I really really like her. i may even be in love with her. i'm a girl!

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Like what's written on the title, I'm a girl. I consider myself straight even though I sometimes have girl crushes. I never thought I was confused before because I can never be in a relationship with another woman. For me, the thought of being in a relationship with another woman is just so unappealing. I even sometimes consider it disgusting (I'm not homophobic. Sorry, I'm not trying to offend anyone, it's just how I feel). Anyway, I've always considered myself straight because of a lot of reasons.

And then came her. I met her a few years back and before I didn't think of her so much. She's not beautiful, she's okay. She's shorter than me. She's older too. She's my tutor and she would always come over and teach me every saturday for 3-4 hours. Recently, I realized that I like her. She's amazingly smart and since she tutors me a lot. I realized that she's really cute. She's such a girly girl and she's kind and yeah. I feel like she's perfect. I just don't understand why she doesn't have a boyfriend. I mean, if I was a guy I would probably ask her to marry me, not date me. I keep thinking about her, it's creeping me out. I like her so much. It's the same feeling I get when I'm in love with a guy. I have never felt this way before. I'm not gay, I don't want any sexual relations with any other woman, but with her you know, I don't mind being a lesbian. And it's really creeping me out. I've never ever felt this way before, ever.

By the way, I'm 22. I dunno if that's gonna help.

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la_la_la_la

11 years ago

Hiya,

Don't tell your tutor anything. S he may feel the same way, but it's more likely that she doesn't. Then you'll both have all sorts of problems that you neither want nor need.

I've said I'd marry certain female musicians before, because I think they're that good. I'm not sure what this means either. I used to jolt when I heard their voices, & not be able to concentrate on anything while their cds were playing, & this still happens.

They're older than me too, & I wouldn't say they were the best-looking women in the world, but then I’m not stunning either. I wouldn't say all this to someone who didn't know me well.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Thank you but I really wasn't planning on telling her how I feel. I don't want her to feel awkward around me, plus I don't have any courage whatsoever. And the possibility of her not wanting to be around me anymore when she finds out is high. I really don't want that to happen.
  
  I feel like fate is playing a game on me - I remember this lesbian telling me how she felt about me some 2 years ago. I told her that I don't ever want to be in a relationship with a woman and that I was sorry. She cried over me which I thought was really stupid. Now, I understand :((((((
  
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  - plum6
    
    11 years ago
    
    the question you should be asking yourself is if you are really sure that the feelings you have for this woman are actually love and and not just a mixture between attraction, the fact that you look up to her, and an adoration you have simply not experienced before.
    
    The thing that I am worried about is that you are still relatively young and therefore might not be able to assess properly why you are so attracted to this woman.
    
    Have you been in a longer-term relationship before? And if so, do you feel the same way about this woman than you felt when meeting your ex?
    
    Also, if you really feel love and attraction towards this woman I would first try to find out what her general sexual preferences are, as well as her current relationship situation ( by means of facebook, common acquaintances). Especially in your situation this is not stalking or creepy but just making sure that if you at one point decide to take the step and confess your feelings you will not be confronted by social difficulties from her side.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      11 years ago
      
      I've only recently found out that I like her. That's the thing about me, when I like someone it takes me forever to find out. I crush on people easily but that's it. I mean, it never gets to the point where I would think that I wanna be with them forever.
      
      And well, I've only had one boyfriend before but I was with him for 6 years and I loved him a lot. I don't like flings, even when I was still a teen, I never went out with guys whom I knew I wouldn't have strong feelings for. But you're right, I am confused. I don't want to like her because of the simple fact that she's a girl. But I just do. The feeling that I felt when I first found out that I loved my ex is the same thing that I feel about her now.
      
      And yeah, I have checked her facebook. I know that she's straight and doesn't have a boyfriend. I feel like she won't be interested if I tell her my feelings because of her being straight.
      
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      - plum6
        
        11 years ago
        
        well at least you are prepared and aware of your personal interests, preferences and experience when it comes to relationships. You will have to talk to the woman, just don't expect a confession of everlasting love. At least you will have some certainty though.
        
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Mando

11 years ago

Try to accept your feelings. You don't have to do anything with her and it doesn't sound like you want to. But you don't have to freak yourself out about how you feel. Love is very powerful, and not confined to sex - and this isn't all that sexual.

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disthing

11 years ago

It's 2012 people!

Some boys love boys and want to fuck boys.

Some girls love girls and want to fuck girls.

We know this, yes? This is common knowledge now. Sexuality is a spectrum, there are bisexual, bicurials also known as bananas, lesbeans, gaydem, pan-oramic-sexuals that'll fall for and do anything visible to the human eye, a-sexuals who don't want to touch anyone down below including themselves, and the straighties who are only North to South.

Some people can be romantically interested in the same sex but not sexually, others can only be sexually interested in the same sex not romantically. OP you've just stumbled upon a girl who defied your previous assumption that you were straight. That's all. You fancy the knickers off her and want to marry her.

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Silentnight

11 years ago

Tell her how you feel. If she likes you too, experiment, but if you do experiment make sure you tell her you're not exactly sure on what your feelings mean, just in case she gets her hopes up and gets hurt. And if you both like it, have fun and be happy I say.

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FocoUS

11 years ago

Aww! That was adorable, reading that put a big smile on my face. What can you say, the heart wants what it wants.

Maybe try to clear the stress before you tell her about your feelings.

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shuggy-chan

11 years ago

call her maybe?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  lol! I don't want to. I know it's gonna creep her out. :|
  
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  - shuggy-chan
    
    11 years ago
    
    i was half serous half making a joke, this is crazy.... get it now?
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      11 years ago
      
      Hey, I just met you and I'm really sorry but I have to say this, I think you're crazy :O
      And yeah I understood the first time XD
      
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      - shuggy-chan
        
        11 years ago
        
        WELL as long as you know and i know hahhaahah
        
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Depression_Frustration

5 years ago

It sounds like you are bisexual. Don’t worry, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that! And she may not feel the same way, but that’s okay too. And I understand how you might feel confused and creeped out because you’ve never felt this way towards a woman before, but it’s nothing to be creeped out about. Also, just for clarification, from what you’re describing it definitely sounds like you like her or are in love with her.

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PrincessRaspy

11 years ago

And I think you shpuld flirt but not too much, so she kind of gets an idea. And who knows she might feel the same. And if she doesnt and ask you about it you could always say your just being friendly lol. I hope all works out for you!(:

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PrincessRaspy

11 years ago

I know exactly how you feel. Except the girl I have a crush is actually a lesbian. But for some reason I dont see my self with a girl, and if I did I would only want it with her. Dont get me wrong I love the gays, lesbians, bisexuals, all that. My bestfriend is a lesbian. She knows how I feel about this girl. When we text I honestly dont even want to text anyone else but her. I love the fact that when we talk we can always joke around and flirt. I wish she was single. She's such a sweetheart. I care so much for her. I know how you feel tho! But I think its harder for you because she's not bi. But neither are you. I think this is cute....and when I read I thought about the girl I have feelings for. I just considered my self bicurious I guess.

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alv1592

11 years ago

It sounds like she's a nice person and you admire her a lot. It's probably a good thing that you don't plan on telling her how you feel, especially if she's straight because it obviously won't go anywhere. There's no reason why you can't stay friends though. Even when she's done tutoring you, you can always keep in touch. Good luck.

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topper33

11 years ago

since you wrote this have you acted on it? and if not why not?

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  11 years ago
  
  I didn't. I don't want her to feel awkward around me. I really like her and would want her to find out but I'm afraid of how she might respond.
  
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  - topper33
    
    11 years ago
    
    lol its kind of funny becouse shes prob. feeling the same way. just give her suttle hints and see what her reaction is id bet it will be great.
    
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    - topper33
      
      11 years ago
      
      have you acted yet? if no why not believe me you wont affend her she would prob. feel rather good to find out how you feel towards her. she would be flattered im sure
      
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      - Anonymous Post Author
        
        10 years ago
        
        why do you seem so sure? I still like her lolll~ I feel really pathetic. she went back to her country and only responds to my emails less than once a month. I can't move on even when I told myself a million times that there is just no possibility of her liking me the same way. Or maybe you're right, I should just tell her so that it'd hurt more and maybe that way, moving on will not take longer than forever xD
        
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GoraIntoDesiGals

11 years ago

You feel comfort in her presence but if you don't feel like eating her out then you aren't bi. If you do then that's another story...

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I really really like her. i may even be in love with her. i'm a girl!