I think i might be a lesbian?

Hello,

I am a girl (obviously). I’ve been questioning myself for a long time, and I think I might like girls.

When I think about my future with marriage or relationships, my brain pretty much always thinks of a girl. I’ve thought about it, and if I had to choose a relationship with a girl or a boy, I think I would choose the girl.

When I imagine my future, but with a dude, I find myself feeling pretty uncomfortable. I don’t feel any attraction to them. I would have guy friends still, of course, because you can make friends with whoever you want, and I wouldn’t count gender towards my friendships. I just wouldn’t get into a relationship with guys. My friendships are mostly with females though, I just feel more at home with them (also some are cute).

When some other people in my grade talk about guys (like who’s cute and stuff) in school, I immediately feel disconnected from the conversation. It’s like a little voice in the back of my head goes “*gasp* What about girls?? I find they’re much more attractive”

Maybe that’s just me, I don’t know. I guess I’ll have time to figure it all out, but a little help wouldn’t hurt...

Is it normal?

P.S: I also don’t think I feel any sexual attraction. Like, towards anybody. I just kind of just go “ewwww” at the thought of it. I don’t think I would want that.

Is It Normal?
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  • Look, no one can know but you. Just go about life and don't stress it. Overthinking this is pointless and ultimately you already know if you are or not. Forcing asexuality on yourself will not change anything other than to ruin your life.

    You might be lesbian, bi or straight, only you know and it's all ok. Dont worry about it. It will show itself when the time is right.

    Hang in there.

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    • I’ll try, thanks. :)

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  • Maybe you’re asexual? You said you weren’t really attracted to anyone in a sexual way, maybe you should check it out.

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    • Possibly. I’ll explore a bit though.

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  • In a world that is sexist against men,- "sexism" in this case includes inherent repressions- you got nothing to worry about....assuming you live in a Westernized country. Now, if you were a gay or even bisexual guy, you may have to worry about how most people (exception being myself, as I'm not a piece of shit who believes in this nonsense known as "double standards") then you may have something to worry about.

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  • Fucking gay.

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  • Nothing wrong with being who you are.If you truly wonder I'd say try try things with both then you might know as there's nothing wrong with trying things. But what do I know I'm straight goth and single.

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    • Yeah I could try that. Thank you. ☺️

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      • and just so you know us guys aren't all bad and some think sex is weird until they try it i dated a girl who was bi once best girlfriend i had i also dated a virgin girl afraid of sex once she tried it she started to really enjoy it so good luck

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        • Thank you! :)

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          • you're welcome and a bit of advice just be open and honest with all you're with about everything may I ask where you're from miss

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  • Only time will tell. I used to question my sexuality as well, assuming I was lesbian. I'm actually Bi. I caught feelings for a guy friend unexpectedly. He didn't return my feelings but that's another story.

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    • Yeah that’s true. I’ll find out in time. Thank you. 👍

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  • Be who you are and don’t worry! Nothing wrong with being lesbian or bi!

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  • TLDR: You're normal. I suggest you try not to sweat it, and give yourself some time to figure out what it is you really want before involving another person.

    Surveys have found that more than 50% of women have fantasised about having sex with another woman, so your thoughts are not at all unusual.

    It sounds like you're pretty young, so you must be aware that peer pressure is a very big factor in how people your age behave. I'd be willing to bet that some of those girls who talk about guys all that time and some of the girls you know who never talk about guys have the same thoughts about girls as you do. It's just that they don't say anything about that because they're afraid of how it will be received.

    If you're in your mid-teens, it's possible that you just haven't sorted out what it is that you actually like. Some people are clear on their preference from a very young age, while others take some time to figure that stuff out.

    You also need to understand that sex isn't an either-or thing.

    Although lots of people like to view the world in black and white terms because that makes things simple, it's not the reality, and it's definitely not true about human sexuality.

    I believe the best way of thinking about sexuality is to imagine that everyone has three adjustment knobs in their head. One is labelled 'Male' and 'Female' on either side, the second is labelled 'Intensity of Desire', and the last is labelled 'Flexibility'. The respective settings of those knobs varies between people. For some people, the settings remain pretty much fixed for life once they hit adolescence. Others find that the settings drift over time. And it's not uncommon at all for people to refuse to recognise that the knobs are set in a particular way in their heads due to social pressures, only for them to realise years down the line that they've been living a lie.

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    • Thank you, this helped. :)

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  • I would say you are gay yes. It was my imagination that ped to my finally transitioning. When I thought of my future I was always girl. When i forced myself to think about it as. Guy i just hated it. Didnt feel right everything it was just wrong.

    That's what led me to get over my fear of being an ugly non passing tranny, best damn decision of my life. I'm not hot by any means. I'm cute and pass to most. And I couldn't be happier.

    Before I had no reason to live. Nothing in life made me happy I was just going through the steps. Now I wake up happy and usually go to bed happy. I actually enjoy life. Now I dont want my life to snd were as before I simply didnt care at all. I'm not scared of death but I'm certainly not welcoming it anymore

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    • Yeah, I think about girl too.

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      • Huh? I dont like girls. Curious kinda but that's it.

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        • Ohh, sorry I misunderstood. I thought you meant you thought you liked girls in the first sentence. Still proud of you though. 👍

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  • You do sound like a lesbian in my less than humble opinion. I have had more than my share of unsatisfactory relationships with men, but other females don't do a thing for me.

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    • Hmm, maybe. Thanks for your opinion. :)

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  • Watch porn! Who do you flick the bean and cum at?

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    • That could help I guess.

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      • There ya go.

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        • Well, I don’t really do it anymore, but I imagined a girl.

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          • Then I think you are lesbian and this is normal. Hook up with a girl, see how it goes.

            Why would you not masturbate anymore? Thats just crazy talk.

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