I think my mom is sick

I'd go crazy if I had that many people living in my house too. Why don't you have a job again? That's a lot of mouths to feed and whatnot.

Bad part is...YOU have her genes. So its probably going to come out in your life too at some point.

DO people understand the word summarize? Holy shit I don't want to read your book.

Shes just a hoarder. BTW that story is way to long, i lost motivation half way through. Srry

I just couldn't motivate myself to read even half of that :(

i dont think it's normal how much you talk

Wow, that was alot to read... Don't listen to some comments, they just want to be cruel. From what you said, i believe your mum is sick... I think she is sick of having you and your daughter at her house, THAT'S NOT YOUR FAULT, I can't stand having people in my house, Have you been there long??? And about getting a job, I am guessing you don't have or trust anyone to babysit? And childcare pretty much wastes all that money you earn working! You need to get on your feet before you sort out a job!!! I think you should tell your mum you are going on a holiday and go stay with someone else? If you can, just for a week or two? It sounds like your mum needs her home back? with me, if someone comes in my house and doesn't put things back where they pick them up from, I get frustrated, I can't stand visitors for too long!!! Your mum sounds like me, I bet she complains a lot??? After the 2 weeks, hopefully your mum will have calmed down, ask her if she wants you and your daughter to come back and she should say yes, tell her you have been thinking of moving so she isn't so stressed, cause it seems like any little thing you do, will probably anger her? I think it is wrong for your mum to take your stuff, do you pay rent? Maybe she expects more from you... I hope everything is working out with you, I will check in every now and then... I really feel for you, and your daughter, I hope she can be potty trained soon so nappies don't take up your budget?.. I found, by moving my daughter from her bed in the middle of the night to the potty/toilet, she would just go automatically and wouldn't wet her night nappy. It was so helpful... Hope everything works out, will keep checking... Keep smiling no matter what, sounds like your daughter has a great mum:)

Thank you.
So today when i went to court-there was a stand in judge AGAIN!!! but this time it was a female, and she STILL told me I(MOTHER) have o pay for my x to see my daughter!!!!(visitations) i told her i am on welfare and i have no cash!!!!i don't work!!
and she said i hear all sorts of excuses you still have to pay!
like WHAT THE FK!!!!
i am so angry the JUDGE REALLY EXPECTS ME TO PULL MONEY OUT OF MY ASS!!!!

So afterwards my x was talking to me and i didn't respond i just stayed quiet and ignored him and did not make eye contact with him. he said I am sorry for everything i put you through.
i don't believe him-anything that comes out of his mouth is a lie.
(remember earlier long time ago i told u i don't know how he got my new cell number)
so like 5mns after he texts me that i can text him on this number.....2314124324(random numbers)
anyhow so later i texted him and told him i don't believe that he is sorry for what he did to me, and that if i meant the world to him, he would have never done that to me in the first place. and ontop of this if his daughter also meant the world to him, he would have quit the drugs, drinking, and dropped all of his so called friends for her and I in the very begining.
he texted me back saying he wants to help us, and i told him you need to give me child support or you can take it up with the county system next week when they show up at your door. and he said "i have a number in mind"(to give me money) and i said "It better not be under 350 a month" and he said 300 and said NO FORGET IT. an then he said "okay 400dollars a month" and i said okay FOR NOW but later i expect way more than 400.
and he was like okay.
so he is going to give me 200 on sat then 200 in another 2 weeks.

I will not cancel the child support through the system until he pays me consecutively for 4-6 months straight.
So we are going to set up arrangement to have visitation outside of court because i can't pay for that sh.t!!!
he gets unemployment and gets like 900-1000 a month.
i told him "SERIOUSLY MOVE INTO YOUR OWN APARTMENT,DROP ALL YOUR SO CALLED FRIENDS, PAY Child support, AND WE WILL BE ON TALKING TERMS THEN, BUT UNTIL THAN WE AREN'T ON TALKING TERMS.

Also stay calm in court if you stay calm and he gets irrational it shows the judge how unfit he really is. I know you will but I had to throw that in anyways. Also you should be able to leave the county ask for that. And when the dept of child support services handle the money it's the best thing ever

I remember going through he'll with my ex not to the extreme as yours but he was still awful!!! I hate that other moms have to go through it. Im so excited you went to the solutions next door and good luck with your court date today!!!

One last thing I appreciate that you think about me often. and it means a lot to me that someone is willing to listen to me and take the time to give me advice, and comfort me even if it's just writing a small response. it helps me get through these tough hard times

So get this. last night on Nov 7th
My x's father called me and my x is speaking to me thru his father-he is trying to convince me to set up arrangement with him so he can see our daughter unsupervised, outside of court. WHAT HE THINKING THAT I AM DUMB???
i told my x's father HELL NO AS LONG AS MY X REFUSES TO BE A GROWN MAN AND TAKE RESPONSIBILTY FOR HIS DAUGHTER FINANCIALLY , AND HE STAYS ON THE DRUGS HE CAN STAY THE FUCK OUT OF OUR LIVES!!!
i said your son(my x) by court order has to come up negative on the drug tests, and oay child support. until he shows that he can be a grown responsible father, and man than he will continue to not be in our lives
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Seriously though on a side note...
my x he seriously think i am retarded to let me him see my girl outside of court????if i allowed him to do that i would lose full custody, and he would be able to prove that he is a fit father(even tho he isn't)
Fuck that FOOL!
---PSSSS: I got a letter from child support today. CS is officially after him to pay up. i should be getting money soon. hopefully next month. i fkn need it. the cash aid i get right now is not even enough to last 3 weeks. i get like 500 only. 200 goes to gas for the entire month- and 300 diapers and clothes(for my daughter)he has to pay 350 minimum. and if he gets a job they will make him pay more.
god i pray to god that he ends up in jail, so that 1) i can move out of county and 2) go to visit my family in the east coast.
my x is trying to black mail me thru his father by saying "if you let me see my daughter out of court then i will sign the papers stating you cantake her out of state to cvisit family in the eastcoast. fuck that because that puts me at risk of losing full custody!!!
all i have to is wait it out in court and be patient. he iwll end up in jail because he doesn't work right now and if he does he gets paid under the table. and regardless if he works under the table or not-if he does not pay up monthly he will go to jail no matter what.

so my x is contesting the child support,spousal support, and the criminal restraining order, and the family restraining order. PFFfftt pppaahahaha
what a retard!!!!(is all i have to say about him contesting everything)
Court is this Wend-Nov 10th
I will come back on here that day and let you know how it went.
on friday i went to the place called Next Door Soltuions-it's a place where people who have been in abusive relationships go for counceling
-i went there talked to a councelor, and she wrote a letter to the judge stating that the crininal restraining order must be modified to "NO PEACEFUL CONTACT"
i had requested a modification to it before(criminal restrainingorder)n but the judge refused to modify it. but now that i have this letter from Next Door solutions, the judge should change it. and THAT COURT DATE FOR MODIFICATION REQUEST is NEXT WEND(17th)
everyone is telling me that with that letter Next door wrote to the judge -the judge WILL modify it. and when it gets modified my x will LOSE ALL HIS RIGHTS to see my baby girl.
the worst is now over(the break up etc)
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Damn auto spelling on itouch.. Just ran into this post.. How is everything going? Is what was supposed to be written

I just tab into this post how us everything going?? Sounds bad with your mom how about now with your ex? Dint you have a court date coming up? Sorry haven't been able to get online as much I work for a sports team and were in season which equals to me having no life until April. Lol but I think of you and hope things are better

i still don't get it.
what are you trying to tell me. please rephrase it in a more completed and comprehendable way.

Sounds more like your her mom.

I am 26 and my mom is somewhat similar where if she doesent like something shell bitch at me and literally start screaming. and cussing at me in front of my 2 yr old daughter. That is totally unacceptable, and if u know shes stealing dont confront her seeing as though shell only deny and yell back. Try getting out of there and stay with a friend until u have enough to make it. I am on welfare too and that can help u out meantime...just get away from all the bull shit u dont deserve it

Thank you

Yeah unfortunately it is hard to get jobs but if you lower your standards and don't be picky at all you will find one. I'm not one to talk though lol even when I have to look for a job I'm still a little picky. Not a fan of 3rd shift O_O

I looked at what the others said and was quite shocked! But they are kind of right maby you should lower your standerds and get a job unless it is ridicuasly bad afterall it will all add up. I mean even if it pays crap a little money is better than nothing right?
But as far as Your Mother goes I dont think she's mentaly Ill just mental... maby a bit vain with a extra bit off bitchy on the side.
She sounds horrible but you need to try and ignore her. If you are sick of it and have had enough than i think it would probly best to get conselling. And it would probly be a good idea to move out as soon as possible when your money is a bit more stable. I feel you should know that my Mother is exacly the same, you need to remember that there are others like you all over the world you,are,NEVER,alone!
I wish the best for you and you daughter bye!

im trying to get a job

I agree with other posters...get off welfare and get a job. People ARE hiring and if you have to lower your standards (fast food/etc) then do it and get out of their house. Blunt...but true.

^Too long didn't read.

does that mean anything? wtf

He said "Tl;dr" ^^^

Tl;dr

i am only responsible for myself and my daughter. i only feed my mouth and her mouth
and as for getting a job i have been trying so damn hard for over 2 months and nobody will hire me because i haven't worked since i gave birth to my baby girl 2 yrs ago.

continuation of my story here:
-my mom has to question me every time i go to a friend's house she has to demand who's house am i going to and where do they live and she has to meet them before i go. like seriously what the fuck. (sorry i am being blunt right now) i am 25 yrs old. she tries to tell me "no you can't go to your friend's house" does not matter if my friend is a guy or girl.
-i am going through a divorce right now
all she does is stress me out even more.
she invades my space/privacy, she constantly bickers and screams at me. i could be sitting here reading a book in my bedroom, and she will walk in and scream at me that my bathroom is fuckin disgusting. btw i keep it clean as hell. sometimes it just gets dirty again because my brother will shave and hair gets all over the place. who cares though right i mean who cares who makes the mess. i am always the one cleaning my bathroom anyways! so it doesn't matter. like i can clean it the same day and she will come the same day i have cleaned it and still say this place is disgusting.
-she went on vacation once for 3 days, and i cleaned the entire kitchen when she was gone. i mean it was freakin immaculately clean-my father said i did a good job keeping the house nice and tidy. my mom as soon as she got home in less than 1 minute she is screaming and whaling on me that the house is filthy and all i do is sit on my ass all day.
i am a stay at home mother on welfare. my father supports me 100%. my mother supports me 0%