Thank you but I really wasn't planning on telling her how I feel. I don't want her to feel awkward around me, plus I don't have any courage whatsoever. And the possibility of her not wanting to be around me anymore when she finds out is high. I really don't want that to happen.
I feel like fate is playing a game on me - I remember this lesbian telling me how she felt about me some 2 years ago. I told her that I don't ever want to be in a relationship with a woman and that I was sorry. She cried over me which I thought was really stupid. Now, I understand :((((((
the question you should be asking yourself is if you are really sure that the feelings you have for this woman are actually love and and not just a mixture between attraction, the fact that you look up to her, and an adoration you have simply not experienced before.
The thing that I am worried about is that you are still relatively young and therefore might not be able to assess properly why you are so attracted to this woman.
Have you been in a longer-term relationship before? And if so, do you feel the same way about this woman than you felt when meeting your ex?
Also, if you really feel love and attraction towards this woman I would first try to find out what her general sexual preferences are, as well as her current relationship situation ( by means of facebook, common acquaintances). Especially in your situation this is not stalking or creepy but just making sure that if you at one point decide to take the step and confess your feelings you will not be confronted by social difficulties from her side.
I've only recently found out that I like her. That's the thing about me, when I like someone it takes me forever to find out. I crush on people easily but that's it. I mean, it never gets to the point where I would think that I wanna be with them forever.
And well, I've only had one boyfriend before but I was with him for 6 years and I loved him a lot. I don't like flings, even when I was still a teen, I never went out with guys whom I knew I wouldn't have strong feelings for. But you're right, I am confused. I don't want to like her because of the simple fact that she's a girl. But I just do. The feeling that I felt when I first found out that I loved my ex is the same thing that I feel about her now.
And yeah, I have checked her facebook. I know that she's straight and doesn't have a boyfriend. I feel like she won't be interested if I tell her my feelings because of her being straight.
well at least you are prepared and aware of your personal interests, preferences and experience when it comes to relationships. You will have to talk to the woman, just don't expect a confession of everlasting love. At least you will have some certainty though.
I really really like her. I may even be in love with her. I'm a girl!
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Thank you but I really wasn't planning on telling her how I feel. I don't want her to feel awkward around me, plus I don't have any courage whatsoever. And the possibility of her not wanting to be around me anymore when she finds out is high. I really don't want that to happen.
I feel like fate is playing a game on me - I remember this lesbian telling me how she felt about me some 2 years ago. I told her that I don't ever want to be in a relationship with a woman and that I was sorry. She cried over me which I thought was really stupid. Now, I understand :((((((
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the question you should be asking yourself is if you are really sure that the feelings you have for this woman are actually love and and not just a mixture between attraction, the fact that you look up to her, and an adoration you have simply not experienced before.
The thing that I am worried about is that you are still relatively young and therefore might not be able to assess properly why you are so attracted to this woman.
Have you been in a longer-term relationship before? And if so, do you feel the same way about this woman than you felt when meeting your ex?
Also, if you really feel love and attraction towards this woman I would first try to find out what her general sexual preferences are, as well as her current relationship situation ( by means of facebook, common acquaintances). Especially in your situation this is not stalking or creepy but just making sure that if you at one point decide to take the step and confess your feelings you will not be confronted by social difficulties from her side.
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I've only recently found out that I like her. That's the thing about me, when I like someone it takes me forever to find out. I crush on people easily but that's it. I mean, it never gets to the point where I would think that I wanna be with them forever.
And well, I've only had one boyfriend before but I was with him for 6 years and I loved him a lot. I don't like flings, even when I was still a teen, I never went out with guys whom I knew I wouldn't have strong feelings for. But you're right, I am confused. I don't want to like her because of the simple fact that she's a girl. But I just do. The feeling that I felt when I first found out that I loved my ex is the same thing that I feel about her now.
And yeah, I have checked her facebook. I know that she's straight and doesn't have a boyfriend. I feel like she won't be interested if I tell her my feelings because of her being straight.
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well at least you are prepared and aware of your personal interests, preferences and experience when it comes to relationships. You will have to talk to the woman, just don't expect a confession of everlasting love. At least you will have some certainty though.