I said i'd call her, but i don't want to... - any advices?

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Ok, so I went out to the club and met a nice girl. We spent the entire night together. At the end of the night, she hinted that she wanted to see me again, so I said that I would call her and set up a date. We exchanged numbers and so on... So my problem is that I am not interested in her at all. I was with her all night because I just wanted someone to dance and have fun with, and I said that I would call because I didn't have the balls to tell her the truth (big mistake...I know!). Is there a nice way of letting her know that I am not interested and I don`t want to see her again: Should I chat with her for a bit then stop..should I at least take her out once..or should I just tell her the truth: I`m thinking of not calling her and hoping that this will blow over (it`s a douche move, but I`m not really sure what I should do). What do you guys think:

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  • 8Serene8
    13 years ago | pl

    Hmm. Well I say since you lied about wanting to see her again that you at least owe it to her to call her once and tell her up front that you had fun but you aren't interested in her.

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  • 8Serene8
    13 years ago | pl

    ^She may not be happy but in the long run it's better than you stringing her along or not even calling her to let her know what's up. It hurts us less if you are up front with how you feel even if it sucks.

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  • jay77
    13 years ago | pl

    Get a backbone! Never say you will ring if your not gonna, ever!

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  • honestop
    13 years ago | pl

    Grow a pair and just tell her you aren't interested. Nicely

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  • Synopsis
    13 years ago | pl

    What's wrong with just being friends? You don't have to call her.

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  • andrian007
    13 years ago | pl

    It would be best if you call her and tell her you're not interested. She may be hurt but it's better in the long run. Guys don't understand sometimes the emotional damage they do on women when they promise to call but don't. Next time round, don't promise if you know you're not going to call! You'll just be hurting her self-esteem.

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  • Duke
    13 years ago | pl

    The fuck it attitude comes in handy for a lot of situations and this is one of them. Just say fuck it and don't call. Besides, you said yourself that you didn't want to.

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  • bleach_baby
    13 years ago | pl

    just dont call her. Imo meeting someone is a club doesnt mean anything and she wont be too bothered.

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  • StrawberryTurtle
    9 years ago | pl

    say u were drunk

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  • ladymantoloveyoulongtime
    13 years ago | pl

    hahaha grow some cahoonas dude

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  • kaoginda
    13 years ago | pl

    It's better if you just don't call @ all. If you call & sorta talk to her "just to be nice" that's gonna end up being more hurtful. You met her @ the club .. If she gave you her # with intentions of you being her future husband then she obviously needs a hobby.

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  • brpacman
    13 years ago | pl

    yu obviously led her onnn...
    a better question is 'if your so uninterested in this girl, why does it bother you so much as to nees advice'????

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  • aussiewolf
    13 years ago | pl

    when you call her, tell her that you are a jerk and you lied to her and beg for her forgiveness.

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  • Echoes
    13 years ago | pl

    Typically, guys don't call in such cases, but you can call her the next time you're planning to go to the club. Tell her you two are just..what to call that? drink buddies or club buddies and nothing more.

    This reminds me of the movie "He's just not that into you" (awesome movie), when the African girl assures her friend that the guy didn't call cuz he lost her number or got eaten by a lion. So call her or go play with a lion. :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    just go out for few days, maybe you;ll start to like her. or just be friends with her (nobody said shes in love with you)

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