I think i've been conditioned not to like hot women?

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I'm an ugly duckling story. I used to be extremely unattractive but I changed all that in college. Funny thing is that I still find nerdy girls
and "alt" girls really beautiful. That's not a problem for me, I like what I like. I used to look at it like... hey if they're not mainstream enough in looks for most guys that just means more girls for me. It didn't bother me. At the same time I wasn't going for low hanging fruit either. Might have gave myself a douchey mental pat on the back but largely I just didnt think about it. Except I realize now that I don't like ANY traditionally hot girls... ever. Unless they've got some feature that makes them super unique, which some might call a flaw in certain cases, I'm not into it. The thing is that I've started to wonder if I'm just still afraid to go after the type of girls I didn't think I could get before. Like I still just don't think I can do it. Makes me think of the archetype of the dude that doesn't like confident women.... except with me it's beautiful women. I find that they all sort of look the same, blonde, strong angular features, straight hair. A lot of the time I can't even remember their names after I meet them and they seem really dull. Where as sometimes ill talk to one of the non traditional girls and they seem to have way more going on. They're less predictable. At first I thought I was just into thier personalities more, but now I wonder if part of it is me being conditioned against traditional good looks. Also I'm not white... so maybe thats why the traditonal white goddess isn't my thing. Still.... is this normal?

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  • CountessDouche
    8 years ago | pl

    I think it's lovely. Why bother assessing the reason why you are attracted to whomever you are attracted to... as long as you are making a personal connection? I'm sure we can all delve deep into notions of past relationships and media and deep seated highschool issues to try to find the root of physical attraction, but at the end of the day, it's highly irrelevant. Who cares? It doesn't sound like you're writing people off or glorifying them based on looks alone- it sounds like you are attracted to personality traits as well as physical characteristics; I see no problem with this.

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago | pl

    What's not normal is that all I hear is looks looks looks. What if you connect on an emotional level with a traditionally beautiful girl? Who the fuck cares about looks anyway? There is more to a girl than her looks for christ's sake, and its time guys start realising that.

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    • Splithead
      8 years ago | pl

      Well then you didn't read.

      "A lot of the time I can't even remember their names after I meet them and they seem really dull. Where as sometimes ill talk to one of the non traditional girls and they seem to have way more going on. They're less predictable. At first I thought I was just into thier personalities more"

      Also if all you hear is looks looks looks from guys then that's probably normal.... because you keep hearing it everywhere.

      Anyway, I don't have any questions about the type of girl I like personality wise. Thats why I'm not asking a question about it. But I was wondering if my assessment of personality has been biased against traditionally good looking girls because of thier physical features and my own insecurities.

      All I'm hearing from you is defensive anger... thats definitely not normal.

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      • [Old Memory]
        8 years ago | pl

        You're right, I didn't read the whole post. Why? Because it was a fucking novel. Didn't even read your whole reply, because once again, a novel. By the way, I didn't ask whether you thought anything about me was normal or not. Some of us, don't really care what strangers on the internet think.

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        • NeuroNeptunian
          8 years ago | pl

          So let me get this straight, you're going to bitch about a post that you didn't even read, and then somehow blame him for your laziness? And then you're going to bullshit and say "some of us don't care what strangers on the internet think" when your stories are massive novels of you licking your own lady balls about how grown up you are and attacking anyone who doesn't share your point of view?

          Does any of this make sense or is your head buried so far in your crotch that rational judgement just flies right over it? I don't know where this new wave of chicken-shit teens came from but you guys need to go back to whoring for likes on deviantart or facebook or tumblr or whatever other god forsaken cesspool of stupidity you came from because you're not wanted here.

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        • Splithead
          8 years ago | pl

          Let me get this straight, you're on a website called isitnormal.com, where people come to get and give advice to and from people on the internet, but you dont care what people on the internet think?

          Also if you couldn't be bothered to read my post.... why comment on it? Why are you even here?

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    8 years ago | pl

    I am in the same boat as you, in a way. When I see traditionally "hot" women, I think of all of the money and spare time she must put into her looks to get that way, how much attention she probably gets and how she's probably living a soft lifestyle (I don't wear expensive clothes as at any given moment, I would end up working on a car or out in the woods or doing first aid on someone's grandma... All of which has happened before and frequently).

    Everything I said ties together whenever I see one of those women and think... "She looks like a boring one", because, what else can you be when you spend that much time and money on your appearance and little actually out living?

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  • pusssyeater
    8 years ago | pl

    What bugs me the most is that people still relate physical attractiveness to intelligence. There is no relation whatsoever.

    "Nerdy" or ugly boys and girls aren't smarter than "hot" or good looking ones. Being ugly doesn't give you a deeper personality, being pretty doesn't make you dumb.

    In your particular case, seems "alt" girls are just your type, pal. That's fine. Has nothing to do with your appearance or skin color.

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    • Splithead
      8 years ago | pl

      Well a lot of people who are really good looking never have to rise to the occasion so to speak to get by. For some it becomes easy to pass a class with minimal effort or get others to agree with your terribly thought out argument. This does not promote critical thinking. Also if knowing the hottest clthing trends and makup tips are what get you further in life, you're more likely to read up on such things than other things which have less bearing on your life. Unintelligent is perhaps the wrong description, I could say that thier intelligence is specialized in areas of which I have no interest

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  • PandaBitch
    8 years ago | pl

    Eheee~ everyone has their own taste , beside , the one who will date that kind of girl is you not others.. so it's normal, desu (- w -)/
    Hope you find your true love someday .. mukyyaaa~ 0(> v <)0

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  • Icyblueeyes
    8 years ago | pl

    You're being humane and truthful to yourself that's all.
    Ofc not all married wives are smoking hot why you ask even ask this if it's normal.

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  • reminiscent
    8 years ago | pl

    I think this is normal...not everyone is going to be into the same things. You just find nerdy girls looks and personalities more enjoyable.

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