I think this boy likes me but he always talks to me about other girls

I have this friend who I’m honestly really into, and he acts sOOO flirty around me, hugging me and teasing me and stuff, but next second he starts rambling about this girl he kissed at some party and it just makes me go like oh okay, like are you just trying to play with my mind or what’s up? A friend told me it was his way of making me like him more but idk. Feel free to ask anything pls help

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  • Lestat565

    As a guy I can say we can be very stupid lol. It sounds like to me that he’s trying to impress you with his experience. And saying people want him so you should want him cause he’s a wanted guy. But be cautious of if he’s a player. Cause that is a guy you can’t trust for a relationship.

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    • caughtinafairytale

      hahahhaha, thank you!

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      • Lestat565

        Your very welcome. Just ask the guy what he is. Is he looking for someone for a serious relationship or is he looking for a fwb or is he just looking to screw because if your looking for a serious relationship you don’t want those things. And if he’s a player he can’t be trusted no matter what he claims cause he’s then only looking for himself and doesn’t care who he hurts.

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        • caughtinafairytale

          Yeah you're very right. Honestly the thing is, we are friends but not that close and it's not like I've known him for that long. I don't really have any other love interests rn so even if we fooled around I'd be fine with it, but not if he's just gonna confuse me. If he turns out to be like in love with me I would be pretty happy about it but if that were the case i think he would've given me a bigger sign.

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  • Tealights

    Oh gees, I know this tactic all too well.

    Basically, this guy you like isn't worth the trouble due to his level of immaturity, because you're right, it is a mind game. That tactic is to make you jealous and desperate even though he's clearly into you; as in if you don't throw yourself at this guy asap, you'll lose him to another girl at anytime (which you probably already guessed), but it's not going to happen because he's just saying this to light a fire under you. The crazy shit is, all these women he talks about flirting with him could all be lies and typically from men who use this kind of manipulation most of the time it is lies!

    If he's still a teenager or early 20's then he has the 'young guy excuse,' and should best be avoided until he matures, but if you meet someone mid-late 20's or older doing this craziness (Sadly, I had the "pleasure" of dating such a creature), leave right away because the relationship will turn emotionally-abusive quickly.

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    • caughtinafairytale

      You're so right, he is a teenager and younger than me so I'm pretty sure he's just exaggerating everything. Thank you so much!

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  • Cuntsiclestick

    Theres really no reason to get with someone who likes to play immature mind games. Save yourself the headache.

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    • caughtinafairytale

      thanks!!!

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      • Cuntsiclestick

        You're welcome.
        :)

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  • eeeekkk

    I unfortunately committed this act a bit too often in the past...and I'm female. He could be trying to test your jealousy or willingness to want him or something. Either that or he is just trying to flash around his experience.

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    • caughtinafairytale

      I’ve tried to make it seem like i dont care at all, bc if he doesn’t like me that’s what I want him to think

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    • caughtinafairytale

      What if I was trying to act cool all those times he told me about those girls? If i was like oh good maybe you should date her? Don’t you think that if he did like me that would’ve set him back? I

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      • eeeekkk

        I feel you. I get myself stuck in these kind of situations sometimes. Perhaps confront you if he does like you if that's possible or even hint at it? It's all so confusing I know.

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        • caughtinafairytale

          Yeah, I guess I'll try to start being more sweet at him instead of the friendly bullying relationship we have, or if he keeps being rude I'll just stop everything. Thank you so much!

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          • eeeekkk

            Sounds good, hopefully it pans out well

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  • Nikclaire

    He's trying to impress you. Boys are stupid.

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    • caughtinafairytale

      Hahahahaha they are, thanks!

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  • SKDM007

    he probably sees you as a really close friend, maybe even a sister hence the close bond and even flirting. i think hes just friends with you i doubt its anything malicious and he probably practices moves etc on you as you are female and if your reaction is positive so will the bitches he tries to go for, until they chew him up and spit him out

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    • caughtinafairytale

      it definitely could be but I doubt we could be called close, thanks!

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  • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth

    If I were you id just have sex with him and not have a relationship anymore.

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  • STAIN! We need your help on this one.

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    • Dr. Stain, general psychiatrist in criminal behavior here.

      Don't worry IIN guys I'm not here to psychoanalyze anyone, we already know ya crazy.

      I think this guy talking about other chicks is of a few reasons. One reason is of a beating chest type behavior similarly seen in apes. Its a alpha act making others believe he is a manly man, although this is the biggest act faked. Another could be to make other females jealous in the hopes to speed up the courtship and get the lady under the sheets. My theory is, he is suffering from Stupidyoungcum displeasure!

      Thank, Dr. Stain

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      • Lestat565

        I completely agree I tried to convey that. But I think you have done a much better job at what I was trying to say

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      • caughtinafairytale

        thank you so much Dr, very helpful

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        • That will be $1,780... cash

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    • caughtinafairytale

      What???

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      • He’s probably asleep right now, but Stain’s an expert on these types of things.

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        • caughtinafairytale

          Oh okay, I’ll wait

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          • 👍🏻👍🏻

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