You might be hitting her cervix, or an IUD (birth control device) if she has one in. There are also a few other different issues that can make sex painful for a woman that would have nothing to do with you or your size or patience level, etc. Please believe her about the pain though, that's not something most people would be likely to lie about.
I would mention that you're worried because you don't want to hurt her, and ask more about what it feels like and what she thinks might be causing it. It might be a medical issue that's worth talking to a doctor about, or it might be something as simple as not thrusting as deep if she has a low cervix. She will likely have some idea of what's going on, and probably will feel more comfortable talking about it if she knows you're legitimately concerned for her and not taking it personally.
I think a lot of people in her situation would be scared about asking you to stop, either because they just feel bad and don't want to deny you sex, especially when you're already in the middle of it, or they think you'll reject them if you aren't "getting any"/enough. It could also just be that she really wants to keep going and so she's trying to push through.
In any case I think the most important thing when talking to her about it is to be really clear that you're actually concerned and not just bringing it up because you're frustrated with the sex/lack of sex, or because you're insecure about your own body or performance. And it's probably best to do this during a calm moment during the daytime or whenever you aren't normally having sex, instead of waiting until the next time it happens.
The only thing I'd take a little issue with is you saying that she most likely has some idea of what's going on. Obviously, she knows what she's feeling, but a lot of women don't know much about their own genital anatomy — particularly the internal bits.
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She does not feel all that tight though. But when we are having sex it feels like I am hitting something.
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You might be hitting her cervix, or an IUD (birth control device) if she has one in. There are also a few other different issues that can make sex painful for a woman that would have nothing to do with you or your size or patience level, etc. Please believe her about the pain though, that's not something most people would be likely to lie about.
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I do believe her but she claims that its ok. How should I go Bout talking to her about it because she clearly is getting hurt.
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I would mention that you're worried because you don't want to hurt her, and ask more about what it feels like and what she thinks might be causing it. It might be a medical issue that's worth talking to a doctor about, or it might be something as simple as not thrusting as deep if she has a low cervix. She will likely have some idea of what's going on, and probably will feel more comfortable talking about it if she knows you're legitimately concerned for her and not taking it personally.
I think a lot of people in her situation would be scared about asking you to stop, either because they just feel bad and don't want to deny you sex, especially when you're already in the middle of it, or they think you'll reject them if you aren't "getting any"/enough. It could also just be that she really wants to keep going and so she's trying to push through.
In any case I think the most important thing when talking to her about it is to be really clear that you're actually concerned and not just bringing it up because you're frustrated with the sex/lack of sex, or because you're insecure about your own body or performance. And it's probably best to do this during a calm moment during the daytime or whenever you aren't normally having sex, instead of waiting until the next time it happens.
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A very sensible and knowledgeable response.
The only thing I'd take a little issue with is you saying that she most likely has some idea of what's going on. Obviously, she knows what she's feeling, but a lot of women don't know much about their own genital anatomy — particularly the internal bits.
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True, there's also a good chance she doesn't know. Hopefully if she's able to describe what's happening and when, they can narrow it down.