Dear Dahlia, if you could elaborate on "but since I just lost my job and home, and was even wrongfully arrested" maybe we could say something, the rest is just a normal part of growing up.
sorry please let me elaborate and thank you for taking the time to ask more questions: I had a job I loved and I am in a tumultuous relationship (I am currently gone temporarily to try and figure out what to do), and after an argument the other person called me an ambulance although I asked them not to. Well they ended up arresting me because I yelled at them to leave my house (offered to speak with them outside) because they weren't invited in and there was no emergency - the paramedics confirmed that. Well, my job had a strict attendance policy and they arrested me out of spite - the charges are already dropped but I still lost my job and we were still evicted for causing a disturbance obviously. The other person says I have no right to be mad, and can't see how the nonsense lead to our predicament. I am so unhappy in my situation that not only do I realize I don't know what makes me happy, I don't know what i want or don't want. Like I said I'm just stuck in neutral. I didn't know any more than I do now when I did have my home and job, but I seem to have even less direction now. Does that help? For someone who has a degree in English I seem to have more trouble conveying my thoughts than I do anything else - thanks again - dahlia-
Well, Dahlia, first off, sometimes losing everything will allow you to build everything from scratch. First thing I'd do is forget about that person and relationship with them, it sounds unhealthy and seems to throw you off balance. Second, I'd try and find a new job, whatever job, ANY job that will pay bills for any housing you find. Then, take a deep breath and think about what you want, while at least supporting yourself. From the sounds of it you are in no position to think about what you want. Get your basic needs met (home + food) and only then question your choices, past and future. One step at a time!
I also worry about my child. I am in no position to take her, what you are saying makes absolute sense, I should have known that all along. I'm sure a normal person would have. I have a place to stay in the mean time...but its 1700 miles away from my baby if I choose to not go back and endure the abuse with him...what should I do in your opinion?
I really really don't know who I am...is this normal?
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Dear Dahlia, if you could elaborate on "but since I just lost my job and home, and was even wrongfully arrested" maybe we could say something, the rest is just a normal part of growing up.
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sorry please let me elaborate and thank you for taking the time to ask more questions: I had a job I loved and I am in a tumultuous relationship (I am currently gone temporarily to try and figure out what to do), and after an argument the other person called me an ambulance although I asked them not to. Well they ended up arresting me because I yelled at them to leave my house (offered to speak with them outside) because they weren't invited in and there was no emergency - the paramedics confirmed that. Well, my job had a strict attendance policy and they arrested me out of spite - the charges are already dropped but I still lost my job and we were still evicted for causing a disturbance obviously. The other person says I have no right to be mad, and can't see how the nonsense lead to our predicament. I am so unhappy in my situation that not only do I realize I don't know what makes me happy, I don't know what i want or don't want. Like I said I'm just stuck in neutral. I didn't know any more than I do now when I did have my home and job, but I seem to have even less direction now. Does that help? For someone who has a degree in English I seem to have more trouble conveying my thoughts than I do anything else - thanks again - dahlia-
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Well, Dahlia, first off, sometimes losing everything will allow you to build everything from scratch. First thing I'd do is forget about that person and relationship with them, it sounds unhealthy and seems to throw you off balance. Second, I'd try and find a new job, whatever job, ANY job that will pay bills for any housing you find. Then, take a deep breath and think about what you want, while at least supporting yourself. From the sounds of it you are in no position to think about what you want. Get your basic needs met (home + food) and only then question your choices, past and future. One step at a time!
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I also worry about my child. I am in no position to take her, what you are saying makes absolute sense, I should have known that all along. I'm sure a normal person would have. I have a place to stay in the mean time...but its 1700 miles away from my baby if I choose to not go back and endure the abuse with him...what should I do in your opinion?