Everyone knows that people have all had varying degrees of sadness and depression, no one is questioning that or lessening its value. I believe what the OP is simply saying is that when listening and trying to lend an ear to some depressing people, they would rather keep complaining and not try to work on their sadness instead of trying to do something to fix it. Yes, we don't know what caused the sadness and we can't always fix the problem like that, nor is it even about fixing. But for the listener, nothing is worse than someone who always complains, blocks out any good words or thoughts about themselves and generally brings you down every time you talk to them. A listener needs a piece of mind too and lending an ear here and there is okay but having to listen to the same vent 24/7 will make someone think "Oh great, here they come again" instead of "Oh hey its them, what are they up to?".
I think I just realized why some depressed people anger me so much.
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Everyone knows that people have all had varying degrees of sadness and depression, no one is questioning that or lessening its value. I believe what the OP is simply saying is that when listening and trying to lend an ear to some depressing people, they would rather keep complaining and not try to work on their sadness instead of trying to do something to fix it. Yes, we don't know what caused the sadness and we can't always fix the problem like that, nor is it even about fixing. But for the listener, nothing is worse than someone who always complains, blocks out any good words or thoughts about themselves and generally brings you down every time you talk to them. A listener needs a piece of mind too and lending an ear here and there is okay but having to listen to the same vent 24/7 will make someone think "Oh great, here they come again" instead of "Oh hey its them, what are they up to?".