I think my partner is emotionless!

I think my boyfriend is emotionless. He shows no emotions. He never thinks, never shows when he is happy, sad, lonley, upset, if he loves me??

I dont know what to do.

Im forever asking him what he is thinking about and he dosent think..... I cant understand him. Im worried that Im going to fall outta love with him because I cant read him.

Does anyone have any advice??

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  • iamyouandyouareme

    there is no asnwer here.
    unfortunately he might just be a person who doesnt express themselves... you cant change them-- if you find you need him to be more open about what hes feelings, its time to move on.. you cannot turn a pumpkin into a beautiful carrige..

    im sure you are a water sign that needs more affection, and attention (not in a bad way of couse) but someone who can shares things with you and be open in expressing feelings.. and believe me life with someone who cant do those things-- is very unfufilling.

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  • tylerjay

    lol, all so fukky. ive figured him out now, and its all good. we have a baby together now, and things are great. thanks for all the advise!!

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    • tylerjay

      ohh and how do i remove this story??

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  • randomjelly

    What. The. Shit. I'll have what the poster above me is smoking.

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  • Platinum719

    He doesn't think? lol...

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  • beatrik

    this sounds bad but this a a sign of phsycopathy. if he never shows any empathy towards people this could be the issue. you should read into this more and if its correct break up with him.

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    • Saerain

      Yeah, except that psychopathy requires more than your girlfriend thinking you're emotionless. Otherwise, every calm male with a manic girlfriend would be locked up.

      I'm just saying that's not a great suggestion to make based on anecdote.

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  • Zebras.are.zee.SHIZ.

    How did he get enough emotion to ask you out and START a relationship in the first place?

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  • Yes but does he fuck good?

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  • Saerain

    He doesn't think? Did you kill him?

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  • Alaskaraven

    Is his name Mark?

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  • bhoomika

    there are many possible reasons for this...
    1. may be hes no that involved into you
    2. he doesnt know how to express
    3. is it really necesary to express everything
    4. not sensitive enuf to understand what u trying to convey by expressing things..
    5. lazy enuf to think upon such things..
    6. have no emotions at all..then what to express..!
    many more...

    p.s. lemme know his sunsign...i might give u possible solution ;)

    cheers !!!!

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  • rambertron

    sounds like the typical guy tbh, just involve him more, or bring your situation up mid conversation

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  • gaelicwolf

    I don't get it. If he shows no emotion, how did he end up becoming your boyfriend in the first place? Doesn't that involve "having feelings for" someone?

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  • FlyingSheilds

    Guys are trained from birth not to express their emotions. Girls aren't.

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  • Well why did you fall in love with a person who either doesn't share much of himself with you, or is just an empty vessel to start with?

    Advice: don't waste your time trying to explore or change him - expect more for yourself & move on - the guys a dud (for you).

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  • WayOutThere

    Stop asking him "what he is thinking about." He's probably very irritated by you constantly doing so. This is far too intrusive a question to ask, especially if he is intelligent with a very active mind. He is telling you that he isn't thinking about anything, just to get you off his back. (If you must ask, be more specific in your question: E.g., Are you thinking about...? Are you worried about...?)

    It is normal for men to show less emotion than women. Most men experience less emotion; some control their emotions better; some have a very good "poker face." Don't worry about this--this is perfectly normal. It's part of being a man.

    I get the sense that you are insecure. And, this lack of feedback from him is making you very uneasy.

    For reassurance, look at other indicators in the relationship: How is the sex? Does he kiss you? Is he affectionate? How does he respond when you are affectionate with him? If you tickle him? If you smack him on the butt?

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  • ernst230

    read the book "he's just not that into you"

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  • DehGoobaLife

    I would say that you should try to talk to him more often. Get him involved more in your life.

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  • Ok first thing don't leave him second thing don't stay with him what these people do not account for or realize is that he might be a psychopath they are driven by sexual desire and that could have been the reason he went to you in the first place not saying you had sex imeadiatly psychopaths plan ahead sometimes years ahead but if I were you I wouldn't do anything to anger him it's entirely pssible you could be his trigger that cause him to become a serial killer.

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