I think my dog makes me depressed should take her back

All my life i haven’t really had much of a desire to get a dog, but when i got my own house with my fiancee, I recently found myself wanting a dog, so i put it on my wish list.
A few month later my fiancee said she will get me one for my birthday, so we found this beautiful husky on dogs trust and we fell in love i was beyond excited and couldn’t wait, i went and did all the shopping to prepare for her i did loads of research and couldn’t wait. we chose out own name for her and did many visits to see her which made us even more excited.
However a day or two before we got her i started having second thoughts I didn’t think we would logistically be able to look after her. The money, the walks, having to leave her on her own.
We still went on and adopted her because we both fell in love with her.
Upon having her home she is a very energtic dog and couldn’t be any better. she is perfect for a husky.
A week in and i found my self feeling negative thoughts towards the dog, not that i wanted to hit her but, or the toiling in the house the chewing of things, it was the fact i felt guilting leaving her with other people, i couldn’t cope with not being able to do anything because of her and having to constantly watch her and which i couldn’t understand because i wanted her so bad and she is a perfect dog.
After googling “i think my dog is making me depressed” i came across people whom felt the same way, people was saying wait and give her a chance you will feel different.
It has been another week and if anything i feel worse, i feel like my dog is running my home, and i know its not her fault and i know she isn’t but i can’t help but feel this way.
Another issue is we have to leave her alone a lot which is a issue as she don’t like being on her own so we tried having family look after her but after a while they found it difficult too, i soon realised we haven’t spent much time with lola and it is unfair on her, our lifestyles just don’t fit in with her which i know sound awful because it does, but it is unfair on her we will have to leave her alone a lot of the time and she need someone who can give her more time of day and attend to her needs.
Not only do i feel like giving her back to dogs trust will be better for me because of the way i feel, but it will be better for her so she can go to a home that will be able to give her what she needs and give her the time she needs.
I feel awful in myself that i feel this way after taking her and giving her a home i am now wanting to abandon her but i feel like if i keep her just because i feel to guilty to give her up i will end up resenting her and that will be even worse for her, not only will keeping her make me more depressed it will make her depressed too.
I feel it is in the best interest for both me and the dog for her to return because i know dogs trust will find her a home that she will have the attention she needs.
i know a lot of people will hate me for my decision and people will make comments like ‘ you should of thought of this before you got a dog’ and ‘ how can you do that’ and ‘ you should of done more research.
but no matter how much research you do or what ever else you want to say, i though i was ready for a dog i really wanted it and i thought i thought through everything but this experience has taught me i am not emotianly or physically ready for a dog and it took me to have a dog to realise this and i feel awful that she has had to come home to our home for me to realise i can’t cope with her.

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  • dirtybirdy

    I read a third of the way through your story and skimmed the rest,, as much as you wanted a dog, you should have waited until it was a better time, when you have more time. It's not fair on the poor beast. And she may stop chewing and all that in time, but it's a new situation for her and she's alone alot, so she needs time to adjust, and proper leadership. You should have considered breed as well. Huskies need a lot of exercise and attention. They are stubborn and need a solid leader. Not the right breed for you, it seems.

    I do understand your plight, though. I have 2 pitbulls and recently had to move, but luckily, I'm in a position where I can make enough time for them. I took on the responsibility not knowing what situation the future may hold, but I'll be damned if I give up my babies because of my own problems.

    If you do give her up, I offer a hug and my condolences. I couldnt imagine having to do that :(

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  • Murun

    I got a dog from a blacksmith. As soon as I got him home he made a bolt for the door.

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  • S12207

    I see this is an older post...what did you decide to do?

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  • Tealights

    In my opinion, I think you guys should stick with it. No amount of preperation will ever get you ready to be a parent of any kind until you experience it. So yeah, your pup will feel sad sometimes, and so will you, but you keep at it and work with her. Once you guys work everything out, it'll get a lot better.

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