I think i finally met the right girl, is it normal that i am still a virgin?

I am 21 years old. I have never had sex or even kissed a girl before. It never bothered me that much because I thought that I haven't met the right girl. But now I have been, I guess you could say going out with a girl for a couple of months. I really like her and I get the feeling that she likes me too. We hangout all the time and get along really well. I think about her all the time and I am really attracted to her. When I'm with her I want to snuggle up to her and kiss her etc. I have had several chances when we were alone, but I'm scared. Since I have no experience with girls I feel confused and I am really nervous about starting a more physical relationship. But I am afraid that if I don't do something I will loose her because she will think I don't like her or something.

Is It Normal?
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  • I agree with Danny Kanes. Tell her that you haven't experienced these things. I'm nineteen, I haven't had sex or even kissed a girl. People have asked me if I'm a virgin before, and I reply "Yes, I haven't even kissed a girl before". I'm not proud that I haven't but I don't see it as anything to be ashamed of. I can see why people might be uneasy about it, you are with someone that might of already done all these things and that you might not live up to their expectations and make a fool of yourself, I'm no expert, although I'm sure everyone went through that stage.

    Tell her, she'll most likely understand.

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  • If you've been dating for a few months and not kissed yet then it's time to step up.
    I don't know if you're holding hands yet, but that's always a good start, if you are, then try putting your arm around her waist. Just small steps, sitting closer brushing her hand by reaching for the same object etc. Slowly reduce that personal space barrier and the kiss will come. You seem like a decent kid, good luck man.

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  • Tell her

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  • Dating for two months and no kiss?? Don't take this the wrong way, but are you Mormon?? You're 21 and confidence is something that you must apply to yourself. If you continue to act timidly and you don't see yourself worth her while, then you shouldn't expect her to see that either. Honestly I would've told you to lose my number if there is no kiss on the 3rd date. A guy not making the first move isn't "cute" it's rather pathetic and by providing excuses does not exempt you to not man up. Also this comes off as weak and I have to tell you that the reason why "nice" guys finish last is because you mistake that as the only quality you need and fail to include being confident, outgoing, charismatic oh and looking handsome too. Nobody wants an Omega male.

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  • Dude, just go up and kiss her, the worst that could happen is she says no, but seeing that she sticks with you all this time, she'd most likely let you kiss her.

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  • Just do it. Once you've done it, you'll do it like all of the time and it'll be a natural talent.

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  • You are so darn cute. Tell her you like her and take it slow. No rush.

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  • I'm almost in the same boat. Just be confident and go for it.

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  • It sounds like you're both taking the slow path. that's OK. Sometimes jumping right into sex takes the fun out of the pursuit of it anyway.

    i'd say... tell her the truth and see what happens. it's very possible she's just as afraid as you are.

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  • Tell her. If she really likes you she wont have any problem with it.

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  • I was nervous about this kind of thing in my first relationship. So nervous that I never did anything and I DID get broken up with because she thought things weren't going anywhere and that I didn't like her.

    So what I'm saying is, it is probably in your best interest to do it. Unless you have a really strange girl, two months makes you way overdue for a slight physical relationship.

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  • Think less and do what you have to do.
    Don't be a loser.

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