Not really an unmanageable problem. ADD. I also think too much- and analyze it too. I constantly [and involuntarily] run scenarios in my head.
For example, someone I know texted me recently, "I'm at [local sportsbar] waiting for the Orange Bowl to start."
I hadn't heard from him in a week, and then it had been a totally generic mass text: Hey, it's Mark. My new number, I got an Iphone. So I was ticked to begin with. And it starts.
First, I think, "So what does he expect?" And I start thinking of things to text back: "So?" or or "And...?" "What's your point?" or "Thanks for sharing." or "Who is this? Did I meet you on New Year's Eve?" [pretending I didn't enter his new # into my phone...] etc. Then, I start thinking, "WTF is wrong with him?" He's not even putting as much effort into this as you would a casual friendship [much less a close friendship].
And, from there, I thought, "What does he think? That, KNOWING I dislike sports, I would want to drive across town to WATCH HIM watch a 4 hour football game??? Idiot." And I'm thinking I might get bored and start playing pool with someone while numbnuts watches the game, as it WILL be a bar FULL of men. And I DO like that place- it's new, decent wine, a place out of the house for a bit.
In the end, I stayed home, didn't answer, as it was likely a better solution than driving there, then drinking [empty calories], having to leave my truck, the appearance of playing games, or allowing him to THINK I am still into him.
There you go. Allot of us think too much. In the end, there wasn't really much to think about. I try to use logic. I didn't really care, so I didn't respond. Thinking is a habit, and I prefer it rule me over emotions.
I think about things to much.
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Not really an unmanageable problem. ADD. I also think too much- and analyze it too. I constantly [and involuntarily] run scenarios in my head.
For example, someone I know texted me recently, "I'm at [local sportsbar] waiting for the Orange Bowl to start."
I hadn't heard from him in a week, and then it had been a totally generic mass text: Hey, it's Mark. My new number, I got an Iphone. So I was ticked to begin with. And it starts.
First, I think, "So what does he expect?" And I start thinking of things to text back: "So?" or or "And...?" "What's your point?" or "Thanks for sharing." or "Who is this? Did I meet you on New Year's Eve?" [pretending I didn't enter his new # into my phone...] etc. Then, I start thinking, "WTF is wrong with him?" He's not even putting as much effort into this as you would a casual friendship [much less a close friendship].
And, from there, I thought, "What does he think? That, KNOWING I dislike sports, I would want to drive across town to WATCH HIM watch a 4 hour football game??? Idiot." And I'm thinking I might get bored and start playing pool with someone while numbnuts watches the game, as it WILL be a bar FULL of men. And I DO like that place- it's new, decent wine, a place out of the house for a bit.
In the end, I stayed home, didn't answer, as it was likely a better solution than driving there, then drinking [empty calories], having to leave my truck, the appearance of playing games, or allowing him to THINK I am still into him.
There you go. Allot of us think too much. In the end, there wasn't really much to think about. I try to use logic. I didn't really care, so I didn't respond. Thinking is a habit, and I prefer it rule me over emotions.