I think my bff might not like guy's after all...

Okay, I have a best friend, she's been my best friend since the 3rd grade. (For the sake of the argument we'll just call her Melanie). We do everything together. And everything has been great, until this conversation we had. We were in her bedroom one night, we were both 15 at the time. We were just talking. About school and music and whatnot when suddenly, out of nowhere, she asks this. "Amy, do you think you're straight?"
I was taken aback. To me that was a very random, and off topic thing to ask.
I coughed and asked. "What?"
Melanie looked at me and asked again, "Do you think you're straight?"
I answered slowly. "Mel, I don't THINK I'm straight. I KNOW I'm straight."
She regarded me for a moment and then turned her attention back to the window.
I was silent a moment before I spoke again. "Melanie, that was very random question. Why do you ask?"
Melanie looked down at her hands folded in her lap. A faint blush painted her checks and she kept her eye's away from my gaze.
"Well, I-I don't know. I just, well I was wondering. That's all."
I was curious for a moment but I let it slide and we slipped back into our previous conversation.
Its been two years and I hadn't though about it much since then. My conclusion on the subject was it was just that Bi-Curious phase.
But, lately, its been creeping back into mind.
I noticed that Melanie NEVER wants to cosplay, or roll play a female. Like when we character select on a video game she always picks a male. And she never wears feminine clothes. If anything she wears more guyish clothes.
And the other day we were watching TV. I think it was Oprah or something and she just randomly put her arm around me. And I don't mean in the buddy buddy way. It was the in-the-dark-movie-theater-with-your-boyfriend kind of way. I froze, but didn't move 'cause I didn't want to hurt her feelings. So, after 20 minutes I excused myself to the bathroom and when I came back she didn't do that again.
One day last summer, we went to the mall so I could pick up some boots. I found nice knee-highs with three inch heels and I went over to a stool to try them on.
When i got them on I put one leg up on the stool to examine it. Incidentally, my skirt hiked up about two inches.
"What do you think?", I asked.
She regarded my boot but then, I SWEAR, her eyes went past the boot and up my thigh.
She coughed and said. "They're nice."
So, I guess my question is do you guy's think that my bff might be into girls?
And if so, how should I handle it if she admits this to me or even tries to initiate something between us?
Even if this turns out to be true, she'll still be my best friend. I don't care if she likes girls or not, as long as she's happy.
I just want to know if I'm crazy for coming to this conclusion or if anyone thinks so too.
Thanks so much.

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  • Charmo

    Fuck this is hot

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  • k1d

    ... "Even if she is" is what u should tell her.

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  • k1d

    What you said at the end of your story starting with

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  • sassymmmm

    Did u talk to her abt it

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  • KimmyKhaos

    too many comments to read I read a couple and they were stupid. I am bi. Listen Imagine you in her shoes, She knows your straight but she may not be she might be into you but she wont try to push it on you. I hated when I confessed I was into chicks to my friends, I lost a lot of them because of it. See with my friends that are straight I wont try anything but I am like a guy when I see a hot ass chick in a mini skirt Ill look! I mean guys would too, whats the harm in looking I mean really? she didn't lift the skirt or harass you so whats the big deal? She asked you straight up, Do you think your straight? and you answered straight up. So do the same to her ask her straight up! Are you into chicks at all? If you dont want to or your too scared try it from a different approach this one involves some white lies. Say OMG I met this chick and she is really nice, ppl dont like her cause she is lesbian that is so stupid, shes cool as fuck and she already said she doesnt try anything on her friends doesnt she sound cool? and then see how she reacts if she doesnt say she is bi or les or straight in a couple days than ask straight up! K? (; heres my myspace myspace.com/_kimmy2t2_ add me to talk to me more about it. or you can have me ask her, just give me her myspace. ill tell her shes hot and ask her orientation and than Ill tell ya I wont mention this at all to her. (;

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  • i wear guys clothes all the time, and looking in certain places doesn't mean she likes girls nessiserally, there a lot of reasons for it, i've made glaces like that, and i am pritty sure i am straight, thing is if she is gay then she'll admit it when she's ready.

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  • sexybabyy

    normal!!!!!!!! me nd my bff r alot more..well..vulgar, in a word.. we finger each other all the time, but thats just because we like how eachother's tongues feel on our pussies, not because we r lesbian. just try it once and keep it a secret. if she accepts the invitation then u'll kno.

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  • MissAimi

    You should make it clear, without accusing her, that you would support her no matter what. I'm have this same issue in reverse, so i know that if she is gay or Bi then shes terrified your relationship is going to change. If you do want to ask her, do it in a way that makes her feel like you already know so she doesn't feel like shes shocking you.

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  • eXigrrL

    Would it matter to you if she was a lesbian? Cuz if it would, I'd just not talk about it. If it wouldn't, then tell her that you support her and stuff (after you talk about it, and she says she is, if she is)

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    • xXSallyTheUndeadRagDollXx

      No, it wouldn't matter to me. She's my best friend and I love her. I just want her to be happy. My problem is whether or not she's afraid to admit it out of fear of how I might react.

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  • You've got a great relationship going for you. Its OK if you are not comfortable broaching the topic. You can say lots to reassure her that as her bff you are there for her, will talk about anything and accept and support her.

    You can also take or create opportunities to let her know that you are gay/lesbian positive. I'm not suggesting going overboard, just create a trusting space where she can feel safe in her relationship with you.

    If she is lesbian, and you don't really know, you could imagine how terrified she might be to be rejected or judged by someone as important to her as you. Anyway, letting her know where you are at gives her the opportunity to come out in her own time & way, if she is in fact lesbian.

    Either way, straight or gay, she has a great friend in you.

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    • xXSallyTheUndeadRagDollXx

      That was very insightful advice. Thank you so very much. :)

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  • shortbrit22

    hm that last comment might have been sucha good thing .. but hm .. well .. lets see . .I"m bisexual .. and well people find me straight .. and well .. you know i'm nto affraid so i guess i'm not sure how she would do it but you never know .. she oculd be bi .. or lesbian or straight but if you think she's like got that move for a girl then yeah .. i mean .. ask her .. just b like "so what's your dream date like?" and if she doesn't really answer righ thtne go "hm .. what kinda guys you like?" and she doesnt' ask that .. just think and go "do you like girls too?" :) Hm .. i would've been shocked haha .. but you know if y' all best friends y' all should like .. tell each other evrything .. man i remember htis chick i knew oh she was bi but she didn't say ntohign til one night and i was like "i got a strap on too" and she goes "omg that is like MY FANTASY!" and i'm like "huh?" knowing the fact she wants to fuck a girl . .hahahahhaha .. and she's liek "oh yeah!" lol so see .. haha

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  • While you 2 sit near a computer open some lesbian porn "by mistake" and see how she reacts.
    if she puts her head away right after you turn it on shes ok.

    if not and you see that she like it ask her if shes lesbian or maybe Bi.

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  • dmcrew

    she is sorry but she does like girls idk if she is bi or gay but yes and u may like he as more than a friend just experiment is my best advice and if u think its weird dont cause it will make her uncomfortable around u and u dont want ur bff to uncomfortable with u and support he sexuality im a guy and straight just be nice about everything and ignore anything she does like look up ur skirt 85-90%%of homosexuals wont try to make a move on a person they even think is straight but ur friend might be part of that 10-15%% that would make a move so just if she does if u want to experiment and see if u like girls or just her as a girl in a homo way then just go with it but if u dont like it just ask her to stop i assure u she wont make anymore attempts to have sex or date u anymore but she will still be comfortable but u might want to have a talk with her after u find out shes a lesbian and let her know that u are fine with it and support her sexuality but u dont like her anymore than a best friend and that this isnt going to change anything between u 2

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  • Jen118584

    Sounds like she may be more into girls than guys, in my opinion. She has probably been struggling with it for a while now and has no idea how to admit it to you for fear of how you'd react. Why don't you just approach her about it? Just ask her straight up and don't make a big deal out of it. Make sure she knows you're straight but that you fully support her no matter what.

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    • xXSallyTheUndeadRagDollXx

      Yeah, I've thought about it. I just need to work up the nerve to ask her. That will NOT be a comfortable conversation but maybe if she knows I support her maybe she'll be more open about it.
      Thank you for your helpful advice. : )

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