboy
    13 years ago | pl

    hehe! you are very normal!! its just that you think u arent and getting shy in the first place.!!
    If you wernt normal, den y would people start talkin to u in the first place. Try doing something new, like playing a guitar or something and try to get into the varsity band... Ull become cool overnight!

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  • tygeronherbed
    13 years ago | pl

    It just sounds like you need to come out of your shell a little more, dont assume you can't make friends. be friendly and out going, find common ground with people. I just started college as a freshmen girl and i already have a boyfriend and three best friends who are guys, and a lot of friends who are girls, its easy just be nice and sincere.

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