I think i'm going to die alone

Everyone around me has someone friends and family members are married and have kids of their own. I have only ever had one girlfriend in my life and it didn't last long and ended horribly. People keep saying that I'll find the right person and I hope that that's the case but I'm almost 25 and I'm still single. Is something wrong with me I am social like I said I have a lot of friends but it feels like I won't find anyone. It's depressing to think that I might die alone dose anyone else have this problem.

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  • Everyone dies alone.

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  • Relax. You're only 25. You'll find someone in time. No one dies alone. You won't either. Best,

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  • Its normal.

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  • You're still young. I know several people who didn't meet their spouses until their 40's or later, and this is becoming increasingly more common. It is also better to wait for the right person than to rush into a relationship or marriage that is not going to work. You will likely eventually find someone, it just might not be right away.

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    • I honestly think that I will go insane by that point.

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      • Go to A.A meetings. I know a lot of people who go there to be around people cause they are lonely. They aren't alcoholics. They just go.

        Honestly that is the only hope for you. Pray to God, seek your spiritual center or whatever. I mean, at this point I wouldn't even recommend a pet.

        You need to learn how to be around people and A.A is a good place to do that. And...if you're a drunkard like me, then all the better.

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      • I understand your feeling, I really do, as I have felt that way as well. It really is worth it to wait for the right person. You can still pursue dating of course, but don't try to rush into anything and just let it happen naturally. If you want, you can try other avenues like online dating. However, it's not a big deal if you don't meet the love of your life by a certain age, and it will happen when it's meant to. Take it from someone who once made the mistake of rushing into the first relationship I could that it's completely not worth it and will make you much more miserable than being alone will. I'm not saying that's what you're going to do, but it's easy for people who feel very alone and desperately want a relationship to do this. I was once told that things sometimes tend to happen when you're not looking for them, and this might be the case with you.

        Do your best to learn how to find happiness within yourself, as you will never be able to find happiness with another person if you're unable to make yourself happy. It's very hard sometimes, but it will make your life much better and help ensure that your future relationship(s) will be much healthier and have a much better chance of lasting. It's completely natural to want a partner, but they should not be the sole provider of your happiness. In other words, learn to be able to be happy alone first before you seek out a partner. This could be part of why you struggle with dating. It was for me.

        Good luck, I really wish you the best!

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  • Yep. It's tough to be sexually undesirable. But, you'll get used to the idea of being a solitary person. It might help to aim lower. Women are very selective about boyfriends, but many of them are more open minded about fuck buddies.

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    • I'm not into the idea of just sex I want a real relationship I don't care how the woman looks if she has a good personality etc. I don't just want a sexual relationship.

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  • Get a goldfish, or one them flea bag things.

    Are you terminally Ill? Cause 25 is still young, still plenty off time for more relationships to end horribly.

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  • I get depressed about that a lot. That's why I decided to start getting more in touch with my creative side recently

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  • Listen, you get what you expect. It's that simple. As long as you keep expecting that you won't get anybody, you wont. So you need to train your expectation. I would start by expecting things which are more easily evident to happen, rather than a relationship. Once you are in the habit of that you will notice that having a positive expectation about a relationship will increase, and with that also the likelihood for it to happen.

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  • Woah....this post has 100+ comments.

    No way you’ll die alone with how much attention you can drag to yourself!

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  • 29 and single. I'm hoping I'll be taken out before I get too old to be capable of looking after myself. God is with me. He will be there for me when I die even if noone else is.

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  • I think I will fi d my love, and we will die together

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  • Don't sweat it. If you are a girl you will be fine. 35 is our golden years. Just make sure we get some young cum fillled guy that is under 25

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  • I've been there. It sounds like you have poor self-image/confidence problems. You say you have loads of friends, but the truth is, friends don't always become relationships despite what the movies say. My advice would be to broaden your horizons. Focus your attention instead on what you want to do with your life non-relationship orientated. Where do you want to get in your career? What hobbies have you wanted to start or continue? Focus on those. Become who you want to be, and one day, you may just find someone who slots into that. There is a lot of pressure to find someone and get married and it all has to be done at a certain age, bla bla bla... but we all do things at different stages. Be your own partner. Be your own validation.

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  • 25? the fuck is wrong with your situation? Worst case scenario is that you get hit by a truck tomorrow and die alone.

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  • Dude im sure youre cool. Get some hobbies that are more social , go to a gym maybe . Idk 25 is still kinda young to settle down anyway. And maybe theres something to be said about dying alone. My dad died in front of me and my siblings and yeah it sucked for us but it must of sucked for him to just to know we were there . Again idk dont take what i say too seriously . Youre 25 just have some fun man!

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  • I feel the same way. Most chicks aren't my type and the ones that are are hard to find. But I'm cool with it because I don't want kids anyway. Grew up in a shitty dysfunctional family and I'll unintentionally fuck their lives up. It would be nice to grow old with someone though. Can't disagree with that.

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  • I am 26.
    I have a boyfriend.
    We want to marry eachother.
    I still feel lonely sometimes.
    The thing is, you may have a happy life with a wife and kids and grandkids and sunsets and sunny sundays and what not. You are still going to die alone. That is not the problem.
    You do something meaningful with your life if anything matters. 25 anyways is a crazy year. It shall pass. And for chrissake stop comparing your married friends with yourself. No one has to get married just because they are 25. 25 is the new 20 allright. Hell, 30 is the new 20. Anyways, take this as an opportunity to focus on making your career better. What do you think ?

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    • That's all I do work eat sleep workout work eat sleep and it all feels empty I live alone and it feels like a prison most of the time. I see how others are happy and they keep telling me that I should find someone and that things would be brighter. My own fucking sister says constantly that if I had a girlfriend then I would be less weird, my father and brothers say that I might be gay they say they are joking but I doubt it and it's pissing me off. I get what your trying to tell me and I get it I'm not looking for the perfect relationship I just want a relationship so I don't feel out of place and constantly depressed it may not fix it but at least I could have someone there for me.

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      • You have to know this.
        You. Don't. Have. To. Be. With. Someone.
        Because someone has to tell you that your friends that have girlfriends/wives are not any less miserable than you are.
        You will mess things up and find yourself in a much worse condition because you were so much quick to get into some relationship that now you don't know what to do about it.
        What is worse than not being married ? Yes, it's getting a divorce.
        Really, another person is not supposed to make you feel less lonely. That is not a reason to be with anyone. Have you thought of cutting short of relationships that are not good for you instead ?
        You sister and your dad. Stop meeting them often. They don't seem like a supportive family.
        Confront them.
        I think your problem does not lie in the fact that you are alone at 25. It could be your unsupportive family and friends. You keep distance.

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        • I have thought about it like that yes but my family means well....most of the time I don't just want to cut them off I could do that with friends and my friends as far as I know haven't been assholes like my family members have, I know that relationships are not the sole reason for living like I said to a few other posters I'm not just looking for sex and I understand that a majority of relationships aren't perfect like I said I was in one and it ended horribly, I am just sick of coming home to a empty house all the time I will be honest with you I have started talking to myself and it's not healthy I'm even starting to see things that aren't there. I honestly can't take being alone some people are able to handle it better then others but I don't think I am able to.

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  • Wholly crap dude I'm in the exact same situation. Is creepy

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  • There are incel forums you could join.

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    • Incels are a bunch of creeps who clearly have a crap ton of issues they don't want a true relationship all they want is sex all they want to do is possess a women. I'd rather kill myself right now then be compared to those evil insane fuckers why...no how dare you even think that I'd fit in with such scum is beyond me. I may have low self esteem but I'm not like those moronic basement dwellers.

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      • I don't know, just seems like a good percentage of posts on here are grown men who have a hard time getting laid.

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  • Well my SO is obsessed with knives and I’m very neuroatypical. Sometimes I find it nicer to be alone.

    (Nobody worry I’m fine k)

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  • I am no stranger to the feelings you have described, but the thought of dying alone doesn't frighten me too much. I think I have somewhat accepted it. I feel that it's better than to be with the wrong person. What's worse than being alone is being with people who make me feel alone.

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    • You sound like everyone that I know and It makes me feel more hopeless.

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      • It's not hopeless. Single people are whole people. We all don't necessarily need someone to complete us despite what society, and the media tell us.

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        • Some people have the stomach for it I don't if I knew my life was going to be full of loneliness I would just stop wasting my time on this world.

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    • I feel the same as you, but I’m 28 and have accepted a lonely life.

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      • Like I said to the poster above some people are designed that way I just can't live that if that's my future then what's the point.

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      • Honestly, I don't think being alone is as bad as the judgment, and pity that some people in society express towards solitary people.

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    • LOL good one, now ya just upset him more.

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      • Hehehe...sorry for the other comment...it's just because of your useless/ unempathetic answer to one of my posts earlier.
        How old are you kid ?
        You take everything so much lightly.

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        • jeez, why no reply on that post SO I KNOW WHAT YA TALKING ABOUT :)

          Dude you can't take everything so serious, you will stroke out or sumfin. Look I'm not being deliberately mean or trying to hurt people, but yes I have a weird warped sense of humor. Ill try and tread more lightly around you in the future.

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