I sometimes hate my kid cause he's like his dad

ive been in a relationship with a man i now totally hate and wish every day he was dead, he has alot of money and its what holds the family togeather as i spend my days feeling so much hate i find it difficult mixing with people or holding down a job i get fired because they say i need help and im depressed, so i took antidepressants and they are not working.
my partner has cheated on me 3 times and nearly every 2 years decides he wants to separate which leaves me and the kids totally smashed our whole world gets torn apart- but when he is in the house he likes to keep his money to himself and only spashes it around when it is the last resort, my youngest son has been to the hospital 7 times for serious injuries and his dad has never gone with him once i do everything and i mean everything for my sons, their dad does nothing but pay the morgage i pay all the bills and the food and everything else from buying and selling, hocking, centerlink loans and whatever else i can do to get by while i have no job.
my older son is now becomming more and more like his father he cares for noone else but himself and jokes and laughs when his brother gets hurt
im at the point i just hate their dad so much i hate my oldest son too now for being like him.
is this normal?

Is It Normal?
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  • I cant believe people are say bad things about you! Its waaay more important to be there for your kid, than to just pay the bills. You are more a parent than he will ever be. And i wouldn't worry about your oldest, every boys hero is thier father, that is until they figure out he's a dick.

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  • haha, it's because you're getting divorced, and you made a bad decision in having kids with this man

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  • Yeah it's totally totally normal. If my kid turned out to be like my bf I would hate it lol seriously though it sounds like you are in a really bad situation and I'm very sorry because trust me I'm in a similar situation. Everyone says "you are so stupid just leave" but they don't realize that financially it's not that easy. I hate my bf too he did things like cheat, abuse me etc. I just want you to know that I really feel for you I know it's a bad situation.

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  • You need to leave this guy. Money or no money make it work get on your own with your kids he is influencing them in a horrible way and the only way to Change that is to get them away from him and get a positive male figure in their life to show them the right way to act. Sorry sounds like your just using money as a excuse to stay and why your depressed if your really depressed make a Change no one is ever stuck

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  • Get a job, leave him and let the kids pick where they go. Sometimes families need to split because of things like that. I wished my mom hadnt been such an influence on me.

    Also- you should teach your kid to stop getting hurt. That many injuries is on you and bad parenting at this point. Pay attention to your kids instead of bitching about yourself. I can't decide if the problem is you or the husband. Probably both.

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  • you might have to lead the way out of this. do things for you. openly spoil yourself and look after number one. let the boys hear this often "what about me?" it will imprint and they will begin to think about you too and value your opinoins. also this "i don't want to cause i don't like....etc. any obkjection say "but i can't cause i don't like it.."
    next do the time and motion thing. suddenly run out of time for things you managed before put your thing first and then you will lose chuunks of time. time and motion quote that one often too. hope this help a little

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    • hey, i just read your story in detail. you have no job. if the kids are at school get a job problem solved also a good example for them

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  • I get your side, but this kid only has one mom, that's you. And he loves you. It's just in his genes, but he definitely looks up to you, and it would be a Shame if I knew my mom hated me because I'm like my dad, I don't like it either! Lol

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  • Well you picked the father so you have no one but yourself to blame... If I had a woman who couldnt keep a job i would treat her like shit too... You say he "only" pays the mortgage... like that isnt a bfd...

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  • I wouldnt pay for a lazy ass such as you. I like your bf he seems like a nice guy. You are a damn complaining lazy bitch who should work instead of always asking a nice guy to give you all his money that HE earned

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