I think we’re ready to have sex, but i don’t know how to initiate

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I (19M) think my girlfriend (17F) and I are ready to have sex, but I don’t know how to initiate. Neither of us have had sex before, and we haven’t really talked about it, but we’ve been getting increasingly more intimate lately. She’s been making little remarks, wanting to spent more time alone, and touching me in ways we haven’t touched each other before (I wouldn’t call it foreplay, but close). Last night, we were watching a movie together on the floor in my bedroom. We made out several times, and she started gently stroking my inner thigh. She would kiss me on the neck or the collar bone and let out a little moan (for lack of a better word).

I’m going to see her again Sunday night, and we’re going to have the entire night and next day alone. I think I’m ready to initiate, but I don’t know how. I know it sounds stupid, but I legitimately don’t know what move to make next. She’s so beautiful and caring and sweet, I just want to have her all to myself so I can caress her and make her melt in my arms. I want to give her the pleasure she deserves. She’s legitimately the most loving, wonderful human being I could ever wish to meet. I want it to be romantic.

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  • Fugazi,again
    4 years ago

    Do a mating dance

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  • olderdude-xx
    4 years ago

    If you have not already... tell her that you are new to this as well...

    Also, since she is virgin tell her that while you understand that their may be some pain for her the first time (or so); that you want to be as gentle as possible.

    If possible have her masturbate until she comes - or have her try to teach (guide) you on how to do that to her. Try to get her "wet" before you are going to enter her.

    At least massage her inner thighs and vagina area and get her excited first - if she will allow it.

    Ask her to assist you in guiding you in, and be as gentle as possible. Your probably going to be supper excited - and you may ejaculate before you get fully into her. That is OK. Your erection will continue (or come back very quickly) and you just continue with her. You can ejaculate more than once (less the 2nd time, almost nothing the 3rd time). She can orgasm multiple times (no limits) if you learn how to do that to her.

    This is a learning process. Work together on this: Communicate, experiment. (rasing her butt on a small pillow (couch cushion thickness) often works best to provide the proper angel of entry for the missionary position. Although she may wish to sit on you and ride you from the top. That allows her to control the entry process better.

    Your next date will go much better and you should be able to get fully into her and ejaculate fully inside her - which I have found to be best for both.

    It will likely take some time to learn how to give full pleasure to her... It's vital to learn to do that. But, that usually takes some time - and every woman is different.

    My personal belief is to not use condoms as it feels better and is more satisfying to both partners. However, There is a place to use a condom if you are not aware of the ladies pregnancy possible window (if she is not on other birth control)and their joint STD status. If you are both virgins the chances of either of you having a STD is very low - I personally would not worry about STDs in your situation.

    There are spermicides for birth control as well (I have used them with GF's many times).

    Both condoms and spermicides take some practice to use and interrupt the spontaneity. If you are going to use these - do it jointly as a learning experiment. Note: warm up a spermicide tube in its package by holding it against your body for a while first, in tepid warm water, or under a lamp first to be near body temperature. Ladies do not enjoy cold ones...

    Enjoy and may I wish you a really long term and wonderful relationship.

    Hope this helps

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  • Iszzy123
    4 years ago

    Maybe learn about child support

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      3 years ago

      Or condoms. Probably condoms.

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  • CDmale4fem
    4 years ago

    Go to local library and read the "Kama Sutra."

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  • einexile
    4 years ago

    Don't be too hesitant about this. I think she is waiting for you to take control. Ask her if she's ready, remove an article of her clothing. Ask how far she wants to go, remove something else. Tell her to tell you what feels good. It doesn't matter that you are inexperienced, because everyone's body is different anyway. The key factors here are your confidence, her trust, and communication between you which is clear and open but also brief and not fearful or fussy.

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  • MarieWantsIt
    4 years ago

    You are almost there. Spend time kissing her. Press your body close to her. Touch her breast. If she doesn't resist, press your groin against hers. If she pushes back, start to touch her under her clothes. If she doesn't resist, let nature take over.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    4 years ago

    I should add that it’s completely legal in my state, age of consent is 16.

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